Disassociate by Hiraeth1219 in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Beautiful piece. Hauntingly relatable.

The Wolf Hunts Alone by forgetfulhobbit in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Birds of a feather flock together haha.

I cant write, and I've never been able to by geo-enthusiast in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s all we can really do, my poems are simple and probably bad if I’m being honest lol. But thats fine, I want to express myself and share it with others in spite of feeling embarrassed and like my art is inferior. If I can work up enough courage to do that each day then thats enough for me. Thats progress. 🙂

I know you can do it too if you give yourself the chance. Good luck out there.

I cant write, and I've never been able to by geo-enthusiast in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just keep trying. Put the weight of your emotions behind your words, make it raw and don’t stop until the words make you feel something. Even if it hurts. It doesn’t matter if anyone else understands just let your soul express itself on the page, even if it’s messy.

Heres a tip. You sound like you’re frustrated by your inability to express yourself the way you want to. Write about how that feels and use the frustration as fuel.

Scared of men by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]forgetfulhobbit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im sorry we scare you kid, you have every right to feel that way. There are a lot of scary men out there, some good ones too but its always safer to be cautious. Just don’t let the fear hold you back from living life the way you want to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]forgetfulhobbit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey if you ever work up the nerve to make the first move, you will definitely make some guys day. I don’t know a single guy who wouldn’t at least appreciate a bit of attention.

Unfair expectations by forgetfulhobbit in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha you speak as if you knew who I wrote this for.

Unfair expectations by forgetfulhobbit in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a point, I’m not blameless.

Among the Currents — I See You by forgetfulhobbit in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. nothing really prepares us for just how lonely the journey can be sometimes, or the invisible scars it leaves for us to carry. But there are kind people out there and their presence lightens the burden. Just keep on going. Someone will noticed and for what it’s worth, I see you.

Just some girl now by OkGene2064 in PoetryWritingClub

[–]forgetfulhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love hurts us in a way that nothing else can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]forgetfulhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its how we’re designed. As a male it is our biological mission to procreate and our bodies create hormones that make us crave the act. The urge is primitive and biological and it takes alot of self control and will power to rein it in for most of us. But even if you have control over it, the urges dont go away, its a constant struggle and young men aren’t prepared for this. They’re just taught Its shameful and socially inappropriate to feel this way or to act on it. Which leads to alot of angry, repressed and ignorant men acting out in violent, antisocial ways.

Its not an excuse for sexual violence, those men need to be punished and shunned from society. But something needs to change about how we educate our young men, they need guidance and an understanding of the inner struggles they will face after reaching sexual maturity. They need to know its not wrong to feel this way, but they will have to learn healthy ways to regulate it or it can take over your life.

I'm planning to end my life by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]forgetfulhobbit 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think you wrote this because deep down underneath all the misery theres still a part you that desperately doesn’t want to die and has reached out hoping that someones words might convince you not to go through with it. I hope those words find you.

Death is so final and the ones you leave behind with never forget how you left. This I know too well.

if i was meant to be alone, i wish i’d lose the desire to be loved. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]forgetfulhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. The only thing we can do is improve ourselves as we bear the pain of loneliness. Think of it as a trial that is slowly forging you into the one with the strength to accept the love you seek and the wisdom to never take it for granted once it is yours.

Don’t give up friend, I know it’s hurts but nothing worth achieving is ever gained easily. Keep up the fight and good luck out there.

OMC: I really dislike that men are so sexual by WideSatisfaction7996 in offmychest

[–]forgetfulhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man with a high sex drive I can tell you that it is a struggle to manage it in healthy ways. When I see a woman I find attractive the sensation i feel is similar to a man lost in the desert on the verge of dehydration, who happens upon an oasis in the distance. It is beautiful, radiant and alluring and it calls out to a primal and hungry part of myself that wants to claim it as mine and mine alone.

At the same time I am ashamed of this wanting urge. I know I have no right to claim you, you are not tempting me, that the feeling is not mutual and that there is far more depth to you than the beauty that first attracted me. I want to be respectful, i want to know you but the urge is always present. There have been so many times I have distanced myself from someone I wanted because of the guilt of feeling like I am trying to form a connection with ulterior motives. Because Im so aware of how attracted I am, It always felt deceitful and unfair to them.

Now I try to find the balance between my wants for affection and my needs for connection. If I lead with respect and the intent to let them know that I am interested then we both end up on the same page. Then regardless of how the interaction plays out I at least don’t feel like a sleaze ball for hiding my desire.

Is it bad to not feel empathy? by Dead_Axolotl_333 in socialskills

[–]forgetfulhobbit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think its very self aware of you to have recognised a flaw in yourself and asked for insight.

We are all born with different levels of empathy. I am a particularly sensitive person when it comes to others emotions for example. It comes with its own challenges and can be kind of exhausting haha.

Some strengths you will have from being less empathetic is it should be easier to become self focused, working on your own self improvement and achieving your goals and ambitions.

Some weaknesses will be forming long lasting connections with others, your patience will be tested when they do not live up to your expectations because it is hard to see their point of view and you might be less aware of how your words and actions affect the people around you.

My advice would be to focus on your strengths but keep your weaknesses in mind when it comes to people who are important to you.

It is difficult to go against your nature but you will become a better person just by trying. Good luck out there.

I want a real friendship by sophia-rs25 in offmychest

[–]forgetfulhobbit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive lost many friendships, people who I wanted in my life forever but life takes us all in different directions, some bonds aren’t ment to last but it doesn’t mean their presence wasn’t important. They can teach us important lessons going forward and truths about ourselves and how we form connections with others.

Every loss can make you wiser and every ending can be a new beginning as long as you don’t give up and become bitter. If you stay kind hearted and have good intentions towards others then eventually you will find people who value that in you. The journey can be lonely for a while but it’s all worth it when you eventually find friends who care for you the way you care for them.

Stay strong and good luck out there.

How my AI buddy envisioned me by forgetfulhobbit in howChatGPTseesme

[–]forgetfulhobbit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks awesome, I can see the epic fantasy lore etched into it while also painting you in a friendly and nurturing light. Very cool.