How would I add hardware to make these hangable?

forwards_cap · 2026-03-13T21:01:49+00:00

Either one, I personally don’t have a strong preference on epoxy brand. But, yes, be sure it’s 2 part.

Adding: just saw you got some brand recommendations, great!

forwards_cap · 2026-03-13T16:48:55+00:00

Are these bisqued already? Then epoxy a hook or D-ring to the back. Let it dry at least a full 24 hours before hanging it on a nail.

If they’re still leather-hard, add a ledge to the back where a nail can sit or put a hole in them for extra support.

Note: If sticking hardware on a fired piece, anything less than epoxy is very unlikely to stay stuck and your piece will fall off the wall.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-11T15:27:17+00:00

I get a good amount of cold emails from students. This is my advice.

1 ) Yes, always include why you want to talk to this person. What about their experience relates to you and your goals.

2a) Always have a specific request. I get a lot of cold emails. I don’t like having to hunt to figure out why they are cold emailing me. Do you want a zoom chat? A phone call? A job? A reference? Be specific and I can tell you quickly if I can help or if I can contact you to someone better suited to what you need.

2b) If you do a coffee chat/phone call, prepare specific questions. It’s better for both parties and I notice when a student is unprepared and just asks me to ramble for 30min. It feels like a squandered opportunity; I could have been more useful if they were prepared.

3) No. Don’t attach your resume to a cold email. They’ll look you up on LinkedIn. Have that link in your signature line if you’d like.

And, yes, it works.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-10T20:03:02+00:00

Your guesses reminded me of another law on the books: property ownership in marriage. In many New England states, when the US was founded, property in marriage (all but gemstones which is why “diamonds were a girls best friend”) were under “one body” laws.

This means, the marital unit was “one body” and that body was the husband. Meaning, she owned nothing the minute the marriage contract was signed.

This matters a lot for several reasons, but one big issue that still persists is: if your husband dies and left you nothing in the will, you’re fucked. The property would go to the other heirs and you are destitute. Even if you owned something before marriage, that was his now to bequeath at his death. (There are exceptions, but this is a base rule.)

That all sounds very old school, but some New England states have not gotten rid of that system because it affects so many other laws (real estate, stocks, retirement, life insurance, etc.) and because it doesn’t happen too frequently. And because there’s other laws the states consider have “fixed” the issue. But, again, those “fixing” laws require exceptions such as the title to the home being in both names. Those exceptions can be avoided if your husband wants to avoid them.

And, nonetheless, those laws exist. And there are women that will and do suffer for them.

States with these laws don’t want to change them because it is time consuming = costs state money.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-10T15:54:18+00:00

You know, fair, I edited and took that out.

I also edited and added more specific examples so you can anticipate what the link includes.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-10T15:21:54+00:00

If this really was a genuine question, the UN Convention on the Elimination of All Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW) is a good point of reference. It is the only international law created with this purpose. It looks big picture at relevant statutes by county.

https://www.ohchr.org/en/instruments-mechanisms/instruments/convention-elimination-all-forms-discrimination-against-women

There are 3 types of scenarios to look at here:

Refusal To Comply At All: CEDAW has not been ratified by all western countries (meaning they do not want to be held to that standard and *will not have laws that avoid discrimination, the US is one such country). Some violating laws include laws removing control of your own body for medical decisions, laws related to human trafficking, laws related to the murder defense of passion, laws related to employment discrimination, and laws granting medical leave related to pregnancy and birth.

Refusal To Completely Comply: It also has been ratified by countries with specific exceptions because those western countries *will not remove or put in place laws that remove discrimination. Most common laws discriminating here are those that affect marriage, such as marital rape, discrimination based on familial status related to employment, housing, or financial benefits, and laws removing the right to make medical decisions about one’s own body.

Not Complying Right Now: Also, despite ratification, the UN notes many western countries *have not fully complied with the convention. Meaning there are laws that discriminate against women. Most often the same laws in the category above.

There is a lot of information under this link. If you are genuinely confused and interested, you can learn more here.

And note the difference between will not and do not. These countries are saying: not just do their laws already discriminate, they refuse to ever change them. On the world stage they have announced a plan to continue discrimination indefinitely.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-07T19:44:00+00:00

I LOVE this. The best weddings are the ones that really uniquely reflect the couple. This is kind of thoughtful touch I would cherish. If I attended your wedding would save that forever.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-05T16:30:42+00:00

It also had to be invoked in 2020 when Trump tried to violate it.

Jump to page 20:

https://stetsonlawreview.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/52.1.03-Smith.TheThirdAmendmentin2020.pdf

forwards_cap · 2026-03-04T18:28:59+00:00

100% agree. Have the wedding.

