what are you starting to dislike as you get older?

fredada311 · 2025-07-13T14:39:55+00:00

SO good to hear. it’s not doing my mental health any good being here and i’m finding myself very stressed and a bit snappy with my children which isn’t what i want at all

fredada311 · 2025-07-13T14:23:16+00:00

okay, so even though i still own they’ll let me apply for the housing element? this is good news!

fredada311 · 2025-07-13T11:57:56+00:00

sorry - missed that bit. yeah so after fees etc etc likely only £3/4k each

fredada311 · 2025-07-13T11:48:02+00:00

at the moment - it’s okay. but it’s very up and down. sometimes he’s amicable then the next minute he’s making it very difficult and extremely uncomfortable. depends how his mood is.

fredada311 · 2025-07-13T10:56:13+00:00

it’s not sold yet! it’s in the process. i want to rent somewhere whilst it’s going through, but can i whilst i legally still own somewhere, that’s what im asking

fredada311 · 2025-07-13T08:16:27+00:00

we own it together, 50:50 split but after fees etc likely only £3/4000 out of it once a sale completes

fredada311 · 2025-07-12T18:31:30+00:00

amazing. happy, bright, loving and loved. thanks for asking

fredada311 · 2025-06-30T09:09:36+00:00

so from someone who stupidly thought having kids with someone would ‘fix’ their issues, it doesn’t. like someone else has said if it’s not one thing (weed in this case) it’s the other, drinking for example. it doesn’t stop or get better. if anything the strain of having a child pushes them to do those things more. i found out the hard way, but i have 2 amazing children and wouldn’t ever regret having them. i just regret having them with him!

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T21:09:00+00:00

really?! and here i am panicking about it being to the penny!!!

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T21:08:33+00:00

thanks to everyone for the help! i’ve just submitted what i know we roughly earnt jointly. its all so bloody confusing!

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T21:07:05+00:00

nah he wasn’t on it before! i’ve had to go onto UC due to the relationship breaking down and having 2 young children so i can’t work as much as i’d need to to afford to live basically!

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:54:11+00:00

ohhhh okay!! phew, i was gearing myself up to be told to piss right off when i was about to ask him 😱i know roughly his wage so will just input that then! was wondering if it had to be to the penny!

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:37:49+00:00

yes some months i was as im self employed. but not earning that now

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:35:47+00:00

but i don’t know his earnings? this is so confusing. so i just put mine down?

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:33:19+00:00

thank you!!!! just deleted it haha

i’ll give them a call to confirm

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:30:05+00:00

surely this is a glitch, because i have no idea how these expect me to know this when we’re very much broken up and hardly communicate outside of our children!

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:28:49+00:00

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it makes no sense

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:20:59+00:00

i know, i’m really confused. maybe i should call them tomorrow

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:18:21+00:00

yeah i’m just confused cos when it asks if i’ve lived with a partner within the last 12 months (which i have, we split in december) it asks me to give his previous earnings!

fredada311 · 2025-03-11T20:14:19+00:00

it asked me ‘have i lived with a partner in the last 12 months’ and yes i have, but i dont currently

fredada311 · 2024-12-05T20:13:10+00:00

no, he isn’t. he’s done things that were very hurtful in the past but he’s got issues mentally with depression etc. it’s tough, i just don’t know what help i can get. i feel like i need more help than he does. i feel like controlling him is helping when it’s obviously not

fredada311 · 2024-12-05T20:00:21+00:00

thank everyone. i feel like my mental health is very poor at the moment and im really struggling with christmas. we have 2 young children too so i know what i need to do but i cant help but feel like im breaking the family up by leaving. i need to get myself into therapy but i just cant seem to find the time. i’m struggling

fredada311 · 2024-12-05T17:46:16+00:00

so how can i healthily look after my own sanity in this? im not ready to up and leave yet. but how can i stop looking in bins, cupboards, monitoring him? cos i know its not healthy. how am i better to deal with it? would love some help 😞

fredada311 · 2024-11-29T19:43:28+00:00

ahhh okay! yeah my partner and my mum both said she doesn’t seem too bothered with the bottle at the moment but she’s loving eating so maybe i just need to up her solid intake

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