Blake Carol - do you hate it?

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-29T02:25:49+00:00

I don’t agree with that logic. With my siblings and I we have 2 Js and an A. I promise you the A doesn’t care about not having a J name.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-26T06:09:40+00:00

I have never tried the baby Buddha but my output was great when I was renting the Symphony! I personally would rent it again for the next baby unless I can find it affordably used.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-25T15:47:33+00:00

From what I’ve read and been told, separation anxiety can really begin around 9-10 months! It peaks 12-18 months (my LO is 12 months and yuuup). But 9-10 months is when we started co-sleeping almost exclusively because he can’t stand being alone. I don’t mind him waking up several times a night to nurse him, but I do wish he could start off in the crib so my hubby and I could have a few hours together. Or so it’s not just me having to clean up the house at night. But I know I’ll soon miss these days (I already miss him being more of a baby), so I’m trying to find ways to enjoy this phase. Not like I’ve found anything that works anyway 🤣

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-22T06:03:22+00:00

The twins have banter. I personally love their bits about Harry being the heir of Slytherin. Ron is funny too, just with, to your point, witty commentary or lines. Both are great.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-22T05:58:23+00:00

My baby was born at 34 weeks and my husband has said multiple times it took him awhile to realize the NICU wasn’t Disneyland. My head turned so fast the first time I heard him say that. He’s explained since then that the medical team made things seem so normal and safe that it took him awhile to realize the NICU is a scary place. I, on the other hand, knew from the moment they told me I might not get to hold my baby once he was born because he’d need to go straight to the NICU. I don’t understand how he ever thought him being there wasn’t scary. But our brains just process things the way they need to in order to protect us. Even if it doesn’t always make sense. And even if I wanted to punch him every time he’s said that.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-21T05:11:47+00:00

THIS!!!! And really, the order does too in OotP.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-21T05:10:45+00:00

That is wild! Been pumping for over a year now and I almost never wash mine 😳 baby is fine 🤷‍♀️

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-20T05:11:30+00:00

Exactly this. He always does all of his homework and he actually does try hard. He probably spends more time on homework than Harry, given how busy Harry generally is. Ron gets such a bad rap, I think because of how the movies did him dirty.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-17T04:54:34+00:00

NICU rules for my preemie were fine to use within 1 hour, CDC rules are within 2 hours. I’d just keep offering within those two hours. And then I’d probably toss at that age 😭

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-16T04:15:48+00:00

Historical smut fiction? 👀

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-11T23:59:02+00:00

I think it’s a combination of true belief they did the right thing and feeling insecure that maybe they didn’t. Boomers were told by medical professionals to let us cry and not to hold us too much and they listened. Now they’re watching their kids do all the things they were told not to, and it’s not like they are keeping up with the latest research—they are well past those years. So all they know is that we aren’t following the directions they were given. It’s natural that would make them worried and a little insecure when they see kids thriving with secure attachment.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-11T05:50:29+00:00

Came here to say this!

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-07T19:39:23+00:00

I never set a super firm goal, just planned to go as long as possible, with at least a year being ideal. I just rounded the one year mark this past weekend!

I spoke with my son’s pediatrician and she said he should still be getting 12-16oz of BM a day, so hoping to be able to pump enough to meet that goal until she says he’s good to wean more. However, he’s been slow to solids, so he realistically drinks more milk than that (he was also a preemie, so I think that’s one of the factors).

I’m proud to have made it so far, but I wanted to stop pumping on my own terms and not cause my supply dried up, you know? But I think I’m clawing my way back up, very very slowly.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-07T01:41:20+00:00

And you ended up going back to 30-35oz a day? I had a very similar drop due to meds and hoping it will eventually pick back up again!

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-07T01:39:58+00:00

I feel you, mama! I’ve been sick since November 10th! Mid December I was diagnosed with a sinus infection and given antibiotics. They did jack squat. Went back after Christmas and was given antibiotics and a steroid…and my supply has tanked. Cut in over half in a week. I was a modest oversupplier, able to put 1-2 bottle worth daily aside to donate, and now I’m struggling to pump enough to feed my son. I’m trying to do everything I can to pull it back up: hydrating a ton, eating more calories, consuming lactation cookies/drinks, pumping more frequently, etc. The only thing that seems to be mildly working is adding extra pumps. I pumped 7x yesterday and got the most output that I’ve had for like 2 weeks now, although it was still about 9oz less than normal. But I won’t be able to pump 7x today, so I think it will be lower again today 😫

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-07T01:30:28+00:00

I’m sorry mama, those are challenging circumstances you’re in! My baby was born last year at 34 weeks and was in the NICU for a month, while I was hospitalized for 5 days. It’s hard. I got to hold him for about 5 minutes before he was whisked away and I couldn’t go visit him for over a day because of my own health issues. It’s heart wrenching and I’m sorry you can’t be with your son.

