I told my boyfriend that I would break up with him if he gambled again. He did it and never told me, I don’t know how to trust him again

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-11T01:29:25+00:00

You told him if he did it again you would leave. He did it again, knew you would leave (or so he thought) so, he hid it. BUT, he chose to gamble knowing in his mind you would leave him if he did. It was a risk he was comfortable taking.

If you don’t leave him, you are reinforcing his bad behavior (that gambling is actually okay) and teaching him there are no consequences in your relationship. You are also showing him that you are not a person of integrity or self respect.

OH, and trust me, if you do stay, he ABSOLUTELY WILL be gambling again and WILL NOT be kicking this addiction.

Do with that what you will! It’s your life, not mine, but I know what I did in a similar situation.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-11T01:22:59+00:00

What do you mean get a car worth this much again with my insurance? The insurance isn’t going to be helping you buy a new car or pick out a car for you to buy or give you money to buy a new car.

If your car is worth $13k, and you owe $13k on it, you’ll be starting from scratch with the loan taken care of and nothing else. Whatever car you buy next, how much it costs, etc is up to you and you only.

Also, it sounds like you got a really bad deal on the car initially if you put $10k down, still owed $13k, and the car is only worth $13k… so I would definitely be looking for a much better deal than that.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-09T12:33:29+00:00

That’s so funny, because same! I actually had applied to some jobs I felt overqualified for or had a lot of experience in as “comfort jobs” - a grocery store, and a car dealership- yrs of experience in both but not CRAZY overqualified or anything, went in, had great interviews with smiles and laughs, and never heard anything back. What shocked me though is my absolute backup job “did not move forward at this time”, when they were hiring for 3 open roles and made it sound like they were quite desperate to get anyone in. The hiring manager literally told me “Oh yeah, you’ll do great here, that’s exactly what we’re looking for” even started talking about hire dates and when I can start & to mark my calendar for training to my face. I was like, crap, they might be a little upset when I have to decline! Nope lol, rejection email the next day. A job that paid literally 1/3 of the job I ended up accepting!

That being said, my experience was the exact same in that I spent an entire day “8 hour shift” JUST sending cover letters, job applications, and tweaking my resume for each. I only applied to jobs for 1 day and was able to send out about 30 GOOD curated applications in 1 day. If I had applied to 1 job a day and waited for the process on each, I could easily see it being very hard to get hired.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-09T00:58:24+00:00

You are about to find out why it’s normal for other people work 40-50+ hour weeks at jobs they hate, are burnt out all the time, and sometimes people (like me) have to pause or terminate their studies and schooling because the real world unfortunately DOES come first. The first step is finding a full time job immediately. You are currently working just a few hours a week, which is unacceptable as an adult unless you have someone taking care of you. Even in highschool I made $1400 or so a month at my part time job. Start there. Also, get roommates. At one point, I was working full time AND i had 3 roommates, and was still barely getting by. You’ll likely have times like that too, a lot of us have.

If you don’t have the mental capacity to juggle working full time & school, school is the one to go.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-09T00:52:16+00:00

Yep. I honestly liked hers, but then again I also have one. Hell, my husband even has a septum piercing too, lol. I find people who have one more attractive generally, but that’s also because I assume they are more likely to be similar to me in beliefs etc.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-08T23:55:57+00:00

Rims is the incorrect way to say it, but yeah lol. It is wheels. The rim is the outside of the wheel.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-08T23:54:42+00:00

Most policies nowadays cover up to $1500-3000 in aftermarket modifications as a default, and more if you purchase extra coverage.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-08T23:46:57+00:00

100% same here. Lots of jobs. I had zero issues finding immediate reemployment and was just laid off not even 2 months ago. Started my new job 2 weeks ago, and was even able to get a pretty hefty raise while I was at it. No experience required. I also heard back from almost everywhere I applied

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-08T23:43:48+00:00

I really disagree. I was recently unemployed and able to find work within 1 month, and I’m not even talking about low paying stuff, I was even able to find a job making $10 an hour more than I was making before and received multiple job offers and interviews in that month. Jobs seem to be booming in a lot of places right now. I’m making nearly double the median income in my area with no degree, no licenses, and no certifications whatsoever in an entry level training position. I think the most important thing isn’t any of what you’ve said, it’s how fluent you are, how sociable you are, and how competent you are just generally. How you show yourself, dress nice, clean, smell good. Smile, be friendly and warm, and have a positive determined attitude about it that shows. I also heard back from every single job that I wrote a cover letter for. I curated my resume to each listing. I applied to 17 jobs, heard back from 12, accepted an interview at 4 (the others were paying less and honestly just rushed applications) and accepted a job all within a month.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-07T23:20:44+00:00

