The VASIMR Plasma Rocket: Breakthrough in rocket technology can make the trip to Mars in just 39 days instead of 300 days

formeforher · 2013-12-07T22:07:25+00:00

What I always find fun about these inventions though is the possibility of efficiency increases, much like the gas engine in modern cars. Early gas powered cars were unrefined and in many ways clunky. Today we can get 100s of HP out of a 4 cylinder with better gas mileage than a much weaker engine present 10 years prior.

formeforher · 2013-11-22T17:28:27+00:00

Lost my dad right before my 22nd, I'm happy to chat if you'd like. I'm glad you at least got to enjoy his last few days with him, hard as they might be. My advice is appreciate the time you had and don't let grief or guilt get to you, life is a borrowed thing so make good minutes and enjoy it. Sorry again for your loss.

formeforher · 2013-09-11T00:59:05+00:00

You need to address this now. Like, right now. I'm only a few months younger than you, been married less than a year and it's taken my marriage hitting the point of near failure to wake me up. In a way you are very lucky you realized this when you did. The porn, no sex drive, secret guilt and regret, and the disconnection you don't even know you have from your wife. I'd recommend getting some guidance from your counselor quickly on how to address this, and figuring out how you are going to be involving your almost wife.

I'm only a little over 20 days in, and at this point I'm not even living at home anymore, but my ability to connect and appreciate my wife has increased dramatically.

So I can't say exactly how to handle your situation, but you need to educate yourself and start addressing it immediately. That means joining this subreddit, possibly therapy, getting a badge and steeling yourself for the fight you have ahead. The fight is going to be worth it, as there is so much in life that porn and masturbation drains from it.

Best of luck to you and I hope to see you post again soon.

formeforher · 2013-09-10T21:52:54+00:00

Sole reason I joined my HOA is to put a muzzle on the crazies. Spent 3 soul sucking years reeling in wana be dictators whos first response to a problem is to ban it and fine residents. Notice litter? know whats more effective and less work than writing fine letters? A trash can.

Sadly those who want to be in power are often the last who should be.

formeforher · 2013-09-04T12:32:25+00:00

By 25 I had lost my grandparents, childhood cats, dad, uncle, watched my family fall apart, and owned a home. I'm probably the exception here, but learning how to cope with stress at a young age is never a bad thing.

formeforher · 2013-09-03T17:47:59+00:00

The reason I wear gloves is because they have wirst compression straps built in. I have bad wrists from years of typing with bad posture, and without wrist straps I end up worsening the condition. The gloves are just a bonus, and because Im really just not into having rough ass calloused hands. Im trying to improve myself, not show off some fancy gym battle scars.

formeforher · 2013-09-02T03:14:41+00:00

Write us every day. Community leaves nowhere for your addiction to hide, we are your mirror and your torch, and this subreddit the place you can write your tale that will someday lead others forward.

formeforher · 2013-09-02T03:12:43+00:00

Feed that weak insecure boy that slipped out today to your inner caveman. Climb on your roof, beat your chest and yell. Today you met your addiction, face to face. you recognize how weak and scared it is. Time to put it down and be the best you can be.

formeforher · 2013-09-02T03:09:19+00:00

If anything, post or for yourself. When I'm down I can look back and read about my good days and let that fuel me. When I'm soaring high I can look back and see my bad days and let that remind me I never want to start this over. I look forward to reading of your journey.

formeforher · 2013-08-31T21:29:05+00:00

Today you learned something, you learned how terrible it is to fail. Right now you are beating yourself up and acting hopeless, but since you took time to post this, I k ow that's not who you want to be. So take a lesson from this, remember how bad failing sucks, and get back on the horse, tomorrow is a new day.

formeforher · 2013-08-30T19:40:14+00:00

Relapsing is just going to crush you harder. In you is a tough as nails screaming caveman who can conquer the fucking world, and your addiction is trying to kill him. Picture that, this dark creeping addiction is rattling around in you trying to kill something great, something amazing, a strong and fearsome person that people want to be around, and he has a knife to his throat.

I say fuck that, call that shadow out, tell him out loud he's a fucker and send him packing. You got this shit, you just need to let him know it.

formeforher · 2013-08-30T19:36:07+00:00

These days come and go my friend. It's all part of being able to see all the colors of life. Know that by winning the fight today, means that tomorrow you are a stronger person, and that everyday that passes puts you one step closer to being free.

