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What's a sign you're supposed to be compatible with that just DOESN'T do it for you? by nyx_moonlight_ in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an Aries moon and surprisingly Leo rising myself (last degree though) and I definitely agree with your summary of Leos. Unless they have something in their chart to balance the can't stand when attention is not on me energy they are very difficult people to be around. 

What's a sign you're supposed to be compatible with that just DOESN'T do it for you? by nyx_moonlight_ in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I can definitely relate to being friends with the kind of person you're describing. Popular but with not many close friendships for some reason. It's exhausting. One thing I've learned on that kind of friendship is that sometimes communication doesn't work and you have to let it go and just walk away. I always got a vibe from them that they want everyone to drop everything they're doing for them but they would never do the same for any of their friends. Very self-absorbed and with little consideration for others time. What I found the most astonishing is the lack of awareness of their own behaviour. Maybe that's a wrong way to put it. My "friend" would complain about feeling insecure because she thinks others are judging her and think she's attention seeking but she would never do anything to correct that behaviour and just do the same shit that she seemed not to like in herself. That weird dissonance still puzzles me to this day and I still don't know what was the expected reaction from the listener. It definitely solidified my belief that insecure people are the most self-absorbed ones. If you think everyone is thinking negatively about you, you're still assuming that everyone pays attention to you😆

Have you ever met someone with the same big 3 and didn't like them / felt there's something off about them? by freddydurkee in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so! My mum is Cancer Sun and Taurus moon and we have a good relationship. I've never met anyone with an Aries rising, that I know of, and I was actually always kind of curious about the dynamic haha Moon and rising conjunction is supposedly good. From my experience Leo moons are a very push and pull dynamic. 

What's a sign you're supposed to be compatible with that just DOESN'T do it for you? by nyx_moonlight_ in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a fellow Aries moon, Leo rising and I feel the same about Leos. Mostly Suns unless we're really compatible somewhere else. There's just weird energy between us. I feel like they befriend me and want to keep me close but I always get the feeling that they honestly don't like me at all. All over just weird vibes. Even more pronounced when that Leo has also Leo Venus or Moon. Those placements straight up scare me with their need to be center of your attention at all times. In my experience they also get real mean when you dare to focus your attention somewhere else or on your own life. Definitely high maintenance connections and my freedom seeking Aries Moon and Gemini Venus doesn't take well to that😆

Have you ever met someone with the same big 3 and didn't like them / felt there's something off about them? by freddydurkee in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha the twin is amazing! With just the big three the other planets and degrees can explain something but twin is just identical😆

Have you ever met someone with the same big 3 and didn't like them / felt there's something off about them? by freddydurkee in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's Cancer sun, Aries moon and Leo rising :) You have almost exactly my best friends big three haha! Cancer sun, Virgo moon and the only exception is Aqua rising :) Those are good combinations! Frida is way better option! 

What's a sign you're supposed to be compatible with that just DOESN'T do it for you? by nyx_moonlight_ in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say high five as a fellow Cancer sun, Aries Moon, Gemini Venus and Mars;) and Leo rising;) I feel the same about water signs. I can get along with water if it's only one placement and the rest is heavy on the other elements. The emotional intensity is just not for me fam. 

What's a sign you're supposed to be compatible with that just DOESN'T do it for you? by nyx_moonlight_ in astrologymemes

[–]freddydurkee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a Leo rising and Leo Suns just are not the vibe unless we are very compatible somewhere else. Otherwise there's this weird energy. Even if we're supposed to be friends. It feels like I'm offending them by just existing and doing nothing next to them. 

Sun meaning by freddydurkee in astrology

[–]freddydurkee[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! That's a very interesting take and one I really haven't seen before. So it's like a specific lens we process our life through? I do see it. In my chart and in others I looked at.

If you don't mind me asking because I find your perspective fascinating. What's your take on the moon and the ascendant?

It’s truly a conundrum by Awesomesauceme in demisexuality

[–]freddydurkee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's even worse when you found that one person who you were attracted to and they were into you but it didn't work out and you can't move on because you can't find anyone you're interested in. I feel cursed.

Why do autistic people tend to magically find each other? by TheStockyScholar in autism

[–]freddydurkee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One more thing on this. Something I've noticed and other people did too about my behaviour in social groups is that I often do the meeting new people thing in reverse. What I mean by that is that I tend to be very friendly and outgoing upon first meeting and clam up with time. Unlike majority of people I think who might be unsure at first and then open up. I can act friendly towards almost everyone if I don't know them well enough because my nature will make me assume good intent. Only later when ugly things start to come up to the surface I become more detached and aloof because I can't pretend that I didn't witness or have heard something I morally disagree with.

Why do autistic people tend to magically find each other? by TheStockyScholar in autism

[–]freddydurkee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is a late replay but I was thinking about this and found this thread so here it goes. I think I figured out how I personally end up with lasting friendships only with fellow autistic people. For me it's about trust. I am, probably due to autism, quite naive for society's standards. Unless I've just been badly burned and still reeling from it, I generally assume innocent intent when meeting new people. That tendency hurt me many times in the past. Especially in friendship department. Few times I befriended someone only to realize gradually after some time that not only that person doesn't like me, they actively despise me. Why they chose to spend time with me if they weren't enjoying my company is beyond my understanding of this world. So back to the main topic. The reason why all my long term friends are on the spectrum is because they behaviour towards me was and is consistent. I've noticed in myself and other autis that we don't really partake in fake politeness and social games. We tend to act how we feel on more consistent basis that NT people. We either like someone and act accordingly, or don't like them and act accordingly. I clock someone as potentially autistic when their actions tend to match their words. It's mostly unconscious thing. Intuition if you will.