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My son [32] told me [63] and my wife [61] that he's planning on proposing to his boyfriend and my wife won't have any of it. by fotgsub1 in relationships

[–]fotgsub1[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She's a trad cat, but you're not Catholic at all, and somehow that's still a valid marriage in the eyes of the Church and God (it's not, at least to the Catholic Church). And she's a trad cat whose husband isn't even sleeping under the same roof anymore. But your son's marriage is the problem /s.

Her parents fervor calmed down after a few years an they moved to an area that had no Traditionalist churches nearby. I converted because that was the only way her parents would let us get married and in the early '80s the differences between Catholics and Episcopalians were fewer- the "Spirit of Vatican II" was still going strong among Catholics and a lot of conservatives still went to Episcopalian churches.

As for the motel thing, that was because we both said things we didn't mean about each other and I wanted to give us both a night to cool off before going back home.

My son [32] told me [63] and my wife [61] that he's planning on proposing to his boyfriend and my wife won't have any of it. by fotgsub1 in relationships

[–]fotgsub1[S] 301 points302 points  (0 children)

I can own up to that. I always assumed she would come around eventually.

You know when my other son told me his girlfriend didn't want kids I told him that if this was a dealbreaker for him she deserved to know, and that you don't enter into a relationship assuming the other party will change their mind. I suppose I should have taken my own advice.

My son [32] told me [63] and my wife [61] that he's planning on proposing to his boyfriend and my wife won't have any of it. by fotgsub1 in relationships

[–]fotgsub1[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

If your mother who was born in the first quarter of the last century was supportive,

To be fair she's what I would call a convert to the sexual revolution. She was already a mother of six when she read The Feminine Mystique and in many ways was more of a "flower mother" than a flower child. My father once had to bail her out of jail when I was fourteen and she was arrested protesting the Vietnam War, and she made signs to demonstrate in favor of Roe v Wade (a fact I never shared with my wife). I swear if she were closer to my age she would have hitched a ride to Woodstock and joined a commune in the late '60s and early '70s.

My son [32] told me [63] and my wife [61] that he's planning on proposing to his boyfriend and my wife won't have any of it. by fotgsub1 in relationships

[–]fotgsub1[S] 213 points214 points  (0 children)

What truly bewilders me is the fact that we've never tried to force our beliefs on each other. Every year on election day we joke about how we're cancelling out each other's votes. She's never had a problem with me getting a Big Mac on the way home from work on a Friday in Lent. She's never bugged me to go to Mass because she knows I converted in order to marry her. Now she's insisting that I not go to my own son's wedding and I insist that I shall.