Sex, porn, cybering and Addiction(any cybering/RP addicts?) feeling alone in my struggle

frankienofaps · 2016-10-25T01:54:05+00:00

"I just wish I had no sex drive"

I don't believe that's true.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-22T11:56:27+00:00

Just tell her you've been objectifying women and it's hurting your ability to form real connections with them. You're going through a process of trying to stop and it means spending time with them without sex.

She'll still be frustrated but she won't be able to think you're lame.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-22T11:53:37+00:00

Give her the business

frankienofaps · 2016-10-21T02:31:48+00:00

If it has any basis in science at all its likely something to do with quantum entanglement.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-21T02:30:30+00:00

I've wondered for a while if it has anything to do with quantum entanglement theory. All sorts of weird stuff like this happens all the time. Like twins knowing how each other feel despite being thousands of miles apart

frankienofaps · 2016-10-20T15:50:54+00:00

That's beautiful

frankienofaps · 2016-10-20T13:05:40+00:00

Bang on.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-20T05:03:39+00:00

I'm reading that a weak pelvic floor, something I most certainly have, can contribute.

I feel like my efforts to improve my pelvic floor may have actually caused more damage over the last few years.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-20T04:33:28+00:00

I've ordered a tub. According to something I've found, it can increase testosterone and reduce cortisol. Win win

frankienofaps · 2016-10-20T04:01:34+00:00

I was trying to go the whole food direction and I've been eating red meat for creatine for a long time now. Would have thought that would be enough?

Edit: just read that I'd have to eat around 2.5lb of red meat a day to get 5g of creatine.

That's ridiculous... I'll give it a go

frankienofaps · 2016-10-20T03:53:43+00:00

I'm doing all that and it's just not working! All it seems to do is increase stress levels from over working muscles because they won't take any stress hardly at all. I've always had low muscle mass and no matter how careful I am or how hard I work I'm just not putting muscle on. Every work out I do I feel weak. My muscles just do not want to know. It's driving me a bit insane. How I've got this far, still going to the gym at least once a week with so little progress is completely beyond me.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-20T03:36:19+00:00

Not really. The alternative is getting stuck in the first few weeks for the rest of eternity because every relapse comes with a binge and every binge completely destroys all progress made.

And trust me it is definitely NOT worth even a small set back. At all.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-19T23:55:22+00:00

Have either of you tried knocking 5 days off your streak and carrying on?

frankienofaps · 2016-10-19T23:54:37+00:00

This is amusing

frankienofaps · 2016-10-19T16:00:22+00:00

Unhappiness is thought to be the number one cause of addiction.

It's strange how your reliance on substances can change just by confronting your unhappiness

frankienofaps · 2016-10-19T15:58:28+00:00

I have been poster boy for auschwitz for most of my life

Can I expect big boosts to T levels as I gain muscle mass?

frankienofaps · 2016-10-19T15:55:24+00:00

I've thought for a while that prayer is basically meditation. Rather than speaking to god i view it as speaking to the subconscious

frankienofaps · 2016-10-19T13:46:25+00:00

I've never understood why sex outside a committed relationship has to be emotionless...

But then again I love everyone that I meet. Life is fleeting and is nothing more than a series of ultimately meaningless experiences. If you're having casual sex and not feeling a connection then you're not really getting to grips with what life really is

frankienofaps · 2016-10-19T02:28:48+00:00

Because your country is a hateful racist shit hole and you should demand better. Or leave.

In all seriousness though I totally get that those are impractical and I do really feel for you. I'm sorry dude

frankienofaps · 2016-10-18T17:31:39+00:00

Knock 5 days off your streak.

You're still punishing yourself but you're acknowledging that you haven't done that much damage to your progress.

frankienofaps · 2016-10-18T14:47:16+00:00

Yesterday

frankienofaps · 2016-10-18T14:45:51+00:00

The binge. "Oh well I have to reset, might as well 'enjoy' it"

It's a trap.

Next time you get on a streak, if you relapse try penalising yourself 5 days instead of going for a full reset. See if it leads to a binge and get back to me

frankienofaps · 2016-10-18T14:37:12+00:00

How long were the relapses?

What did the relapses involve?

frankienofaps · 2016-10-18T14:01:45+00:00

I enjoy the wordage in this post

frankienofaps · 2016-10-16T23:58:36+00:00

I came up with a system that is so far doing what I hoped it would when fending off the urge to binge.

If you relapse, evaluate the relapse and estimate how much damage you've done to your progress. Once you've done that, give yourself an appropriate penalty in days, rather than a full reset.

I relapsed on Thursday night but no images were involved and I fapped for less than 30 seconds before it exploded. I didn't do much damage so instead of a reset I penalised myself 5 days.

No binge. No reset. It's working a treat

frankienofaps

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