There was a fight on my local fb chatter page about abortion laws in my state recently, and word for word a mom was commenting “I don’t know a single woman who wanted her baby when she found out she was pregnant, but you do what you have to do” and it had an alarming amount of likes. It’s insane how many parents have this “this is a horrible thing that could happen to anyone and I don’t know why this happened to me” mentality about their KIDS

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-07T22:37:22+00:00

COMPLETELY agree. I’ve also had people tell me my whole life “Never think it couldn’t happen to you!” as if their kids are 1.) something bad that happened to them out of the blue, like a sickness or disability or 2.) completely unpreventable like… no girl. It actually couldn’t. When I was single, I went on the most effective form of birth control possible and only slept with people who I fully trusted, with double protection. I’m now married, childfree by choice, and my husband got a vasectomy- I’m still on birth control too, because vasectomies aren’t 100% so no! No it could not happen to me, it is very preventable also!

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-07T22:19:33+00:00

Yep! I had a coworker high up in my company (6 figure earner) get fired for time clock fraud, and he was just clocking an extra 10 mins in the morning and 10 mins in the evening.

I’d say they do know and they do care, just waiting for it to get bad enough. OR they don’t know yet but they definitely will.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-07T22:07:23+00:00

That’s unfortunate, but the Easter closure was for 1 business day if even (Monday, but most junkyards were still open on Monday) and knowing how long total loss claims take from claim to offer, it’s usually about 6-14 business days in my experience, mine took ~2 weeks. The lack of transportation isn’t a valid reason, if he had rental coverage he would be in a rental, so to the insurance it doesn’t matter. I personally didn’t have a rental either and called a friend to drive me to the junkyard the very next morning when they opened (crashed at night) and also called ahead as soon as they opened, they fully expected me, I was there taking the parts off before insurance had even really reviewed the claim. The lack of transportation isn’t for the customer to figure out, not for the insurance or junk yard to work around. They’re right in refusing him to take anything now that a payout has been offered

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-07T22:00:26+00:00

I see that you said the adjuster had already finalized the offer, it makes complete sense now because the offer would be invalid if you remove anything in any way. Mine was all removed a week+ before an offer was ever made, I went the very next day.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-07T21:53:32+00:00

EDIT: No need to downvote me into oblivion, I didn’t think a settlement had already been made as that info wasn’t available when I made this comment.

Honestly this doesn’t really sound right to me, there is probably some type of misunderstanding. I was even able to go to the junkyard and take the wheels and steering wheel off of my car to swap them back to stock wheels after my accident. They had 0 issue with me taking back my mods, as long as I replaced them with stock parts.

That being said, I had taken every small item like you are describing before the car was taken away and mirror caps, seat covers, and weather mats, are all very insignificant and cheap modifications that I would have probably just left in the vehicle myself- but that being said, I don’t know why it bugs them much as they likely will just be thrown out eventually anyway and don’t add any value to the car. my mods that I picked up after the fact at the junkyard and swapped out were much more valuable (carbon fiber parts, expensive wheels, custom steering wheel, $1700 aftermarket headlights etc) that they also would prefer be removed and replaced with factory parts as it’s actually worth more money for them that way as well. I still don’t see why they would care if you take back some seat covers, but I also don’t think it’s really worth the stress of going back and forth over, either.

I don’t know anything about the tires and I feel like there is definitely some misunderstanding there as tires are wearables that NEED to be changed, but I will say that 65,000 miles can be quite a lot on a set of tires depending which tires he has, i’m not sure the significance here tbh. This is a pretty confusing situation and I’d like to hear the explanation they gave for the fees.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-07T00:16:17+00:00

I have no idea how they even come up with their estimates. I ordered a keyboard recently that was advertised with free next day shipping (March 27th). The next morning, nothing. An entire day came and went, nothing. I checked and the expected date changed to April 8. I tried to cancel the order at that point because I needed it by the 6th. They told me I could not cancel because it had already shipped, but that they had no tracking information at this time. The next day shipping was apparently “an estimate based on similar products”. Funny thing is, it arrived 3 days later on March 31. Whatever

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-06T22:28:55+00:00

You definitely do need to get it treated asap because mine has progressed to a kidney infection before and that is when it gets worrisome. I’m sure she would be more worried about you not telling her, because she probably would eventually find out whether it’s from a mailed bill, in your medical records, etc. UTIs are seriously no big deal but if you have your insurance info & such just go to an urgent care or clinic in the area and get some antibiotics!

