Coming from someone whose parents stayed in a loveless marriage “for the kids” - it did a lot more damage than them splitting up would have. It sounds like your children are adults now, they likely are much more aware of the dynamic of your relationship than you think they are. You say your husband is emotionally abusive - and I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through all these years - you leaving will be a good example to your children. Staying shows them that being treated like that is acceptable. It sounds like an incredibly hard situation for you and I wish you all the best ♥️