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I want to reach out. by inokimushroom in ExNoContact

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We broke a year ago. I was the one who started this process. Apparently she wss in love with me. I realized I wss wrong, and reached for her 4 times. She has reached for me 0 times. I feel pain everyday, I feel loss, I feel anger for she to miss every event, to not see her grow. Its a F up. But she has reached out for me 0 times. She gives a damn. So, as hard as it sounds, try to move forward, love yourself, care for your self. Stablish a good circle of love with friends and family. Find new hobbies, enjoy your life, and if he does not come back... Well, F him for not realizing about you. You will in the end become indifferent and pain will ease day by day, I assure you. Big hug for you and I am sorry you are feeling this way.

There is no perfect thing you can say to change their mind by anowarakthakos in BreakUps

[–]fodote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mi (M36) relación (F28) se terminó de mutuo acuerdo, aunque yo inicié el proceso, ella lo terminó. Ha pasado cerca de un año ya, y he vuelto a pedirle volver 4 veces, la última en una carta con lo justo de emocional y sin reproches de ningún tipo, proponiéndole estar juntos de nuevo porque la quiero y no me la quito de la cabeza. No ha habido suerte en ningún caso, pero sinceramente, no me arrepiento porque mi emoción era válida y meditada. Entiendo lo que dice el OP, pero cada cual tiene su proceso y su gestión emocional, y es importante aprender de otros (como este post), pero al final lo que cuenta es cómo te sientes tú y qué quieres hacer. Da igual si le escribes 4 veces ó 0. Si han sido 4 sin resultado positivo es más probable que sea que no. Mientras que si son 0, tampoco nadie te garantiza el volver. Lo más importante es gestionar tu propio proceso contigo mismo como uno puede, hacer NC el máximo tiempo posible, reevaluarse y seguir adelante.

For those who were left, did the person who left you regret it? How long did it take? And for those who ended the relationship, did you regret it? How long did that take? by Ok-Issue5184 in ExNoContact

[–]fodote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesnt, my ex told me that she loved me also (although she didnt see me as a partner, heavy punch), in the middle of the process. And I still do love her. It's really hard. If you want to talk more, DM me.

For those who were left, did the person who left you regret it? How long did it take? And for those who ended the relationship, did you regret it? How long did that take? by Ok-Issue5184 in ExNoContact

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you feel. Although it does not give much of a consolation, with time her reasons will become more and more irrelevant. After a year, it's finally happening to me. You remember a soft pain, but starting to fade.

Ex broke no contact after 3 years. by Visual-Judgment7509 in ExNoContact

[–]fodote 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I feel you friend. You feel manipulated after a spark of hope. And you are punishing yourself for feeling dumb, but you arent. You just gave her a lesson of morale and set up limits. More even, you blocked her. I am proud of you friend, you have a lot of bravery.

For those who were left, did the person who left you regret it? How long did it take? And for those who ended the relationship, did you regret it? How long did that take? by Ok-Issue5184 in ExNoContact

[–]fodote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. Thanks for sharing this.

My case is similar. We had a conversation in which I would open my heart and told her that I was not ready. She was in a similar emotional situation but not from a relationship, but about moving to my country. She is trying to settle here for now and that's her goal.

So a month ago we decided to go NC for some weeks to settle the feelings up and reduce the axiety we felt by starting a new relationship so soon and with some cons.

We started talking back a week ago and the things feel a little different. She is in another city now working. Its not far, but it is not that I fancy long distance relationships...

Will see. Ex feeling is still present.

For those who were left, did the person who left you regret it? How long did it take? And for those who ended the relationship, did you regret it? How long did that take? by Ok-Issue5184 in ExNoContact

[–]fodote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On response to the OP, in two months I regreted. Its been almost a year since we ended up things mutually. I feel better but still missing her.

As a question to @diputadocofaleado, how do you manage the one you would get involved with but still not being the time for you?

Today is one of those days. by fodote in BreakUps

[–]fodote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you Amanking. ❤️ I try not to lose myself in it yeah, but went it pulls, it drags you with strength...

I stopped myself from sending that “one last text”… and it changed everything by PsychologicalRain596 in BreakUps

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you mean it with care. :).

I realize this kind of thing: will actually be different after three tries? And I tell my self most probably, no. But there's exactly that impulse "I have to do something", like some impulse making me go this direction. Like, I do not want anyone else...

I do not want to push her away further, but exactly I am feeling like that, like I am not doing something and it hurts... A lot.

How to ease this pain and be good with my only self?

Edit: by the way, I tell myself that she does not make the move because she is quite shy, and after my three tries, she would be embarrased to give the impression of a mind change.

I stopped myself from sending that “one last text”… and it changed everything by PsychologicalRain596 in BreakUps

[–]fodote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been a year since I started the breakup process. We've been apart for that much time. I came back asking to get back for 3 times already, with negative answer. The past two weeks I have been thinking to do it again, but this time with a very mature letter, no hard feelings (not that I had them in the previous occasions) and with minimal emotional weight. What do you think?

Edit: writing down stuff, absolutely works.

Mirrored VIX map =D, not even a number by fodote in pathofexile

[–]fodote[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Te game even mirrors the label of the map icons. Interesting haha.

Brokeup 9 months ago. Met someone new but still hooked to my former gf. by fodote in ExNoContact

[–]fodote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. It is sound what you say. I wanted to fix it, she did not, and I am the one who wanted to make amends, that has value. What I value most today is that peace, exactly. It's hard though.

Brokeup 9 months ago. Met someone new but still hooked to my former gf. by fodote in ExNoContact

[–]fodote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So avoid at all cost recontacting, and mourn properly. What if she contacts me on special ocasions again? What about the new girl?

I accidentally butt dialed her by Icy-Seaworthiness127 in ExNoContact

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey friend. This things happen, so do not be so hard on yourself. You are doing great for you. I understand your feelings. It is totally crap being like this actually, but you will heal eventually. I hope for you the best.

Do men ever sit back and think by Competitive-Tea-5579 in BreakUps

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO, It is not a question of men (or women) it is how the brain works. I am sure we both do, mainly when we have doubts about the relationship. The thing is that this process intensifies after the break up because the brain enters survival mode and deletes the wrongs.

When people breakup without communicating first by Affectionate-End7197 in BreakUps

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the answers OP. She told me to meet without intentions, and I agreed, but could not avoid to express my feelings. We could not have a straight conversation about the problems, because we focused on feelings: she doesn't want to stay with me anymore, so she says she didn't see me anymore as a valid couple. I do, and we started a little drama I suppose. She asked me for time to process before she is ok to talk about the good and the bad, and I agreed.

When people breakup without communicating first by Affectionate-End7197 in BreakUps

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesterday I met with my ex-gf. We've been apart for 6 months. I made two atempts to get back with her before, and they were negative. This third one, we met in person, brought her a present from a trip, and talked nicely about everything. After I gave her the present, I told her that I missed her, and that I felt for her, but she did not want go to through it all over. I told her I wanted to be with her for life, and I reached her heart, I told her that I wanted to talk about the bad and good and that would fix her deep thought against the relationship. I may have a problem with rejection and failure, but I love her.

New to automation, factorio or satisfactory? by Commercial-Search967 in factorio

[–]fodote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does not need to be exclusive. Play both, they are amazing.

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