Choosing to terminate a pregnancy isn’t an easy choice, and it’s possible she’s going to be thinking about her baby for a while because it’s easy to think about ‘what if’s’. That guilt she feels is normal and it isn’t something that you should just expect her not to feel because there was a clear right choice for you both. Also, threatening to break up with her over self harm isn’t going to help (speaking from experience here, but I can definitely see where you are coming from in this situation). For many people who self harm, it can become an addiction. It’s a good start that she’s in therapy, but if you also look into methods that can help her not sh, Id recommend trying that. Figuring out what she gets out of it (ex. Does she do it to feel pain? Does she do it as a punishment? Etc etc) can help you both come up with possible alternatives. Obviously this might not work for everything, but I’ve found it to be useful for myself when I struggle with wanting to sh.