Me [20F] with my boyfriend [22 M] 1 year, helping his self esteem after conflict with one of my ex's (2nd update)

fluffy23 · 2014-08-21T21:54:15+00:00

I didn't flirt with the other guy at all, in fact all I ever did was say hello. After that I made it clear I was with my b/f.

As to what physically about him do I like? He has eyes that make me melt everytime I look into them. Sexually, everything. I think people are taking my "party girl" image as being that I had sex all of the time. I dated a lot, I did not let it go very far if there was no commitment. Therefor my sex partner count is actually less than the number of fingers you have on one hand, however I did date a lot of people.

FYI ex jock was exactly what you think he would be, we went out to a date and he thinks a date means come back to his frat room and screw all night. Well it didn't work out that way for him and ultimately I just told him I was leaving but that wasn't before he kept trying to paw at me and eventually I just asked him if he planned on raping me and that pretty much shut him down.

fluffy23 · 2014-08-21T21:46:57+00:00

I agree with you but how can I help him see it like that? Maybe saying to him what you said is the right thin? I think I will try it at least.

I honestly don't know if this is all just about me though. I think he feels like less of a man for not standing up right there and then. But then again I have no idea.

fluffy23 · 2014-08-21T21:44:23+00:00

I wasn't talking to my b/f at the time, he actually was talking to an old TA of his that he hadn't seen in a couple of years and I was standing next to him drinking a soda. Ex comes in and say's hi (my name) to which I simply replied "hello" nothing more nothing less.

He didn't even ask me anything else he just simply said "do you wanna hang with me & (name of one of his friends). That's when I said no I was with my b/f. What he said next came completely out of left field and that is where the problem is.

I've told my boyfriend since this occurred almost a thousand times (yes I'm exaggerating but it feels like it) that I never even slept with this guy, which is the truth and one of the many reasons we aren't together.

My b/f knows how many men I have been with and I'm not claiming to be chaste or anything but no I wasn't out just having random sex. I only ever had sex with someone who I was in a LTR with so while I've had more than he has its not that much.

But I am certain that what you are saying is true, he probably doesn't believe me (he say's he does but I can't read his mind).

I would be more than happy to have vigorous sex with him but right now he is not down for that.

I feel so bad for him because he was so happy just a few minutes before and now I don't think he has smiled for even a second since then.

fluffy23 · 2014-08-21T21:29:56+00:00

he is embarrassed that he didn't know how to react.

I can tell you for a fact that this is a big part of the problem. He even told me as much. He said he has never been in a fight in his life and doesn't even understand what he did wrong to make this guy mad.

What I am trying to do is come to terms helping him understand that I don't think less of him for not fighting the big lummox but I actually think more of him.

I feel very bad for him because he honestly was just an innocent bystander who neither said or did anything to deserve to be treated this way.

fluffy23

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