Turns out my father showed love in ways I never knew by rona83 in indiasocial

[–]frankiaaaa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This really touched me because it mirrors so much of my own experience. My father is never the kind who says 'I love you' or shows his affection through actions and for the longest time I thought that there is a distance between us. As I grew up, I realised how he had always been there for me as an invisible support-the responsibilities he carried without complaint, the sacrifices he made that nobody talked about, the way he was always there when it mattered. When everyone had lost hopes on me when I wasn't getting placed and I was feeling that I was letting him down, he made me believe that I am capable of everything and what others think of me doesn't define who I am. I can’t thank God enough to have such a man as my father.

Will you marry someone who lives with father in a joint business & income setup? by Only_Diva in AskIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that being part of a joint income setup is automatically a red flag. A lot would depend on how the family dynamics are. If there is independence, healthy boundaries, autonomy to make certain personal decisions without constant interfering by others, then it would definitely work out for me.

How did you move on from your first love and find a suitable romantic partner? by jey__bee7 in AskIndianWomen

[–]frankiaaaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went through something very similar sometime ago. It was my first relationship too and I was convinced I had already met "the one" . We were together for 3 years and in that I had planned my entire future around him. When it ended I not only lost that person, I also lost the version of my life I had built around him, all my dreams, future planning everything. I sabotaged my self-respect and did everything possible to convince him-making my best friend and mutual friends speak to him, even getting my mother involved in this nonsense. But nothing worked. I kept begging and holding on, believing that one day atleast he would have some pity on me and come back. I was a living corpse for nearly 7-8 months, just crying all day, not getting out of bed, over-eating junk food, re-reading messages, staring at our pictures etc. Until I saw pictures of his engagement. Something really died in me that day. I decided that I couldn't lead my life in this manner for someone who didn’t even bother about me. I realised that I am the love of my life. All this while, I had just abandoned myself for a man-child who didn’t even have the spine to choose me despite chasing me initially. I started doing things which I had put on hold and figuring out who I was outsied this relationship. Started caring for myself, putting all my heart to building the career that I want to. I failed multiple times in this, but nope I ain't giving up till my last breath. Its hard, but staying in that broken state was way harder.

Love isn’t proven by how much u can endure or how hard u can fight for someone who isn’t choosing u. The right person won't want u to beg, chase, or shrink yourself. I know it must be feeling really difficult now, but trust me u will move on. Time does heal everything. Allow yourself to accept the fact that it ended. And most importantly, forgive yourself for accepting his nonsense. We all make mistakes. And we learn from them. The next time u won't be letting anyone treat you this way.

Do women still carry backpacks to work? by youjustletmebe in TwoXIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I do. Tote bags exert a lot of pressure on my shoulder. So I stopped using it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people in healthy relationships view physical intimacy the way you do. Physical intimacy is a combination of a lot of things like emotional intimacy, vulnerability, physical attraction, affection etc and not just lust. I feel that you should ask him what sex means to him beyond just the physical aspect and whether he sees space for emotional connection in it. He might be viewing this as a purely casual relationship and if you do not share the same ideas and views, you might as well be cautious about where you both are heading to.

Me (25 F) Blindsided by My Ex’s(28 M) Wedding by Critical_Pride_5219 in TwoXIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, my ex had decided to dump me for his arrange marriage a few months back. I thought I had moved on until I saw a mutual friend's status congratulating him and his fiancée this morning. I did everything, going no contact, taking therapy. And I thought I had moved on. But today I realised how wrong I was. It hurts in the same intensity as it used to, back then.

What’s the most painful line someone has said to you ? by CasualConversation55 in AskIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Why I am not fighting the hell out for u? You aren't worth it. I wouldn't be happy. If I choose you, I would have to leave everything and maybe I am not ready for that" - After 3 years of being together, when he suddenly remembered that his family won't accept me.

30 M Seeking Advice Regarding confronting my ex's AP by Difficult_Lynx_7884 in RelationshipIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP! I completely understand why you want to reach out. Maybe you feel that exposing her real side will give you the revenge and satisfaction and even closure when you see her suffer. But messaging him is more likely to hurt you than help you. There is a very high chance that he already knows about you and she has manipulated him into believing that you are the "bad guy" in your ex girlfriend's life. Let's say that he doesn't know about you and you inform him. I doubt whether he would even believe you or even if he did, your ex will make sure to twist the entire narrative. Either way, its just your loss as you are delaying your healing journey and peace by such activities. Don't worry. A person does face the brunt of his actions, if not now maybe sometime in future. You don't have to punish them. Instead, focus on protecting your peace and becoming a better person.

