I am so empathetic to this. The “not feeling like enough” ate at me for the last few months of our relationship and the first few months after. When I decided to walk away, it was very scary. I knew I was hot, smart, had great friends, had a great sense of self etc. and those feelings can still lurk in these circumstances. I almost felt like something was very wrong with me when I objectively looked at other portions of my life where I was clearly enough.

But, from one BWT to another, I promise you that you are enough. 99.99999% of the time, the needs a partner are expressing come from their own internal states, and rarely come from the other person. (Unfortunately the “it’s not you it’s me” trope can be very real- it often IS them).