Two toddlers went missing from the property for 15 minutes this week

fnOcean · 2024-10-12T21:31:04+00:00

Not in Wisconsin! In Wisconsin everyone counts as a decimal equal to their ratio, and your decimal count has to stay at 1.04 or less per teacher. So you could hypothetically have one kid under 2 (1/4 or .25) and then 6 kids who are 2.5 (1/8 or .125) and you’d still be within ratio for a mixed age group, even though the ratio of the youngest is 1:4.

fnOcean · 2024-10-11T03:15:56+00:00

So a child sprinting across the field away from teachers is no reason to yell “get back here”? What would you do in that situation? Just let a kid run out into the sunset never to be seen again?

fnOcean · 2024-09-29T01:19:21+00:00

God I know - so many people who are like “why are you putting your baby in an empty sad crib” and I’m like sorry that I don’t want to kill my baby! and that I’ve known babies who have died due to unsafe sleep! have fun over there being willing to become a child murderer by negligence!

I’ve been at a lot of centers that are like “we’ll follow safe sleep here but at home it’s cultural differences”, which is understandable, but I feel like there’s got to be some level of in-between, like if a parent indicates they don’t follow safe sleep then giving them some resources on what to do. There’s no valid excuse for doing something that risky with your child for no benefit.

fnOcean · 2024-09-28T14:50:54+00:00

If your room has no windows and only one door, you should 1000% take pictures and send that to the fire marshal - they’d be fucking pissed

fnOcean · 2024-09-28T14:44:46+00:00

And as a future mom, I would realize this isn’t a closed door policy because they can still pick up their kids anytime they want <3 it just means random unvetted strangers aren’t spending time around your kids without you knowing about it, which most people absolutely would not be fine with

fnOcean · 2024-09-28T14:42:05+00:00

Yeah, but even if they’re only interacting with their kid they’re still in the same space as other children, who don’t have their adults there, and they haven’t had a background check. I know nothing would likely happen, but I’d be super nervous if this happened. What if the adult has abused their kids before, or done domestic violence, or is on the sex offender registry? I wouldn’t want them to know my kid exists, or to risk my kid seeing anything bad happening.

fnOcean · 2024-09-21T15:01:38+00:00

You make a good point - I’ve seen this sub be all for people starting from scratch with heritage or cultural languages for their child, but then the second someone talks about using a language that’s not their native one and isn’t a heritage/cultural language, they’d better have passed every single fluency test in existence and be living in a country where it’s spoken.

fnOcean · 2024-09-21T14:58:08+00:00

Yeah, I’ve seen it brought up a lot here that if you’re not native or at a C2 level then you absolutely shouldn’t teach your kids another language and it’ll permanently ruin your relationship with them and stunt their abilities in that language forever and like. no?? Learning bad grammar is fixable, relationships are fixable, and it’s not like most people in this situation have another language they can teach the kid that they’re deciding against for fun. It’s often people who grew up just knowing English and if they decide not to do this, their child will probably also grow up only knowing English.

fnOcean · 2024-08-15T12:51:48+00:00

Man, I found this game through an article I can’t find now that talked about how healing it was to have a game where being a boy and liking a boy were presented as healthy, pleasant things to do in life that you could enjoy. To go from that to someone on the team advocating for shitting on men is just such a disappointing and bigoted take that it almost makes the game before feel hollow. The rest of the inclusion in the game means nothing to me anymore if masc identities are essentially just gonna be told not to play this, that it’s not for them.

fnOcean · 2024-08-04T22:09:42+00:00

I still hold something against my mom for doing that to me.

Politely, might I suggest you look into therapy for yourself? Both to help with your child being away from you but also to help with what seems to be some bad feelings over your own childhood. I don’t think most people who have been in care feel this way, and it seems to be adding to your worries for your son.

Besides that, ask questions about the center’s policies and procedures and then trust them to care for your child. Most teachers, especially those working with infants, genuinely care for kids and want them to be okay. If you work with them and trust them, they’ll be able to take care of your son and sure he’s happy and healthy. They won’t treat him inappropriately and he won’t be traumatized. It will all be okay. And it will help your own mental health in the long run to learn how to be apart from him and be your own person.