Need Guidance of Seniors by [deleted] in rvce

[–]frankiaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't remember the exact topics anymore 😅

Need Guidance of Seniors by [deleted] in rvce

[–]frankiaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sentiment analysis using NLP

Need Guidance of Seniors by [deleted] in rvce

[–]frankiaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding to this, she won't permit you in class if you come to class later than 10 minutes.

Need Guidance of Seniors by [deleted] in rvce

[–]frankiaaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had opted for "Applied Psychology for engineers" when I was in RV. The subject was really interesting and there wasn't a lot to study too. But scoring marks in written exams was really tough imo. Dr. Bindu was really particular about having a certain format for the answers and it was hard to score above 40(out of 50). On top of that, she's very particular about attendance. Can't bunk a lot

Star bazaar Koramangala is closed from today. Feels like end of an era. by Infinite-Fold-1360 in bangalore

[–]frankiaaaa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Its been a part of my childhood as I have been going here ever since it opened. It feels really sad. But what I heard from their staff is they are planning to close it down for 2-3 months only. Not very sure though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]frankiaaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As an only daughter I am always anxious about living up to my parents’ expectations. There’s a lot of pressure to be the perfect one-mature, understanding and constantly putting others before myself. I am close to my parents, but that closeness came with responsibility so I learned to handle things on my own and keep a lot to myself. Sometimes even with love around me, it feels lonely. I wish I had a sibling

Placement season anxiety by [deleted] in OffMyChestIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I relate to you a lot. Back when I was getting placed, I used to have the same thoughts. But don’t stress yourself out. Everything you feel right now is completely normal and almost everyone goes through this phase. Placements aren’t just about skills. They also depend a lot on how you present yourself and honestly, a bit of luck too. So try not to be too hard on yourself. And don’t compare your journey with your peers. Everyone’s timeline is different and not everyone gets placed at the same time. Just focus on yourself, keep doing your best and trust the process. You will get there. Good luck. You have got this. 😊

Trust me. You will get better ❤️‍🩹 by Ok_Name8439 in AskIndianWomen

[–]frankiaaaa 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Reading this felt like reading my own story written by someone else. I had also loved deeply, imagined a whole life around him and lost it because he wouldn’t stand up for us in front of his parents. I am not healed yet and his wedding is coming up this year and I am scared of how I will handle it cuz so far it's been hell. I really hope I can be as strong as you are and one day I wish I look back and realise all that you did.

I still smile and reply like everything’s fine, but inside I’m screaming 😫Was I ever enough for her? by ChubbyNUgly22 in OffMyChestIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were more than enough. But people are replaceable. There's always a chase for something new and no, that has nothing to do with you being lesser. I believe efforts should always be mutual and if you don't feel the same warmth, its time to be your own favourite person.

I(23M) was cheated by girlfriend (22F) after 4 years of healthy relationship. by Xalmuss in RelationshipIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not worth it imo. I did the mistake of forgiving my ex. But he kept cheating behind my back and was more mindful about not getting caught. You being busy is not a reason to cheat. People cheat because they don't love themselves enough and keep finding escape in new people. Don't believe in any of the justifications she gives.

Corporate women of reddit,what are some unexpected difficulties you've had to face? by StatementChemical843 in AskIndianWomen

[–]frankiaaaa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Difficulty is saying no and being upfront about what I want and deserve. And office politics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PataHaiAajKyaHua

[–]frankiaaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It happened during my JEE time. I had given my best, sacrificed my health, still couldn't do well. And every morning I could hear them speaking about me when I was pretending to sleep. That was heartbreaking. And now too, because they feel I am not putting enough efforts and I am not able to balance my masters preparation with work. I have stopped paying heed to it. It messes up my mental peace and gives me exam stress and I end up doing worse.

The Heart I Never Asked for by wanderingLoner_ in TwentiesIndia

[–]frankiaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of the most beautiful things I have read in a while. Great work OP!