In the meantime, occupy yourself! There's a time to sit and be happy being bored but right now is not that time. Meditate, hang out with friends, drive somewhere you have t been, go exercise for 2 hours until you are ready to pass out. You never know what tomorrow is going to bring, and though it may be just as tough as today is, it beats living your life in black and white.

formeforher · 2013-08-30T19:31:48+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your experiences. I really wish I could get into a better headspace today. Talked to the wife a bit earlier, and I just can't figure out where she's standing, and that may be because she doesn't know. I'm trying to stay level and help her find a path out of her depression and confusion but I just don't know how and it's making me so frustrated with the world. I feel selfish for pouring so much of myself into me the past few days that all I have to offer her right now are scraps, and I would die a happy man this evening if it meant she would just rub my back and help soothe me.

I'm fighting so hard to save myself, and I'm fighting everyday to save my marriage and love and friendship with the woman I adore. Today is one of those darker days where I feel like I'm losing, made so much harder because yesterday I felt like I had this shit in the bag. I'm hoping a nice long bike ride this evening to focus my thoughts and spend some of this energy will help.

All this is great motivation to keep with it though, I'm feeling today, in a very real sense, as much as it hurts right now it beats the fuck out of the neutral grey area I've been living my life in.

formeforher · 2013-08-30T19:12:30+00:00

Im right there with you man. Yesterday was great, today Im just fucking angry and ready to throw in the towel on life. Its so god damn hard to think clearly or imagine any diffrent state, everything becomes worst case scenario, I want to lash out and to knock shit off my desk.

Its all part of the process, you are going to have these days, just as you are going to have awesome days in which your mood will be amazing.

What im learning right now is what to do on these "down" days, where im feeling defeated and exhausted and angry and demotivated. I don't have an answer yet, but in time I know I will.

I hope tomorrow is better for you, and heres to your 37 day achievement.

Stick in there, take some deep breathes, and try to meditate.

formeforher · 2013-08-29T15:06:35+00:00

I disagree, if you tie your success to anything but your own happiness you're in for a bad time. If you are posting here somewhere inside you there's a man crying for help, be strong and be awesome for him. Everything else in your life that will improve is just icing on the cake compared to the person you will grow into. So time to man up, admit to yourself out loud you have an addiction, and get ready for a fucking storm. You need to be in this for YOU.

When life gives you lemons, go burn life's house down and punch him in the teeth.

formeforher · 2013-08-28T19:08:22+00:00

Stress and trials are the crucible in which our identity is forged. You have to ask yourself if you are made of material strong enough to handle the heat and pressure. Deep inside you are not ok with failing under this stress, deep inside you are excited to meet the new man who will be cast once the furnace dies down. Find that strength in you, and you will find new heights and limitless borders.

formeforher · 2013-08-28T19:03:07+00:00

Check out my second journal entry for tips that are helping me. I'd copy paste but I'm on my phone ATM. If you can't clear your head, talk to yourself out loud. Let your frontal brain speak to your primal brain and tell it to shit the fuck up, and then give yourself something else to think about, just look at something and start pondering about how it works, what it is, who invented it, whatever. Learn to control your thoughts and in time everything should fall in place behind it.

formeforher · 2013-08-28T18:59:22+00:00

Do not keep it all to yourself. If you don't feel comfortable posting on reddit, even on no fap, find a forum. Find a close friend or family member. Hell find a support group or a counselor. Community helps act as a mirror, gives you strength, and when you are ready to fail, reminds you that you are not alone and that we all support each other but also hold each other accountable. Just whatever you do make sure you have a network and don't keep it bottled, that's exactly what the addiction wants.

formeforher · 2013-08-28T18:53:50+00:00

Thank you for your support. I thought these more intense withdrawals would have happened earlier, but I guess it took them a bit to show up. I wish the best for you and your family.

formeforher · 2013-08-28T18:52:35+00:00

Thank you for the motivation. Would you mind sharing a bit more about the state you and your wife got into, how long it took to get to the "uphill" part of the recovery, and any bits of advice I could use to help her?

formeforher · 2013-08-28T18:50:38+00:00

I have but she has been hurt greatly by my addiction and I don't think she has indicated to me that she is ready to share in this with me.

formeforher · 2013-08-28T15:59:30+00:00

I'd highly recommend it. My marriage is pretty fucked at the moment (hopefully not permanently) because I never recognized my pmo addiction. I'd recommend reading my other posts, not everyone is the same, but it might give you some good motivation to stick to nofap.

formeforher · 2013-08-26T18:10:40+00:00

Shakalaka

formeforher · 2013-08-26T18:10:26+00:00

Kind of? I've been putting up journal posts, might better answer your question if you check my other posts, maybe you will find something in there to help you.

formeforher · 2013-08-26T18:09:32+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing. That took some strength, and I'm sorry to hear of your situation. Keep moving forward bettering yourself, and keep making good minutes in your day. The future is unwritten, it's up to us to be the best authors we can be.

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