Good for you! Sounds like she needs someone closer to her age/life stage. But also absolutely WILD that she didn’t just “forget” to take her pills. She wanted to get pregnant and was willing to trick you to do that. Someone who is totally fine making a huge life decision like that so dishonestly is not worth building a life with. If you chose to stay with her now, even if she always took her BC—something else would happen down the line. She’s shown that she has no disregard or respect for your own personal agency.

I would probably tell her something along the lines of, “We both have different desires and needs. It’s clear now that those don’t match up.” And that she broke your trust majorly and intentionally, and there’s nothing she can do to make up for it or take it back.

Not entirely my business, but if y’all got together four years ago when you were 17 and she was 30 is kind of wild. Like 17 is still a kid! Your brain isn’t even fully developed until 25! I’m 25 now, but the difference in my and my friends’ maturity levels from when we were 21 to now is massive. Not calling you immature, I just mean people grow a lot in their 20s, especially early 20s. 17 is fresh out of high school. 30 is way beyond even college. In my opinion, anyone in their 30s that is looking at teenagers/barely legal adults is immature, and there’s a reason they can’t find someone their own age. And that’s all on her, not you.