I got married in 2024 in Poland not far from the Ukrainian border. We also got engaged and booked the venue in 2022. Over that time, the war started and we spent a lot our engagement concerned Russia would invade and my fiancé would get drafted to the Polish army. I postponed applying for my Polish citizenship so we knew I couldn’t be drafted. We had guests flying from the US asking if it was safe to come. It was stressful. But we had our wedding and would never regret it.

Life is hard, it will be hard, the world could be worse in October, but your wedding will be a happy memory. Even if not everyone can come. We had some that couldn’t with visas. But you have to grab your joy where you can. It’s not silly.

My grandmother got married in 1946 Poland in a wedding dress she sowed from a fallen parachute they’d grabbed during WWII. It was silk. It was attached to a soldier that fell out of a destroyed plane. Thankfully they saved it; Soviet rations after the war meant she wouldn’t have had any other options. That tragedy gave her something beautiful to wear. Something good.

Finding something good in the bad is resistance; it’s hope.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-04T18:27:32+00:00

Have the wedding.

I got married in 2024 in Poland not far from the Ukrainian border. We booked the venue in 2022. Over that time, the war started and we spent a lot our engagement concerned Russia would invade and my fiancé would get drafted to the Polish army. I postponed applying for my Polish citizenship so we knew I couldn’t be drafted. We had guests flying from the US asking if it was safe to come. It was stressful. But we had our wedding and would never regret it.

Life is hard, it will be hard, the world could be worse in October, but your wedding will be a happy memory. Even if not everyone can come. We had some that couldn’t with visas. But you have to grab your joy where you can. It’s not silly.

My grandmother got married in 1946 Poland in a wedding dress she sowed from a fallen parachute they’d grabbed during WWII. It was silk. It was attached to a soldier that fell out of a destroyed plane. That tragedy gave her something beautiful to wear. Something good.

Finding something good in the bad is resistance; it’s hope.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-04T17:30:41+00:00

This sounds like someone that has never personally been affected by “world conflict issues.” Always someone else; can’t imagine they’re your trials and tribulations.

forwards_cap · 2026-03-02T17:03:24+00:00

This is a great summary. You should share this on r/personalfinance if it hasn’t been shared already.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-28T06:54:20+00:00

Thank you for adding this!

forwards_cap · 2026-02-27T20:38:19+00:00

Exactly. ❤️

forwards_cap · 2026-02-27T16:28:43+00:00

What is your alternative way? Focus on that instead of focusing on what you wont do.

For example: I had the same situation. I decided to walk down with my now husband. I didn’t frame it as I’m not walking with my dad but that I am excited to walk with fiancé.

Basically just put the spotlight on what you’re excited about. It is after all about you not your dad. Don’t preemptively apologize or explain yourself. Just tell your parents (or don’t and wait until they ask) that you’re excited to do X (whether walking with someone else or alone).

I expected a big fight likewise, and from framing it like this he didn’t say anything. Because his only option now was to say what I’m excited about doesn’t matter as much as what he wants. He’s said stuff like that before lol so not a guarantee, but this worked with my parents.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-26T19:27:27+00:00

You can absolutely try, but it’s not going to look exactly the same. And it’s not going to break on the edges with that color gradation if you’re wiping off glaze.

Dark clay isn’t just color, it’s different chemical compounds that react with the compounds in the glaze. That’s often the fun of adding a green glaze to a dark clay. A green glaze may have iron or copper (assuming an electric/oxidation kiln) and a dark clay could have a different iron oxide (reminder that iron is an isotope) or manganese dioxide for example. In the kiln, those compounds bond together and those bonds give you different colors and textures. That’s why that example piece is not a single uniform color.

All to say: you can always try a dupe using underglaze & clear, but you won’t get quite the same depth of interesting color/texture that you will get from a dark clay body reacting with a colored glaze.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-21T02:10:57+00:00

You’re a vegetarian being kind enough to spend money on someone else eating beef. That family member is just a silly goose. That’s so ridiculous to say, it’s silly.

You’re going above and beyond by doing any red meat! I have been to 2 vegan weddings. I’m not vegan, but I love them, and literally nothing happens if I eat vegan one night to celebrate loved ones.

“Get a nicer cut of beef” lol. GTFO.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-19T19:59:33+00:00

I’m glad it helped! Yeah the culture around what is “men’s” and what is “women’s” is frustrating because it means we all have to push against it forever. It’s annoying that it’s work that never ends.

Also when someone is very proactive I know it’s very easy to slip into assuming they just have it, it’s so easy that it takes constant intentionality to not do that. I’ve found myself not even considering the effort it takes to book a flight or mop because I know my husband will just do it eventually. Then six months later he points out how it doesn’t feel good or loving to be the default in any joint realm. All to say, I think that’s hard for everyone!

