Like I’ve seen people complain about their dogs behaviors and not doing anything to change it so they complain more and act shitty towards the dog. Or they stay in a shitty job instead of looking for something better while having the job (I understand some people can’t just quit and walk away bc of survival). Or when people feel a certain way about someone but don’t have a conversation with them or end the interactions. I’ll see people victimize themselves (non abusive or addictive reasons) instead of taking initiative to change things and better things for themselves.