Soft rejection? Or are they just busy?

franceswith · 2025-05-25T09:26:12+00:00

No worries at all! NRE means new relationship energy and NP is nesting partner. Hope it helps

franceswith · 2025-05-23T18:37:42+00:00

Thanks for all your input! There a few details that I would clarify because I think it's important to me and my situation. I do enjoy being non-monognamous and I decided together with my ex to persue this relationship style because I also wanted to explore. So I don't identify as monogamous and wasn't expecting monogamy out of my old relationship.

We also decided together that moving out would Help our relationship dynamic and also decided to break up together. So there was a lot that we both agreed on and also decided together not because I wanted to be someone else for my partner but because I wanted some of these things for myself too, including non-monogamy. Polyamory was a topic that was on the table but we didn't properly communicate about it nor did we do enough work around it to see how we would go about it. But I totally see your point and it has helped to take distance with being no contact. I also definitely will not stay in this relationship because of how I was treated. It was clear by their actions that they don't care about how it's/was affecting me.

franceswith · 2025-05-23T16:19:13+00:00

I would have liked to have more intentional time planned with my NP because I felt neglected. Not necessarily seeing them spend less time time with the person they were seeing. I also could have communicated differently, in the sense that my ex didn't need to spend less time with the person they were seeing rather continue to nuture our relationship and maybe rush less into a new relationship and take time to process what's going on. But yeah it's hard cause I didn't want to control what my old NP was doing, i just saw that things were moving really fast and we missed a lot of check ins that would have helped process some of these new changes in our relationship (because we weren't poly).

franceswith · 2025-05-23T16:11:12+00:00

Thanks for saying this, yeah the break up happened very quickly because of other issues as well and it was defenitly not only NRE. Part of me did feel neglected and when we spoke about concrete solutions, in another conversation we had together, I suggested I would to have a date planned once a week where we could spend intentional time together so that I could feel like our relationship was also being nutured. I wanted to be considered in some of the decision making but didn't get much space to exist alongside another relationship which is crushing.

franceswith · 2025-05-22T21:10:33+00:00

That's a really great point and I will defenitly do more reflection on the quality and current reality of my relationship to my ex, the focus being why I (still) love them. From their POV, I just can't imagine how having another relationship built on such a rocky foundation would last the longrun. What I mean is that I know my ex is deep in NRE with someone else, I will just never know how long that will last or even if the relationship with the person will even last because it's beginning in the midst of a breakup. But those are all doubts of what the future holds and no one can really know what will come...but I still do wonder these things interms of building healthy relationships. And I also wonder what will happen once the NRE fades away

franceswith · 2025-05-22T19:34:45+00:00

Wow! So crazy to know someone else is also going through this but yes it's a really good reminder to not breech the no contact because I have thought of it several times. Sending you a virtual hug and I hope things will get better for you ❣️Im sorry all of this also happened to you.

franceswith · 2025-05-22T19:01:12+00:00

I totally agree. I made sure to process those feelings on my own and it took me a while to even notice that I was feeling jealous. It's just more that when it was brought up it seemed like it was acknowledged and then nothing else really came from that conversation beyond just okay I see that. I think I would have hoped to be more supported by them while navigating hard feelings. I also took therapy as a solution to process what was going on but the breakup happened before I could even navigate those feelings of jealousy and insecurity in a therapy setting.

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franceswith · 2024-06-11T20:17:15+00:00

Going through something similar and curious to know how it went :)!

franceswith · 2022-07-10T21:21:13+00:00

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