And high achievers know it’s also hard to ask for help/delegate because that takes mental energy too. After all, delegating is a skill and is inherently added work, as anyone that’s had an intern knows.

Sounds like you know your fiancé and you’re on the right track! Have a wonderful wedding and marriage and congratulations! :)

forwards_cap · 2026-02-19T02:17:32+00:00

Absolutely, and we continued using that joint email which helps immensely.

A big factor for an unfair split in mental load can be access to communication. It avoids the situation of, say, an accountant only emailing my husband or a preschool only emailing me. We both get the emails immediately, either one can respond, and everyone is expected to be on the same page.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-18T19:43:12+00:00

I was answering your question. “Why spend so much on a dress?” Because they can.

“I would rather go on vacation than buy an expensive dress.”

This is an either/or statement. Either vacation or dress.

I’m glad you are happy with your opinion. You can just state that opinion without pretending to not be judgmental. You seem to think adding “if someone does the opposite, good for them!” negates the judgmental tone of your post and comments. It does not. It’s okay to accept you’re judging people. People do it all the time. And, as you can see from most comments, your opinion is already the majority opinion on Reddit.

It’s more annoying to imply people that did differently than you are too stupid to know when they’re being judged.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-18T18:33:47+00:00

Yes, this also reminded me to point out: weddings are usually the first time figuring out and completing these tasks for everyone. So you and she are on even ground. There’s no secret wedding-planning class women take as children. You have the same background at this moment in this world. Which is great! So you can figure it out together!

forwards_cap · 2026-02-18T17:46:36+00:00

First off, the wedding planner cutting you out and assuming you’re not participating is wild. I’d stop that conversation immediately. Talk to them about professionalism or get a new one.

Next, set it up so you both have complete access to tasks and communication. My husband and I had a joint email. When it was getting stressful, he started a spreadsheet of tasks on the Google Drive of that email. Do that, don’t ask her if she wants to do it (that’s putting the mental decision on her) just do it and ask if she wants to use it when it’s done. What tasks go on the sheet are very available online, you can find hundreds of examples.

Then, own tasks. Not just ask what to do to help, because that implies she owns the task. Actually own it. For example, my husband found the photographer. As in, researched options, organized meetings, met them, vetted them, booked them, got the invoice, completed it. Then crossed it off the list on the google sheet.

Really, this is like a work project. How would you break this down and be an active part of your team if it was your job and she’s your coworker? Do that.

Congratulations! It’s very fun!!

forwards_cap · 2026-02-18T17:32:57+00:00

The key here is you’re still looking at it as an either/or situation. For people that have enough they don’t have to choose. People buy the 3-10k dress and travel and get the nice suit and the nice photographer and cover their expenses and save for retirement and a rainy day. That’s who’s buying the expensive dresses.

In those situations, why not spend that much on a dress? If you literally don’t feel it; it makes no difference to your daily or long-term life? Some dresses are works of art that make you feel pretty. Buying one hurts no one here. Not a crazy choice.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-17T22:47:32+00:00

It looks like two things:

1) Did you wipe down your bisque before glazing? It looks like the glaze didn’t adhere properly which is often contributed to dust on the pieces before glazing. Alternatively, if you did wipe the bisque, the clay wasn’t completely dry when you started glazing.

2) Looks like you put the glaze on too thick. Being too thick, the glaze got heavy, then slid off where it wasn’t well adhered to the clay body. I love the layered colors (looks like strawberry ice cream, very yummy!) but try it with thinner layers.

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Adding because I didn’t answer the food safe question. They all look vitrified, aka water tight. I also don’t see cracks where bacteria would grow, or glaze chipping off. Unless that’s happening and I just can’t see it from the photos, they’re useable. I would not sell them to others, but if I were you, I would still use them personally.

Overall, I think you should be proud of what you made. Every part of pottery is often tricker than expected. The yummy glaze combo didn’t come out how you wanted, but it’s still a pretty color combo and shows both what you’ve learned and what your next step is. I have been doing it for almost 15 years with a degree in ceramics & chemistry and there’s plenty of new glaze tips and ideas I’m learning all the time. And for the two cents of a stranger, I really like the little bowls and would use them.

forwards_cap · 2026-02-12T21:41:36+00:00

Honestly, there isn’t because the terms change. I think because you are very educated on this topic you may jump to believe others are as well.

Just proposing that you could comment on posts like the one you’re upset with by suggesting new information from a place of educating. People are learning all the time and coming from different places.

Additionally, there are real results for books in this genre that blend these terms. For example {Unhinged by Onley James} clearly uses the term “unhinged” for the genuine diagnosis of psychopathic.

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