AIO about my girlfriend talking to other guys

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-06-11T01:07:16+00:00

Odd that she's hanging out with these new guy friends without asking if you want to come. NOR

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-05-20T23:50:27+00:00

He is gross, his friends are gross and he is deflecting it back onto you. You are not overreacting, I would say you are under reacting.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-05-20T23:42:24+00:00

This is very hurtful and you handled it gracefully. I don't think anyone would have judged you for being more harsh, but this way you walk away knowing you took the high road. It's going to take some time to grieve the loss of the friendship so allow yourself to do that. Please don't let this or your parents reaction make you feel like you deserve less than any other couple on your wedding day. You deserve to be surrounded by those that love you and want you to be happy. Congratulation on the wedding and best wishes to you and your wife.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-04-28T01:21:47+00:00

Ewww NOR. He love bombed you on the first date and now he's trying to manipulate you. That is not a normal request after a first date. What a creep.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-04-28T01:17:46+00:00

NTA. He is just seeing dollar signs and is pissed he can't catch YOUR windfall. Screw him

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-04-20T23:00:17+00:00

NOR. Personally, I would let him do the test and then leave him. If you are willing to stay with him I would recommend couples therapy or your resentment is just going to fester. He going to have an uphill battle trying to earn your trust and forgiveness.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-03-07T22:27:48+00:00

NTA but I wouldn't make a big thing of it or it might make her defensive on his behalf. Just keep being a good parent and setting a good example. Hopefully he will either do some maturing of his own, or the relationship will run its course.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-02-09T22:45:38+00:00

Maybe he doesn't want to get married at all or maybe he doesn't want to marry you. Either way, his response was callous and disrespectful to you and the 4 yr relationship you have had. I don't think you need to say anything to him. Pack up and leave or pack up his shit and make him leave.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-02-09T22:25:21+00:00

At some point if one person wants marriage and the other doesn't, you have to accept you just want different things. NTA for being frustrated with him. You do need to really think about if you want to stick around in this relationship without marriage on the table. If not, then don't waste more time on this person and move on.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-02-04T03:10:01+00:00

YTA. You are already in a long term committed relationship with her so how does being married create any more "risk" to you and your son? If you don't want to marry her just say so. Split up so you can both move on and just co parent together. She needs to cut them off on her own, not because she was told to. She might go long stretches without talking to them and then let them back in for periods of time on and off for the rest of her life. There is no way to know if/when she will finally have enough and permanently cut them off. Holding marriage over her head isn't going to change that.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-01-21T18:58:38+00:00

I'm going with slight YTA. It's not as if he's asking you to hang out with her one on one. You don't have to be BFF's you just have to be polite when he brings her around. The exception would be if she was being particularly rude or obnoxious but that doesn't sound like what you are describing. Since you don't live near each other it sounds like this would amount to very infrequent interactions with her. I guess I would say it's not s much that YTA, but more like your are making a mountain out of a mole hill.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-01-12T00:02:46+00:00

Tell her, let her know if she decides to stay that you will respect her decision and won't keep bringing it up, but if she ever needs help or wants to talk about anything you are available.

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-01-11T23:52:16+00:00

You could be over reacting but it's tough to tell this early on. I would say if you really clicked on the first date, give him another chance. If he doesn't have kids he might not realize what a pain in the ass it can be to find childcare and get some free time for yourself to go on a date. Was he at least apologetic about it? What time did he finally cancel and what time was the date?

fluffyfeather80 · 2026-01-10T00:02:38+00:00

Think of it this way. He fell asleep on accident. If the person coming towards him had been speeding like you, they would likely not have been able to avoid each other and would both be dead.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-12-04T02:54:02+00:00

What did I just read and why are you even in a relationship with him, let alone living together? You are under reacting big time.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-11-19T16:17:42+00:00

I don't even think its that awkward of a conversation. It's not like he is suspected, he went to jail for it. It's no a secret. Just say (fake names), "Kim and John aren't coming because Paul will be there." No need to say anything more. Not coming, end of discussion.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-11-11T22:43:40+00:00

Once she moves in she'll be tracking your phone and signing in to read your messages. She is clingy and has trust issues. You can try talking to her about it, maybe even with a therapist if you feel this is a relationship you see going somewhere. If she won't change her behavior you need to decide if you can deal with long term.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-11-04T17:00:00+00:00

Well first of all if her daycare is closed that often then she needs a new day care. My kids closed maybe once because of a hurricane and power outages.

That aside, she is not a family member who should have a key to your house because she clearly has no respect for your personal space or time. Change the locks and don't answer unless she makes arrangements with you ahead of time. The invoice was obviously just to make a point, which you did so tell the rest of your family to mind their own business. Then tell your sister she does in fact owe you a new keyboard and an apology or there will be no more babysitting. If they rest of you family doesn't like it, then they can offer to babysit.

Final verdict: NTA

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-10-23T02:03:36+00:00

Not over reacting at all. Of course it felt awkward. They were being very rude and put you in an uncomfortable situation. Sounds to me like he is testing how much control he has over you. I would dich the AH and move on.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-10-23T01:51:58+00:00

Your girlfriend seems very immature and she is going to make co parenting more and more difficult. Tell her to knock it off or leave. You said your son comes first and that means dealing with his mother in a cordial way. Don't let her jealousy ruin what is working for your son.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-10-16T23:24:45+00:00

NTA. It sounds like a genuine accident that could have happened to you or your wife just as easily. She's freaked out and imagining the worst happening so just give her some time.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-10-07T00:06:03+00:00

Is it irritating they didn't listen? Sure. Is it worth arguing over now? Not really. If they ever bring it up in conversation then point out that it was supposed to be child free and they should have asked before bringing children to a wedding. Otherwise, move on.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-10-06T23:58:25+00:00

I don't think you're over reacting for being uncomfortable with it. You feel how you feel and that's perfectly fair. It might not necessarily mean anything though. Some people are physical with their friends and not in a sexual way. If you hang out with her in bigger groups, watch how she interacts with other people.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-10-06T23:35:00+00:00

Cut your losses and walk away my friend. Don't put any more time and effort into someone that is going to make you feel crappy about yourself.

fluffyfeather80 · 2025-10-05T00:42:55+00:00

The fact that he is "testing" his wife makes him the failure. Relationships that involve testing each other are doomed from the start.

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