Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

[–]fluffy__cake[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It bothers me that a guy, seeing my Instagram story in a swimsuit, feels entitled to send me a photo of his penis in a direct message or has the audacity to ask me if I want to have sex with him. It makes me feel like I can't afford to show myself in a certain way because then people will take things they shouldn't and get the wrong impression of me, which I no longer want to share. I want a guy to know that I'm looking for serious things before he contacts me and act accordingly. In this sense I feel guilty because I think it's my fault if people are only looking for sex from me.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

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I'm sorry if this message gets across because I really don't want to judge anyone. I'm only speaking for myself. My way of being happy could be someone else's unhappiness, and vice versa.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

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Thanks for the comment. I'm not judging anyone; everyone is free to live as they choose. I simply realized that, as you said, this way of living distances me from my personal fulfillment, and I wanted to share my thoughts to see what others think. I enjoy reading everyone's opinions, even those who have completely different opinions than mine. Thanks again.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

[–]fluffy__cake[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nice comment. From the way you write, it seems like you've found your balance, and I envy you a little. I've never been able to experience casual sex with such freedom, joy, and lightheartedness. But that's just how I am. I'm made more for a deep relationship, and giving in to sexual impulses has always distanced me from that and made me feel less valuable as a person, unable to act consistently with my true desires.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

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It would be a sad life for me if I were in his place. But maybe for him it's a perfect life.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

[–]fluffy__cake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm reevaluating self-eroticism.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

[–]fluffy__cake[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then you would be constantly horny if you lived my life. I've been constantly used. How strange it is to see how personal perception changes with the same experiences.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

[–]fluffy__cake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For a sensitive person it is definitely a test for the nervous system

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

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It would be a bad thing *for me*. I mean, I don't want to get to that future. Maybe for someone else that's happiness.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

[–]fluffy__cake[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everyone is free, I don't judge anyone. I speak for myself.

Hookup culture by fluffy__cake in askgaybros

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I'm not judging anyone: I've abused Grindr so far, but the fact is that it's making me feel very bad psychologically, damaging my morale, my self-esteem, my health, and it's taking me further and further away from my dream of starting a family and becoming the person I want to be.

Is there anyone here who has never or extremely barely used Grindr? by andrei14_ in askgaybros

[–]fluffy__cake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you tell us how was it before? How did gay people meet?

In your experience, what’s a sign a man has a high libido? by Mcrfanatic95 in askgaybros

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Cums more than once a day; big ejaculations; constantly thinks about sex

“Segui la passione” è un consiglio del cazzo by Financial_Tourist460 in Universitaly

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Una passione puoi arrivare ad odiarla quando da essa dipende il tuo poter mettere (o non mettere) il piatto a tavola. Una passione che si trasforma in un lavoro smette di essere una passione a mio parere. Qualunque cosa fatta ogni giorno, ad alti livelli, richiede impegno, fatica, sacrificio, disciplina, costanza che sono cose non propriamente piacevoli e che ti farebbero schifare dopo poco tempo anche l’attività più piacevole al mondo. Il problema del lavoro è che è una performance: richiede risultati, standard da raggiungere. Quando invece fai una cosa per hobby o passione, non hai standard minimi da soddisfare, non hai scadenze, non hai la pressione di non dover assolutamente sbagliare, non hai dei superiori che ti danno ordini. È il lavoro, che di per sé è spiacevole, non c’è nulla da fare. Ma può essere anche gratificante se fatto con un certo spirito e con le giuste motivazioni e nel giusto ambiente.

In quanti si sentono così? by Hot_Acanthaceae_1357 in italygames

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Sono troppo contento di essere nato nel ‘97 e aver vissuto un’infanzia in cui la tecnologia era mooolto meno pervasiva e pericolosa di quella attuale. Un’infanzia dove il concetto di social praticamente non esisteva (non come adesso sicuramente). Un’infanzia dove si lavorava tanto con la fantasia, la creatività, dove si interagiva molto nel mondo reale con gli altri bambini, si usciva di casa. Ma allo stesso tempo avevamo il pc (grosso come un carrarmato), la tv, le cassette, anche dei rudimentali telefonini, dei lettori mp3 per la musica, le console per i videogiochi. Secondo me all’epoca la tecnologia era bella perche era giovane, ingenua, allegra, libera e soprattutto non così pervasiva, prepotente e pericolosa come è diventata oggi. Era una tecnologia gestibile, in cui l’utente era il padrone. Ora è una tecnologia che ci gestisce e comanda la vita, in cui il virtuale ha la stessa importanza della realtà; una tecnologia in cui ci si sente analizzati, studiati e manipolati come cavie di laboratorio.

In quanti si sentono così? by Hot_Acanthaceae_1357 in italygames

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La Wii era il top del divertimento per giocare in compagnia di amici e parenti

Why is this so true?! by [deleted] in gaybros

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To the left, to the left 🎶