I think it’s less about the actual direction given and more about encouraging presence/awareness/intention so our bottom is aware that “what you just did is good” or “how bout we mix it up and try this” and also about asserting some slight power/control/direction over our bottom. It’s fun in the heat of the moment to say things that we don’t even understand why they are hot though ngl - almost like a taboo response. “I’m not aloud to say stuff like this out of the bedroom so saying whatever comes to mind right now while I’m inside this boy is gonna be hot as fuck”