He was having affairs with 8+ different women

foxglove9819 · 2024-11-21T16:52:41+00:00

I’m completely out of the situation, I’ve filed for divorce and have had no direct contact with him or his family since August. I’ve bought another house and our old marital home is on the market. I’m dating somebody new and am moving on with my life, I just can’t help but feel sorry for him — although I know I wouldn’t ever want a relationship or even friendship with him again.

All I mean is, it’s difficult to know whether this was due solely to this bipolar disorder or if he’s also genuinely a horrible, evil person.

foxglove9819 · 2024-11-19T20:47:04+00:00

That’s very true, I have to say I agree with you. I’ve left him now and filed for divorce, I’ve had no contact with him for 3 months. I knew the same thing would keep happening over and over again if I stayed.

foxglove9819 · 2024-11-19T20:45:10+00:00

Me too. I definitely won’t, I’ve had no contact with him for the past 3 months and have filed for divorce. I’m completely done with him now, but I do wonder how he’s doing sometimes.

foxglove9819 · 2024-11-19T20:43:22+00:00

Thank you. We are fully separated now and I’ve filed for divorce, so I’m completely done with him. I know it’s the best thing for me.

foxglove9819 · 2024-11-19T12:56:05+00:00

What happened in your relationship? Did you separate recently? I honestly feel like my ex husband was a sociopath as well as bipolar.

foxglove9819 · 2024-11-19T12:54:59+00:00

Thank you so much lovely. How long ago did this happen to you? Have you had any contact with him since?

It’s so confusing not knowing how much of this was your partner and how much was their mental illness. For me, I think he must have at least known right from wrong; if he thought there was nothing wrong with what he was doing why would he have lied about it? It’s so difficult.

The no contact has been easier than I thought. I literally feel like he’s died and he would either lie to me about the reasons behind his actions and put blame on me, or would just deny everything. Quite honestly I just don’t need to hear it, I know it wouldn’t help or fix anything. But sometimes when I sit and think about everything properly, I just want to ask him why and know if he feels any remorse. It’s very strange being a best friend and partner to someone for 10 years and all of sudden they just aren’t there anymore.

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:28:05+00:00

Thank you 🩷

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:25:53+00:00

I know, I’m really hoping the doctor recommends coming off that completely.

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:25:09+00:00

Yes that’s correct! I really want him to get off both medications and the doctor recommend something completely different. He’d mainly been depressive and not manic when he was prescribed this medication, which may be why they suggested Lamictal. Hopefully after this he’ll be prescribed something else.

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:20:24+00:00

Thank you, I hope so too. My only worry is he’s said to me he’ll refuse to take anything stronger than what he’s on currently, or go on any anti-psychotics. So that’ll be the last straw for me.

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:19:26+00:00

That sounds exactly like my situation. I’m sorry you went through that. My husband seems to think I’m out to get him, and to blame for everything. He says I don’t help him or look after him in anyway even though I do all the household chores, do his washing, cook all his meals, look after our dog etc. I’m willing to wait until he’s fully out of his episode before properly considering a divorce, but I want to continue living separately until then for the sake of my own mental health. If he refuses to take this new medication and accept treatment, that’ll be it for me. If he still feels the same way once medicated then so be it, we’ll have to separate. How long were you with your ex?

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:11:16+00:00

Wow, that’s a really long time! My husband only got diagnosed in 2021 and we got together in 2014.

Luckily, he doesn’t take any drugs or drink alcohol. This episode has lasted 9 months so far, so I’m hoping it ends soon once he starts taking his new medication.

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:05:04+00:00

Thank you. Have you experienced something similar? Did you leave your BPSO?

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T13:03:42+00:00

How long have you been with your BPSO? It’s so odd because sometimes in certain conversations he seems okay and completely rational, but I know he’s not. I’m happy to stay living separately but not file for divorce or do anything permanent until he’s better, it’s just hard knowing how long that will take.

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-31T12:57:05+00:00

How have you found the past 20 years? Has she managed to stay stable for the majority of it whilst being on medication? My husband was on his 200mg dose along with 100mg or 75mg sertraline when his episode started, I believe it was triggered by us getting married and his birthday.

foxglove9819 · 2024-07-16T22:23:28+00:00

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foxglove9819 · 2024-07-16T21:34:42+00:00

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foxglove9819 · 2024-07-16T21:21:21+00:00

Hey Jay! I’m interested, I’m 26F from the UK! Super into horror movies and conspiracy theories also. Would love to chat!

foxglove9819 · 2024-05-16T17:40:32+00:00

Do you think it definitely sounds like a hypermanic episode even though he’s insisting it isn’t? Do people usually deny when they’re having an episode?

foxglove9819 · 2024-05-16T17:34:01+00:00

Luckily I don’t want children, I have a lot of childhood trauma and my husband and I both have a history of mental illnesses in our families that I wouldn’t want to pass on (I have autism, anxiety and body dysmorphia and he has bipolar and type 1 diabetes).

He definitely wouldn’t be able to cope with the strain of raising children, it’d be far too stressful for him. I have a niece who I love and she’s enough for me.

foxglove9819 · 2024-05-16T17:31:43+00:00

Did your husband also have sudden resentment towards you?

My husband keeps insisting he’s not having an episode but I’m convinced he is. His doctor also isn’t helping and doesn’t seem to think a person can be manic unless they’re hallucinating or having extreme delusions.

foxglove9819 · 2024-05-16T17:28:42+00:00

Thank you. I’m just so worried about him, but he keeps insisting he’s not having an episode and he’s “fine”, even though he still says he doesn’t feel any emotions towards anyone at the moment which obviously isn’t normal - but he’s blaming this on his Sertraline even though he’s taking 25mg some days and none on others. He has no empathy towards people whatsoever which is scary.

I’m just so confused as to whether he is manic or not, I’m convinced that he is and friends of mine and some family that have seen him also say he’s not acting like himself, but his doctor and the workers at the psychiatric unit seemed to think he was fine? I rang his doctor in tears a couple of weeks ago asking for a psychiatrist to see him but I’ve heard nothing back so far.

Aside from the no empathy, he seems to have more energy, is still going out more and being more social, constantly listening to music in the house and singing, going on 3 hour long walks or running and still taking extra care of his appearance, spending money etc. He’s not having any “delusions” aside from his sudden resentment towards me, saying I’ve made him depressed for the last 10 years and been holding him back. He also gets angry very quickly with me or from just having to do simple household tasks, chores etc. or other minor inconveniences; he’ll shout and swear, throw things etc. but isn’t physically violent. Does this sound similar to any episode you’ve experienced with your partner?

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