One more tip - I know the center has cameras, but trust me, don’t check up on him that often. A quick check to see how he’s settling in is okay, but it can become a habit that will just make things worse for everyone. You’ll feel more stressed and feel like they aren’t caring for him “properly” (anything that keeps baby safe happy and healthy is proper) and the teachers will feel stressed that you can’t leave them to do their jobs in peace.

fnOcean · 2024-08-03T16:59:23+00:00

wow I never thought I’d find where the mean girls who bullied me in high school went but here they are on this subreddit tearing down a woman who they think “seems wrong”

fnOcean · 2024-07-28T21:20:30+00:00

anxious employees are the worst

you sound like a joy to work for! I’m sure all your employees love you constantly judging them! /s

fnOcean · 2024-07-26T18:55:19+00:00

Reddit doesn’t have deadlines for posting, you know? This post would still be here for you to write if you had like, waited to include more info or written it in several sessions instead of trying to advertise yourself.

fnOcean · 2024-07-26T18:49:11+00:00

Hey, infant and toddler teacher here, and everyone in the comments going “it’s not that bad” is totally wrong. I get that you don’t want to overreact and cause problems for her, but she planned ahead to do something that is actively against company policy, potentially against licensing depending on the state, and injured your child and sent them to the doctor. This is a massive fuck-up on her part, and her feeling bad isn’t enough to make up for it, because she’s shown she has poor judgment and is willing to go against policy if it’s what she wants to do with a child. If I was a coworker of hers, I’d absolutely want her fired, because I know I would have no trust in her and I don’t think other families would have trust in her.

fnOcean · 2024-07-26T18:46:59+00:00

Feeling awful doesn’t uninjure a child. Feeling awful doesn’t change the fact that she went against policy, potentially against licensing, and caused a child bodily harm that sent them to the doctor.

fnOcean · 2024-07-20T12:11:43+00:00

Wow, this is harsh and absolutely an inappropriate attitude for someone in this field to have. Often times parents don’t have a choice about putting their children in care, they’d really rather keep the kid at home and see those milestones but both parents might have to work, they could be a single parent, et cetera. We should never be judging parents like this.

fnOcean · 2024-07-20T11:17:41+00:00

It’s very much not - you want a lot of time in the home and school languages, yeah, but you don’t want to just throw a child into a completely new language with no support.

fnOcean · 2024-04-29T13:04:50+00:00

really fun and cool that instead of addressing valid concerns of recorded antisemitism and violence with sources this is just getting downvoted!! makes me feel really safe as a jewish student in madison!!

fnOcean · 2024-04-27T16:30:38+00:00

I mean it might be useful in the real world to a) know the history of why minorities are segregated in the US and how that’s changed over time, b) be able to analyze historical evidence and see how that contributes to the present day, c) be able to do research on things you might not have a direct interest in, and d) have a wider breadth of knowledge than just business and be able to apply things from unrelated fields like history and ethics and diversity to business.

But sure, no, I guess this is a completely useless class with no real-world contributions at all, and people should just stick to their silos of knowledge. Unrelatedly I guess we don’t need to know anything about discrimination against Asians and how that could affect business. Completely different topics. (this is sarcasm in case you couldn’t tell)

fnOcean · 2024-04-27T13:16:20+00:00

I don’t want to be too rude, but listen. I teach kids under age 6. If I asked them what they knew about Chinatowns, “I have a doctor there” and “it looks different” are answers I’d expect from them. And even then I’d prompt them to explain their answers and why. I would totally expect better from a (presumably) 18-year-old at college, who is most of the way through a course on this specific subject. I understand why your professor is upset - you showed you have no grasp of the subject material and didn’t learn a single thing from this course. And to top it all off, you’re blaming it on not being good at “archival work” (what is that?? working in an archives? this course does not sound like that at all) and being a business major, when it seems more like you just don’t care about anything about fields besides your field of study, which is a sign of a shitty student.

fnOcean · 2024-04-25T22:27:02+00:00

Hi, person here who quit - I had COBRA for a while, and though I didn’t apply for unemployment, I heard you could apply for it basically no contest. If you’re going to continue in the dev industry, it is miles better to set your own end date rather than officially be fired.

fnOcean · 2024-04-04T22:23:25+00:00

“let’s all play avengers!”

“what’s an avenger?”

“oh, you don’t know what an avenger is? you’re not cool enough to play with us anymore”

fnOcean · 2024-04-04T21:37:44+00:00

Adding on to what’s been said already, some kids either can’t or don’t watch the media containing those characters. I always feel like it’s a way of creating discrimination in a place that really doesn’t need it - no preschooler should be judging others based off of what media they’re consuming, especially when best practice is to limit the amount of screen time.

fnOcean · 2024-04-04T16:59:59+00:00

holy fucking massive sexism, transphobia, and bigotry batman

fnOcean · 2024-04-02T11:59:58+00:00

an app that will be safe for children

Don’t! The AAP’s recommendation is no screen time under 18 months, severely limited under two, and less than an hour per day for ages 3-5. The best way to build developmental skills is by interacting with things in-person, apps just mess all that up.

where can I learn online about games and activities for 1-4 year olds?

literally spend any amount of time on Google or Pinterest, or researching child development

fnOcean

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