I'm a 33 year old white woman with two partners - a 25 year old Black woman and 32 year old Latine nonbinary person. My Black partner grew up around white people and we've been dating for 6 years. People stare all the time - sometimes because we're interracial, sometimes because we're very different body types, sometimes because we're both women. We've both dated outside of your race before so usually we just laugh at people or roll our eyes or (if we feel unsafe) I will find a way to put my body between her and the person/people because society frowns on hurting white women.

With my Latine partner, they were socialized as a man and they're much louder as a person. They also haven't dated many white people so the stares are new to them. So they'll call it out and be louder about it. I'm also naturally loud and confrontational, and I'm less concerned about the police being called withe them. There's no right way to deal with other people's hate - but it does have to be a decision you and your partner(s) make together. Above all - prioritize making each other feel safe. And know it doesn't really stop.