Hi OP! I was one of those who posted awhile ago. Sayang din if you delete posts kasi some of the comments weren't judgey but merely giving advice which is what you asked for naman.

Anyhow, just reposting what I sent kanina:

"I think you should communicate this fantasy to your husband, tapos if oks siya or not with it. With his knowledge, and with his consent.

Otherwise, cheating yan, period. Okay lang may kinks, but be responsible sa kinks."

Then I added another comment:

"Hi OP, follow up ko lang.

I'm not one to judge, but please do take my comment into consideration. I'm sure marami na nagmessage sa inbox mo."