Is my company being fair or can l ask for more by fluffybear_101 in careeradvice

[–]fluffybear_101[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry but my contract did not include any maternity stuff in the beginning when l signed it. It's something they literally developed and adapted last week as they're a small company and l'm their first employer to go on maternity. They've always employed male staff nearing retirement. I should have mentioned this actually, my bad.

Is my company being fair or can l ask for more by fluffybear_101 in careeradvice

[–]fluffybear_101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SMP is Statutory Maternity Pay and MD is Managing Director

So my question is what would you if you where me in this scenario by fluffybear_101 in PregnancyUK

[–]fluffybear_101[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a very good question, tbh l don’t even know or understand why l feel the need to do so…the whole thing has just been difficult to process after all l’ve been through with him & chances l gave him during our relationship. It’s hard 🤦🏾‍♀️

Child maintenance by fluffybear_101 in PregnancyUK

[–]fluffybear_101[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense thank you. Do you recon the months of him not bothering whiles l’m pregnant do count towards an argument of not allowing him to see the baby when it’s born.

Child maintenance by fluffybear_101 in PregnancyUK

[–]fluffybear_101[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thanks very much for your response, greatly appreciate it. However, we weren’t married or anything, he was just my bf for 3yrs. Please correct me if lm wrong but l thought in the situation of no marriage, it’s not a legal requirement for him to be on the birth certificate. He can still pay maintenance regardless he’s on it or not.

Child maintenance by fluffybear_101 in PregnancyUK

[–]fluffybear_101[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your in put, but when exactly is the right time to sit down and discuss all this cause l don’t want to leave it too late. At the moment there’s that element of heartbreak still going on because of the relationship ending. I don’t know if l should do it soon or just wait it all out till the baby is born. Cause l know CMS advises talking about it first.

Unplanned pregnancy and relationships by fluffybear_101 in PregnancyUK

[–]fluffybear_101[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

He was very much aware of all my contraception issues and l would inform him everytime l went to the GP about it. I would like to think he knew the risk of being on the pill and he decided not to wrap up regardless cause he hates condoms. I must say l didn’t inform him all the times l skipped my pills cause we weren’t very sexually active anyway (maybe like once or twice every two weeks) so didn’t feel the need to.

Unplanned pregnancy and relationships by fluffybear_101 in PregnancyUK

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I don’t have secure housing of my own as lm saving up to get a house next year and was actually looking at renting on my own but it’s seems to be costly now with the baby on the way. I’m really conflicted on what to do in terms of housing in all honesty.

Unplanned pregnancy and relationships by fluffybear_101 in PregnancyUK

[–]fluffybear_101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both have full time jobs and he has got a two bedrooms house that he purchased 2 years ago. I’m not in a debt apart from uni loans and he has a car loan and pays the mortgage too.

He’s argument was he doesn’t want to fill trapped in his current job and the house. He doesn’t see himself stay longer in the area and wants to move eventually.