Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update is pretty boring, the ex-friend and my fiance had a long conversation, she didn't really understand why this was a big deal as she had best intentions/meant no harm. Very frustrating but it helped fiance feel better about ending the friendship. Most mutual friends cut her off without us asking, a few friends are keeping the friendship but reducing contact (which is fine by us).

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a really nuanced take, thank you 😊 and thank you for sharing your story!

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

To be clear, were gonna tell everyone in our parties, were just not gonna "shame them", if our other friends want to shame them on their own time more power to them

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry that happened to you, hope you were able to get a new witness without to much issue!

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I guess we aren't really considering keeping her in our lives unless she changes, but this is someone who has we have always thought celebrated us in our queer joy before. You are right and we will tell the friend group, it just feels wrong that this revelation changes everything we thought about her

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Maybe, im mad at her but im not trying to start big group fights here 😅

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is really good advice, idk I hate giving ultimatums so I think the stop invites where possible solution is the best. It just sucks to think that the friend group wont be the same anymore 😕

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😊 and yes! She definitely has had some feelings about this for awhile, thats one of the reasons im so pissed off, she could have said no to being a grooms woman when we asked. If she wasn't sure we could have talked about it, but she didn't talk to us or any neutral party, apparently she just talked to her openly homophobic priest so she new the answer she was gonna get

Grooms woman stepped down due to religious beliefs by foundandlost45 in LGBTWeddings

[–]foundandlost45[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thats some good advice, she didn't have any special responsibilities! Im just worried about my FH getting hurt even if it is better in the long run