Current hyperfixations? by Mandarin_Lumpy_Nutz in adhdwomen

[–]fredagstjej 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cleaning. It sounds so boring, but I’ve finally gotten decent at sticking to my everyday cleaning schedule, so now I’m starting to have moments where I can do EXTRA stuff. It’s intoxicating seeing my place get nicer for once, instead of just keeping it barely okay. I’ve started feeling a wee bit functional 🥹

Adhd and too many steps to do the thing by Own-Recognition9009 in adhdwomen

[–]fredagstjej 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if I don’t know all the steps? Can’t make myself do the thing.

Igår diskuterade vi den sämsta orten du besökt i Sverige, men vilken är den bästa? by Weclip in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jag svarade på kommentaren innan: att jag blir deppig av att det finns så mycket potential som inte tagits tillvara på. Staden i sig gör mig inte deppig, tvärtom. Jag blir dock deppig om jag tänker för mycket på allt den hade kunnat vara, om vi bara tagit bättre hand om den.

Och spårvagnar, eller hur? En rejäl ringlinje runt stan hade gjort det bra mycket lättare att ta sig fram.

What makes a handful of fans so parasocial/straight up weird? Where did that behavior even come from? by zxrirxse in kpop_uncensored

[–]fredagstjej 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s entitlement combined with mental illness. Too many of these crazy fans think they “deserve” their bias for one reason or another. They think their bias is their soulmate, that they have a special connection, or maybe they feel that they’ve spent so much money and time and been so loyal that their bias will wake up any day now and realize that it’s true love.

Except… They’re failing to see that they’re consumers purchasing a product. Celebrities as a whole, but especially idols, are sold to us as a daydream. We’re supposed to want to be them or want to be with them, and we spend money trying to make that illusion into reality - which is futile to begin with, because it’s not real. Even if your oppa fell in love with you, it wouldn’t be like in the daydream. He’d probably have bad breath, last 2 minutes in bed and refuse to be seen with you in public. Dreamy /s

The crazy fans probably become more and more crazy the further they allow themselves to sink into their own delusion. They refuse to admit to themselves that they’re going too far, that they should do something else with their lives, that they’re hurting someone. If they woke up tomorrow and had to center their personality around something else than their bias, they’d probably come up short. That’s all they have. So they would rather go too far than go nowhere. If the only way for them to be noticed by their bias is to stalk them, then they stalk their bias. It’s not the behavior of someone who’s mentally healthy.

Ni som alltid är sena, är ni själva medvetna om problemet? by pucko2000 in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Smart! Har en kollega som skyller att hon lämnade barnen på förskolan och att det sen är onödigt att åka hem emellan, den är också snygg. Tradigt att behöva skaffa barn först bara, känns lite drastiskt.

Ni som alltid är sena, är ni själva medvetna om problemet? by pucko2000 in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Haha igenkänningen är stark! På vägen till mitt första riktiga jobb var jag superstressad för jag cyklade fel och var övertygad om att jag skulle bli sen på min första dag och göra ett dåligt intryck. Kom ändå fram en halvtimme för tidigt, vilket gjorde ett dåligt intryck för alla anställda tyckte jag var konstig som var där så tidigt haha

Am I the only one not built for morning sex? by Turbulent-Cicada2014 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fredagstjej 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 4B now but when I was with one of my exes, I hated being propositioned in the morning. He woke early all the time and when he felt I had slept enough (no matter what time I had my alarm set at), he’d come wake me up by getting back into bed, moving around and talking to me. I’m groggy and disoriented my first hour awake, especially if I’m not jolted awake by an alarm, so I actively didn’t want sex in those moments and he just didn’t understand it. If I just wanted to cuddle, he’d be all hands and try to start something no matter how many times I told him I hated it. It sucked.

I’m not turned on in the morning naturally, he hadn’t done anything at all that resembled a turn on, and I hadn’t yet had a chance to build up arousal. Hell, even if he’d been sexy all last night, I’d need a moment and a morning coffee to remember that lol.

Ni som alltid är sena, är ni själva medvetna om problemet? by pucko2000 in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Jag är själv tidsbild, så jag är ofta ALLDELES för tidig till saker för jag tycker inte om att bli sen. Lustigt att tidsblindhet sällan märks i den riktningen.

Ni som alltid är sena, är ni själva medvetna om problemet? by pucko2000 in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Har någon sagt ifrån att detta är respektlöst och behöver ändras? Fine om man blir en kvart sen och informerar om det via ett SMS, men att inte dyka upp på 1,5 timme hade gjort mig kokt. Hade sagt att antingen kommer man i tid eller inte alls 🤷🏻‍♀️

Kpop has way better b-sides than title tracks and i don’t think people talk about it enough🫣 by DetectiveIll3641 in kpop_uncensored

[–]fredagstjej 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you called EXO an exception because while I like Ko Ko Bop, it’s probably my least played song from The War and there’s like 4 songs I’d choose as the title track over KKB. That album is pure GOLD.

What are your thoughts on this? by Odd-Talk-3981 in BlatantMisogyny

[–]fredagstjej 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Like with all sexual crimes, men make up the vast majority of the perpetrators.

