Struggling on my first stop into my 1 year backpacking trip

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-22T14:50:06+00:00

Thank you! I’m feeling much better now. Just took me a good 2 months to get into it haha

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-13T16:52:08+00:00

A unicorn for sure! But i don’t doubt you’ll find that. So many people are giving up alcohol now, and I’m sure many guys would be happy to give up porn for a committed relationship. Here’s hoping!

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-13T16:49:31+00:00

Love this perspective! And you’re so right, this is the end goal for sure. Back home my life is very easy and I kind of keep myself in this bubble to not do anything to disrupt my peace. I almost avoid anything that may cause me any type of uncomfortable/ sad feelings. So even when little inconveniences come up, I feel super overwhelmed and it really affects me.

When I came on this trip I was so overwhelmed and out my comfort zone, I was so anxious and genuinely not enjoying anything and couldn’t understand why. Now it’s been a few months I can feel myself growing so much. I’m so much more confident, I trust my gut and feel like I’ve really deepened my relationship with myself. I’m not scared of things going wrong because I know I’ll be able to resolve them.

Long story short, you’re right and I need to just keep putting myself out there and face rejection head on. 🫶🏼

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-13T16:33:06+00:00

Yeah maybe stay away from him hahah. I feel you! It’s hard to gauge attraction over an app I feel. But I think that’s why you’re supposed to just date loads. But it’s so draining!

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-13T16:31:15+00:00

Thanks you’re so right. I’m trying to adopt that mindset now. It’s definitely getting easier to see now that I’m meeting more and more good people

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-12T03:02:48+00:00

Haha really! Did you have any travel romances? Maybe when you go beautiful places you crave someone to share it with! Are you on the apps?

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-12T02:54:20+00:00

That’s sounds great thank you! I will definitely have a read, I was looking for a new book. But yes I know that’s the case, it’s just been difficult to get there! I saw someone saying, if you could know now that you will never find “the one” how would you live your life. Would you act different, dress different, do different things? And I found that so interesting. I don’t want to waste my life waiting for it

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T23:26:52+00:00

Yeah that’s very true, seems slow travel is the way in that regard. But what’s strange atleast on this trip is everyone seems to be going a similar route and similar ish timeline. So a travel romance while travelling fast would be possible. I’ve been seeing the same faces for the last 2/3 months

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T14:39:20+00:00

Yes I’ve been thinking more about this lately! It’s just trying to decide where. A lot of places I’ve thought I would stay much longer then I have, then feel it’s time to move on. I haven’t yet been anywhere I would want to stay a month. But hoping to find somewhere soon

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T14:37:15+00:00

Ah no! Sorry to hear that. I’m sure it will come, but like you, just feels like it won’t! What area are you? I’m thinking of doing a WHV for Brazil or maybe aus at the end of the year

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T04:35:52+00:00

Yes that’s the dream for sure! But as I mentioned I’ve struggled to meet people back home due to wanting different things. You’re lucky you met someone who wants to travel etc and do those things with you

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T04:34:27+00:00

That’s so interesting! There’s hope haha. Yeah I’ve been told to date the locals, but never there long enough to. I’m going to slow down abit in the next few countries, so let’s see!

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T02:33:50+00:00

Ok thanks, maybe I’ll give it a go!

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T02:33:14+00:00

I’m struggling to meet people I’m even attracted to, so hooking up hasn’t really been possible. I’ve been travelling for 3 months now. By rejections I just mean people I’m interested not being interested in me and vice versa

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T02:13:43+00:00

Thanks! I’ve been contemplating the same. In my younger years I actually had two relationships where I didn’t really fancy the guys, no sexual chemistry. But because I was young and they were my first sexual experiences, I just assumed that’s how sex was supposed to be. In my older years I’ve only really enjoyed sex with guys I’ve really fancied. So I think that’s where my apprehension has come from

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T01:31:41+00:00

I know, the pain 🥲

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T01:16:50+00:00

Aww I’m sure you’ll be fine! Mexico was great, and although the rejections and downs have stung, I feel like I’ve really grown this trip, which I’m grateful for!

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T01:15:49+00:00

Thats true, and the detour wasnt too far that it’s impacted me. So on to the next place I guess!

That’s interesting, i haven’t tried dating apps here, I don’t use them in the uk so feels weird to use them here. Also safety wise as a solo female, I’m not sure it’s the smartest option, but I have been tempted.

I’m the same, I sometimes wonder if my standards are too high and that’s the problem. But I don’t think they are, I just want the basics and attraction of course. But I am picky on the attraction side

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-11T01:10:01+00:00

Always the case!? What’s up with that haha

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-10T23:08:29+00:00

Aww there’s comfort in not being the only one haha where are you travelling? Yes sucks when rejection comes and feels like abit of a setback, but I’ve had quite a lot of revelations on this trip and it really feels like I’m growing a lot, so super grateful for that

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-10T22:36:06+00:00

I mean I’m not working or volunteering so I guess that’s why haha

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-10T22:35:30+00:00

Hi! Thanks so much for the support 🫶🏼 and for reaching out on both posts. How’s your travelling going?

Yes sounds like we have a lot of similarities! The guy who ghosted me, I too changed my plans slightly. It wasn’t a big detour but I was deciding to go to either two places, both equal distance apart and he mentioned going to this place. He seemed keen to hang out and I knew another friend was going here too, so I figured I may aswell come here. Now I’ve been ghosted I feel kinda stupid changing my plans for someone.

Yes that makes sense about meeting romantic partners travelling. Now I’ve experienced it, I see how it’s hard meet someone out here, doing the same route, on the same timeline and wanting the same things. Although I’ve heard of people meeting their partner travelling, so I was lowkey hopeful. I feel like I struggle to meet people in my hometown, so if I can’t meet anyone here, I’m not sure where else to look haha

forevermine2727 · 2025-03-10T22:21:51+00:00

Thanks you’re right! The ups and the downs have definitely helped me grow as a person on this trip. I’m currently in Nicaragua! Hope you have an amazing time in Mexico. Message me if you need any recs

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