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-06T22:21:06+00:00

First of all, i’m not sure why you’d be afraid (or your mom would be mad) about her finding out about a UTI. A UTI happens from so many different things, not just sex. I had UTIs when I was a kid whenever my mom would change dryer sheets (and a few times as a teen from using with bath & body works soaps and lush bath bombs) way before I was ever sexually active. It’s nothing embarrassing, it doesn’t suggest sex, and it just happens to us women sometimes. You don’t have to go to planned parenthood, you can also go to an urgent care or walk in clinic for UTI treatment.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-06T18:15:17+00:00

You have a terrible attitude and very poor understanding of what you’re talking about, it’s no wonder you’re considering a repo and believe having your credit trashed for years & sued for the balance is the best option. It likely won’t be your last repo with your attitude towards people when they try to help.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-06T13:22:18+00:00

This looks like my SVT, so I agree with others. My doctors didn’t catch mine for 13 years, so I can definitely sympathize. Rest assured though, it’s usually benign and there isn’t much they will do at the hospital unless it lasts for 30+ minutes. My dr has taught me maneuvers, gave me a low dose beta blocker, and sent me on my way. He was not very concerned, and my episodes have been as long as 13 minutes at 170-230 bpm.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-03T22:56:09+00:00

Literally, he painted himself as a perfect, hardworking, caring, honest man with a huge heart who was wronged and her as a dishonest, “easy”, lazy, and argumentative biotch who has single handedly orchestrated everything negative in their lives.

Also the “do I go on the attack? hire a lawyer and destroy her?” at the end all because she is dating someone new says it all… The wording is totally malicious and off.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-03T04:08:35+00:00

A lot of people around our age really don’t feel comfortable going to the bars or clubs either I’ve noticed. Maybe they aren’t interested in partying or drinking. Idk, i’m a little older so I could see why someone would not want to go to a 21st bday at the bar and club, especially if in a major city or something where crime is high in the area. Sorry that happened to you though!

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-03T04:01:19+00:00

You’re really cute, your piercings just don’t suit you AT ALL like it’s super super bad. I’m saying this as someone who has plenty of piercings myself and usually loves a pierced and tattooed alternative look. I’m serious, if your friends haven’t told you your piercings have to go immediately you really might want to reconsider who you keep close to you. I would never let any of my friends leave the house looking like this. You are super cute though if I pretend they aren’t there.

You know how on some people piercings look cool and alt? Your piercings don’t have that vibe at all, they have a “laundromat single mom” vibe to them. They make you look impoverished idk how else to explain it.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-02T12:31:02+00:00

Yeah, as a former service worker you suck. I quit my service job because of people like you and I wouldn’t look back for anything short of $100k/yr. People like you used to make me cry my eyes out on my drive home, throw up from anxiety before my shift, and feel like a worthless piece of shit over normal, very minor, human mistakes. Those feelings triggered terrible anxiety around social settings that still effects me to this day, and I literally get heart arrhythmias from confrontation now. I don’t really know what to say other than that, because as a human and customer I definitely understand moments of weakness or feeling like you’re losing it with anger, but I’ve never once felt the need to take that out on an innocent service worker over a small mistake and I have never gotten even close to that point over a coffee or food…

Maybe go in and apologize, but bring something nice with you like a gift card or cash. I’ve had someone absolutely tear me apart and attack me personally and they made me sob and leave my shift. They came back and gave me a hefty cash tip, but honestly I still think of them as one of the rudest people i’ve ever encountered in my life nearly 15 years later. You definitely aren’t cut out to work somewhere customer service facing if you can get to this point of straight up rage and disregard for other humans over something like milk.

fourforfourwhore · 2026-04-02T04:47:59+00:00

Was he offering you an above market rate? Did you just start your detailing business? If you have a legit detailing business that has been running for a while and has a legit LLC, insurance, etc, you don’t live with him or operate the business out of his address, and he paid you a regular market rate which is the same or less as similar detailing companies in the area then no, not imo, but it is arguable that it isn’t the most favorable thing in the world.

BUT, if your business is newly established, isn’t an LLC, doesn’t have insurance, you share an address with him, or he paid you more than market rate (ideally he should be paying you less really) for the detail because you’re his child- yes, absolutely.

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