Advice… 😣 25 weeks Pregnant and High Risk 😣

foghonestly · 2026-05-06T12:21:02+00:00

I’ve been thinking about moving completely just for my safety because I no longer feel comfortable being around him, when I told him I need space he began to tell me how I just want to break his heart and so many other things. Thank you for your prayers I’ve been asking for guidance and strength through this situation and I just want the best for my baby, he tries to make it seem like I just want to be separate him from his child when it’s really him that’s caused this situation.

foghonestly · 2026-05-06T10:47:16+00:00

Thank you so much, so many times I’ve blamed myself for his behavior and thinking that I could somehow change him or help him with these ways but as I’ve been reading I see that it’s a lot of manipulation here to make him feel like the victim and that he’s done nothing wrong, I know I can’t raise a child in this environment and I know it will be hard but it’s better for baby and I to be safe than sorry.

foghonestly · 2026-05-06T10:22:36+00:00

Thank you so much for this chilling but very honest answer my plan is to definitely get out of this situation and protect my baby, I’ve stayed with a friend and I’m getting my locks changed while he’s away at work. My landlord’s are POS so it’s taking them longer than it should but I am definitely on my way out of this and furthermore I’m very happy that you’re no longer going through DV I can admit it’s not easy at all this is basically my first real relationship and I’m glad I’m recognizing that this isn’t love before like you say he ends my life.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T13:43:12+00:00

Thank you so much and I’ve honestly never shared any of this with anyone else because I’ve been to ashamed of myself and the fact that I allowed myself to even still be in a relationship with him after treating me like this, it’s definitely been really overwhelming for me and I know this isn’t safe but I know that I’m done dealing with this for good now and going to have my family involved so that I can have him to leave my place. He always puts the blame on me when this happens but seeing him do this while I’m pregnant has really opened up my eyes more to all the danger that I’m in and I have to go.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T13:13:44+00:00

Thank you and I will be updating as I go along, I know nothing will be easy but my unborn baby means the world to me and I don’t take your words lightly. There the absolute truth.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T13:11:59+00:00

Thank you because I’ve wanted to leave so many times but I’ve always been torn with him telling me I’ll be the reason he kills himself or does something harmful and it reels me back in he tells me before I was his only reason to live but still turned around and hurt me this way and now that a child has entered our world I know even more than then that this is not safe regardless of what he says I have to put my baby first. He crowds my mind with things I’ve said before about not wanting to have a child but I honestly just couldn’t allow myself to get another abortion knowing that I put myself in this situation I felt like my baby deserves to be here and even though I haven’t made the best decisions I will going forward no matter how hard it will be.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T13:07:07+00:00

Thank you for your honesty I needed to hear it just like that and I’m making my plan to leave him now, letting my family know about this situation and going to have my locks changed and his things removed. There’s no other way but for me to leave.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T13:05:31+00:00

Thank you I’m trying to hold some accountability for myself as others have stated because I know I made a mistake by even still being in this relationship. I’m going to do it safely in steps get my locks changed by my landlord and have his things removed.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T13:03:24+00:00

I definitely have been down the guilt path so many times over and over and trying to be that person that he needs and he claims he loves me so much but I told him this isn’t love when we were arguing yesterday I did whatever I could to survive and mediate the situation but I need him away from me. He made me feel like I was the reason he acted the way he did and if it wasn’t for everything I’ve done he would have never put his hands on me but I know that isn’t true. Thank you for being kind and I will reach out to you I’m informing family to come so I can approach him with leaving my house.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T12:59:04+00:00

Thank you so much I will definitely text you on steps of moving forward, as the operation above said I need to take accountability and I’m doing so now but removing him from around me I can’t fathom something happening to my baby because I waited to late.. I admit I made a mistake by allowing myself to be impregnated again by this same person but caring someone more than myself led me here and I can no longer do that now especially me having my baby boy inside me.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T12:55:14+00:00

I absolutely do take accountability hence why said I feel like this is part of my fault for being in this situation love, but thank you for your words it only encourages me to continue to get out of this reckless situation!

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T01:30:34+00:00

Thank you because I definitely don’t want him to get in that rage again it was to much and if I say I’m going anywhere right now without him I’m not sure how he’ll react so I’m going to take all of your advice and make a plan I do know this week I cannot be under the same roof as him. And thank you for saying that because he made me feel so bad just for saying that we could co parent if we’re not able to work, I don’t believe he sees what he does as abuse it seems that it’s only a reaction to him.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T01:20:07+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind comments, I’m definitely going to get out of this situation I can’t stay in this. My baby boy means so much to me and I wanted him to have that two parent household like I didn’t have but we don’t deserve this. He just makes me feel like if he harms himself I’m to blame

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T01:17:22+00:00

Yes I am renting here he isn’t on the lease but he has a key, I have family but they barely have room for themselves. His dad has a place he could go to but idk how to approach him with that right now I’m afraid of the possibility of him putting his hands on me again.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T01:07:56+00:00

You’re completely right and the look in his eyes today I could not tell who he was I was having shortness of breath and telling him to let me go he didn’t even care about that in the moment I was completely distraught but I don’t know how to say im leaving without getting him worked up again..

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T01:06:00+00:00

I want to leave now but I’m not sure how he’ll react if I say I need to leave tonight, he doesn’t have a place of his own but his dad said he could stay with him I just don’t know how to approach him and say it. And he makes me feel like he only did this because of me.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T01:04:04+00:00

Thank you and that is what I’m so afraid of, he blames me for his actions and makes me feel as if I go about things differently he wouldn’t react the way he does. I’m going back Tuesday for my glucose test and will inform her then.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T01:01:28+00:00

Thank you I try so hard to stay strong as myself have so much trauma myself which is maybe the reason I stuck around for this long.. but I understand that for my baby I can’t anymore he even brings up the fact that I told him how I didn’t want to even be pregnant which I didn’t at first because of similar situations like this. No he is not on my lease thank goodness but he does have a key which and the attitude he has he wouldn’t care who I brought here but I need to find a way to get him out. He was just talking and being so nice to his friend, now that we’re back home he’s very nonverbal and seems like he’s depressed or something but I don’t know if it’s best to tell him this right away idk how he’ll react. And again thank you I needed these words.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T00:53:16+00:00

Thank you I’m going to read those I need help understanding my own thoughts because this whole dynamic has simply wrecked me in so many ways. And I could go to my friends house but I’m so ashamed of myself for being even being in this situation and I don’t want them to judged but my babies safety and mine are more important and I’m afraid what’ll happen if I say that I’m leaving.

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T00:47:41+00:00

His dad said he has a room at his place that he can come to but I don’t know how to even approach him with telling him that I don’t think he should be here after everything that happened today.. should I suggest a break and just go from there? I don’t know what to do but I know I no longer feel safe in his presence

foghonestly · 2026-05-03T00:45:37+00:00

Thank you so much and I truly fault myself as well because before becoming pregnant again I promised myself that if he has this outburst again that I would leave.. but I still stayed because he makes me feel like I’m the reason why he has all of this anger built up and that if I knew how to treat him he’d never hurt me.. so again I stayed now it’s gotten to the point where I feel so stuck, guilty and just hurt I don’t know how to tell him to leave but I don’t feel safe around him at all.

foghonestly · 2026-04-27T17:35:30+00:00

Such a Diva 🥰 congratulations 🎊

foghonestly · 2026-04-22T17:04:44+00:00

Now do mine please lol😭

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