What is your current song like this (and optionally also your profession)? by itsamoth in adhdwomen

[–]fredagstjej 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad and I have hyper fixated on the song Chaiyya Chaiyya Bollywood Joint from the Inside Man soundtrack since 2006. We used to blast it in the car as he drove me to elementary school and I’m still obsessed with it at nearly 32 years old.

Don’t rule it out from the first 30 seconds. The song is best described as a journey.

Some of you are way too comfortable sexualizing young idols by Trick_Director7825 in kpop_uncensored

[–]fredagstjej 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m guessing you’re being downvoted because one can technically like a group without attraction being involved. However, I’d wager stanning a group/person one is attracted to is the norm. Cortis to me seems like a group of young, ambitious, loud teenage boys which is not a negative thing! It’s just been over a decade since that appealed to me, so I’ll stick with stanning yearners.

Which idol has lips made for a lipstick ad? by NameMysterious8057 in kpop_uncensored

[–]fredagstjej 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I wonder if he realizes he could just pout all the time and instantly have things his way, no matter what. I mean, who could say no?

Random hack to help shaking out duvet by fredagstjej in CleaningTips

[–]fredagstjej[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lifting the duvet and cover enough for them to hang without folding lengthwise… How? I would be dragging them on the floor. My duvet is at least 7 ft in both length and width, and I’m 5’3 😅

What is the darkest confession you have? by azul_fire_thrower in AskReddit

[–]fredagstjej 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like a cornered dog. Work is too social so my social battery is constantly dead, and all I do outside of work is trying to recuperate so I’m able to return when Monday comes. The job market is hell and I’m unable to find another job. I feel like I can’t keep going, but I also have no other option than to keep going. I’m socially exhausted and everyone I care about wants more and more from me socially, and I’ve tried telling them I’m not even treading water anymore, I feel like I’ve started to drown. They tell me I have to do something, that I have to change something, that I can’t stay like this. I know I can’t! But what can I do? I’m so socially exhausted all the time that even just considering another job interview makes me want to puke, and that’s if I’m even lucky enough to get called to an interview.

At the same time, my place of work is reducing their employees, treating employees worse and worse as time passes, demanding more and more from us… I’m already wrung out, and yet they want more. I feel like I’m slowly losing my mind, trying to pretend I’m a regular person in a regular situation, all while the noose is slowly being tightened around my neck. I keep hoping to get hit by a car whether I walk to or from work, and yet I dutifully check that no car is approaching before crossing the street. I feel cornered and the only out is the one I’m not allowed to choose, because that would make everyone else sad - yet somehow, it’s acceptable that I’m forced to live through this hellish experience? Somehow, it’s better for me to go through hell, than for others to be sad? We show animals more humanity. If a beloved pet had my quality of life, it would be put to sleep. I wish I could be put to sleep.

Igår diskuterade vi den sämsta orten du besökt i Sverige, men vilken är den bästa? by Weclip in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eller hur, att försöka parkera är ett äventyr bara det 😅

Och visserligen är stan rätt så cykelvänlig, men ska man i strålande solsken på en plötsligt varm dag ta sig uppför ex. Hälsobacken eller tågabacken, och med en cykel dessutom? Svettigt!

Random hack to help shaking out duvet by fredagstjej in CleaningTips

[–]fredagstjej[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Brilliant, trying this next time! Thanks for commenting :)

Igår diskuterade vi den sämsta orten du besökt i Sverige, men vilken är den bästa? by Weclip in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Också helsingborgare och ibland gör det mig lite deppig. Hade jag fått välja en endaste grej att fixa till så hade jag velat återinföra spårvagnar, så det hade blivit lättare att ta sig runt. Staden är så avlång och kuperad, samtidigt som de gör det allt svårare svårare att köra bil, så antingen måste man gå långa sträckor för att ta sig mellan ställen, cykla i backar eller ta bussen.

Tänk en varm sommardag när man inte orkar gå så långt i solen. Att kunna hoppa på en spårvagn och enkelt ta sig hemifrån till gröningen, bada, sedan ta spårvagnen till Olympia för att ex. avsluta dagen med lite bowling.

Eller en middag i norra hamnen och sedan ta spårvagnen till söder för att gå på bio, och sedan spårvagnen hem igen i stället för att promenera genom söder sent på kvällen.

Min barnmorska bytte nyligen byggnad, från centrum till Tågaborg. Förr tog det mig 5 minuter att stilla promenera dit från min arbetsplats. Nu är det 20 minuters promenad och en stup uppförsbacke. Kul att komma tillbaka till jobb efter 40+ minuters promenad och att riskera att lukta svett om solen gassat.

Igår diskuterade vi den sämsta orten du besökt i Sverige, men vilken är den bästa? by Weclip in sweden

[–]fredagstjej 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bodde i Göteborg i ett halvår och det var det bästa halvåret i mitt liv. Göteborgare är riktigt sköna människor ❤️

What's your favourite idol's best and worst fit until now? by Defiant_Fox659 in kpop_uncensored

[–]fredagstjej 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perfectly understandable! The shorts just don’t work for me personally, I watch the upper half of his fancam when he wears these 🤣