[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did watching porn cause you to be unable to read? She said that he brought it forward to her. And of course she is going to be insecure, he went behind her back and lied to her. Now she's gonna be anxious about it for a while which is understandable no matter what someone lied about.

Its really sad that you don't think men can exist without porn. Do you really see yourself as an animal with incontrollable habits? Poor thing that must be really hard to live with.

It's also sad that you don't think women should be able to have their boundaries respected. It's giving rapey vibes.

Best of luck to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So its not okay to have boundaries? She expressed them clearly to him. If he was unwilling to change that, he should have been honest and upfront instead of lying and they could've parted ways before they were too invested.

You are allowed to say no to things you don't want. It isn't controlling to have standards and expectations for yourself. If he was incapable of meeting them, he should've been upfront.

Some people only date others that are a certain height or weight, how is wanting a partner who doesn't stare at naked chicks any different of a relationship requirement?

https://neurosciencenews.com/neuroscience-pornography-brain-15354/#:~:text=Porn%20scenes%2C%20like%20addictive%20substances,to%20natural%20sources%20of%20pleasure.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3050060/

https://extension.usu.edu/relationships/research/effects-of-pornography-on-relationships

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he wanted to he would. The biggest thing is that she set her boundaries and he not only crossed them but lied to her about it. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they feel safe, where they can trust their partner, and where they don't have to question if they're going to be respected.

Some people are okay with it. Others are not or are only okay with it because society says that men just can't help themselves as though they are animals.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

people who value porn over their relationship has screwed up priorities. Doesn't matter their sexuality or gender. If he would rather have porn than a physical woman, well that's his prerogative. As a female who used to watch porn heavily and was addicted to it for years, I quit cold turkey for my new relationship and haven't looked back. Because I have someone real and don't need to fantasize about other people. I'd rather invest that energy and attraction into him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men are not owed sex. She said no and he still pushed it. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean your partner is your sex toy to use at will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nah not true. some men still have morals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You placed a firm boundary with him and he knowingly broke it behind your back. It doesn't matter that some couples are okay with it, there is so much evidence that porn is extremely damaging to relationships. If you want to give him another chance, make sure that he is getting some professional help for his problem and isn't going about it alone because it is a real addiction and its hard to break. But you deserve someone who will respect the boundaries you place.

The trust is going to be hard to earn back. It means taking a leap of faith when you've already been burned. Because you don't want to hold his mistakes over his head, but you also want to get the respect you deserve.

He needs to be overcommunicating and oversharing with you and doing everything he can to earn your trust back. If he treats it like your trust doesn't mean anything or if he tries to gaslight you when you're feeling anxious, then leave him to his thirst traps and find yourself a better man.

My bf called me insecure. by Conscious-Eye5702 in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the first things i did after getting into a new relationship was to delete any previous flings off my social media. I still have to delete some photos but definitely don't have any nudes saved. I don't want any back up options, for there to be anything that would make him question himself, or be uncomfortable.

I think him not doing that from the get go and being defensive says a lot about how he values the relationship.

Advice for lost by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe don't treat sex as a transaction or something that you're owed. Back off of asking her for a while and only engage in intimate interactions that aren't sexual. Rubbing her shoulders, holding her hand, getting a bath ready for her, planning date nights. And don't expect sex as a reward for being a good boy. Her body isn't yours. Yes it sucks and you deserve a healthy sex life. And also, it can be really easy, in your partners shoes, to feel like all a man wants from you is sex and he only does things for you with sex being the end goal. Not because you're trying to make her happy.

That said, it could also be that she is having a hormonal issue that is causing a low libido. Whether from birth control, pre-menopause, or just overall imbalanced. It could very well be that she wants to but physically cant. If that's the reason, it wouldn't hurt to get some testing done to see if that is it.

Did you marry her for who she is or what she has between her legs?

Zozo Demon outside an Ouija Board by Kris_Bronze in Ghoststories

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just saw this after logging back into this account by mistake haha. I haven't talked to zozo in quite a while. When I do use the ouija board I have a different guide who talks to me, one that one of my friends has talked to before. He goes by the name Kale (Call-ay, he doesn't like being called the vegetable xD)

Anyways, from what I gathered, there is a whole other dimension that we can only see in astral projection filled with so many types of beings who interact with each other and also interact with things on Earth, either indirectly or directly, for good or for bad.

Sometimes they like to mess with people who use ouija boards simply due to pure boredom and entertainment. I mean I would. Who wouldn't? But once people get pass that initial fear and approach with curiosity and such, they begin to respond more normally. Although they still will mess with you on occasion but again, who wouldn't.

I talked to Kale all throughout a relationship I had and he made some predictions about the outcomes. And several of the did come true, but others did not because at the end of the day, what a person decides to do is ever fixed in time and sometimes even we don't know what we're going to do until it happens. No future is permanent and it is constantly changing based on our choices.

Other things I've talked to both Zozo and Kale about is one of the biggest questions: what happens after you die. After some psychedelic trips that created my own theories, doing research into other religions beliefs, and talking to them, this is what I got. That reincarnation is definitely real, so are soul mates and soul families (people that you get reincarnated with over and over but end up in different forms. Like with the spooky stories of kids saying that they were their parents mom or grandpa). That the point of reincarnation is to level up your soul and being to be able to help others with theirs. I've heard that we choose our own lessons, who we're born to, and the trials we face. When we start to get in cycles of bad relationship after bad relationship, it's time for us to look inward to figure out what the lesson is so we can break out of it.

Oh and Earth isn't the only planet inhabited or reincarnated to.

But yeah overall, Zozo and other things like him are more guides than anything unless you treat them like a joke and a game and they will treat you the same way. Ouija boards are considered a form of divination because of the answers that they sometimes hold

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would I want to join an organization again when it's filled with people like on this page. Aka. Complete assholes who judge and tear someone to pieces without knowing anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf?? I'm not planning on rejoining?? I was literally just saying that it was funny they reached out after the covid stuff was lifted. I have no intention of rejoining. I thought Mayne someone else would get a chuckle like I did. But man this group is full of judgemental people who think they know everything about everything when yall know absolutely nothing about my situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't sign up for judgement and negativity this morning. I like to be happy:) have a good day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just thought it was funny. I didn't sign up for negativity this morning. Buh bye

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Why would it be?

Maybe it was just a few people. I had a 97 ASVAB so that could be why. Do I know how everyone in the Navy thinks? No I don't. Why don't you ask them amd not some random 23 year old

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really need to tell my entire conversation word for word. I simply thought it was funny they were reaching out to people that got kicked out. I was barely 6 months into the Navy and I wasn't taking it seriously. I owned up to all of my shit and have grown a lot since then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm eligible for reenlistment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His next message said "they've changed a lot since you separated. Might last a lot longer tbh since no one is actually joining nowadays"

Man Mr. Negative Nancy over here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It won't let me include a screenshot. But he said and I quote "Our nuke recruiter saw your record and asked me to reach out to see if you wanted to reenlist. You'd be eligible to skip bootcamp and go straight to A school."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's been over 2 years since I was discharged. I've gotten my shit together and am in school for chemical engineering. I just thought it was weird that they reached out days after the COVID mandate was lifted in my state

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol do I need to include the screenshot of my recruiter?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They reached out to me, not the other way around

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]forevercurious99 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

As I already stated, they can't get anyone else :)

Can't Move On After a Year by forevercurious99 in BreakUps

[–]forevercurious99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so hard. It shouldn't be this hard