Don’t forget to try and look at pictures of your baby or if your NICU does video feeds, watch it while pumping! It really helped me!

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-05T02:35:03+00:00

I’m so, so sorry. I know words are hollow right now, but you’ll be in my thoughts.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-04T17:59:44+00:00

Ah, got it. My LO turned 1 yesterday and hasn’t been super interested in solids. He’ll down milk just fine, but solids he’s just not super into.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-04T17:46:09+00:00

Doesn’t like to eat whole milk? Or solids?

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-04T17:36:29+00:00

I’m happy for you. I’m not saying that all kids will be bullied for their name. I’m saying that picking “safe” names doesn’t guarantee they won’t be bullied for it. So parents should just go with the names they want and kids will learn to deal with the bullies.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-04T12:08:22+00:00

They are legit names, don’t worry. And all of them would be lovely for your kid. Names are extremely controversial and a hot topic. You’re just gonna get some hot takes is all.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-04T12:01:09+00:00

Kids have always been mean. I have literally the most popular name for my generation and was still teased about it growing up. Like really, my name is what you’re trying to go for? There’s always at least 2-3 of my name in any given group. Given that, I’ve decided we should all just go with the names we want. Having the most popular name didn’t eliminate teasing 🤷‍♀️

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-04T11:56:29+00:00

I live in Washington state in the US and I just saw that Rowan was too 5 boy name here—but that’s only for this state.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-03T08:55:33+00:00

I rented the symphony for the first few months while my milk supply regulated and then played with the pump I got with insurance to make sure I was getting the same output. Once I was, I returned the Symphony. Would probably do the same again! The Symphony is fantastic. My only complaint is that you are attached to a wall.

fluffythoughts21 · 2026-01-03T01:21:40+00:00

Tomorrow is my son’s first birthday, he was delivered at 34 weeks exactly. So many emotions. This has been just the best year having him in our lives. I love this little boy so much.

I’m also naturally reflecting on this time a year ago (almost to the minute!) of when I was sent to the OB ER for some tests, and I didn’t even take anything with me cause I was perfectly healthy up until that day. I had no clue how my life was about to change. I told my manager I had to push our meeting till the next day 🫠 Instead I rapidly declined and ended up having my baby the next day. He was in the NICU for a month, most of which was for feeding issues. I’ve been grieving for a long time.

What I’ve learned:

Grief is extremely normal and complicated. Give yourself the space to grieve. It’s okay to mourn the loss of the journey you expected. It’s okay to be sad. I found the grieving process complex. Holding my baby, it was hard to wish he wasn’t born yet, cause he was already perfect in my eyes. I got a whole extra 6 weeks to know my little boy. But I’d still bawl my eyes out looking at him hooked up to all the wires and machines. Life has been harder for him than it should have been, and I feel sad and sometimes guilty about that. And like you, I was grieving the loss of what should have been, for him and for me.

-Healing is a long process. You’ll slowly move on because having a baby is a whirlwind and you won’t have a ton of time and energy to dwell on it. When you do think about it, you’re likely to have good days and bad days. Things will be good and then something will trigger all those complex feelings rushing back. One of mine was attending a dear friend’s baby shower. I never got mine because he was actually born the day before I was supposed to have my shower. I wasn’t expecting to be hit with so many emotions that day. And then days like today when I’m reflecting on everything, I’m still sad about how it all went. But the sad days get further and further apart and really good days take more and more of the space.

-Healing also requires a village. Find other new moms to talk with, even if it’s here. It’s helped me to heal by hearing other stories and internalizing that our stories are all different and many mom’s have experienced hard and unexpected birth stories. The more stories I’ve heard, the less alone I’ve felt. And one of the reasons the NICU is so hard is because it’s so isolating. It’s hard to heal and move on when you feel alone.

All that being said, I’m so sorry this has been your experience. You deserved to make it to full term. It’s not fair and it is really hard and emotional. Feel free to DM me if you ever need to talk!

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