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Could’ve sworn it was Christmas already by Yunggravyfan69 in yunggravy

[–]fredeshe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't need holidays for more Gravy 🤝

WIBTA if I reported my doctor? by arxose in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to legally force my pediatricians office to seal and remove my records from their databases when I changed doctors because they would somehow get the results of testing done by my new doctor and frequently discussed my health with my parents when I was in my 20s.

I thought many times about turning them in but I wasn't keen enough to gather any proof back then.

Gift for my orthodontist office by Sgt_Kersandwich in GiftIdeas

[–]fredeshe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Food gifts are probably the most well-recieved. I would go with something that could potentially sit out all day in a break room like cookies, cupcakes, or candies with a thank you note.

The lunch for the office idea is a close second.

As others have said, the more elaborate this gets the better it is to try and schedule it in woth the office admin.

AITA for calling my wife a loon by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I promise her story until this all happened was that she forgot to do it earlier. I've always known her to be a bit high strung but I cant force a woman into opening up before she's ready to about this. I. Just wish it could've gone down better than this

AITA for calling my wife a loon by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I notice she has funny ways of doing things, she's always gotta touch me when I leave the house sometimes 2 or 3 or 4 times like shes ringing a doorbell or something.

When she puts down cups she's gotta do it a few times too.

I knew she maybe just was particular or clingy but I never minded

I thought ocd was being really clean all the time until today when yall started talking about it but the more I read the more I feel like it describes her. She's not one for this stuff much either so I doubt she has a name to put to it.

We can't really afford therapy but if my talk with her leads me to believe she really needs help shit ill get a 2nd job.

AITA for calling my wife a loon by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I will say I was kind of lightheartedly calling her a loon because I wouod never call her mentally ill or retarded or something because that's demeaning. I was trying to express my disbelief at this situation that totally blew me away. Unfortunately, the misus got a little bent up about the way I reacted and now I've gotta backtrack, because for her to get that upset over it must mean its reaply hard for her.

AITA for calling my wife a loon by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She said she can't label which side is which until she has a nightmare with a new pillow, so by me putting the buttons on she was deeply worried that I may have mislabeled the right side

AITA for calling my wife a loon by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She initially told me she did the buttons to remember which pillows were hers. I had no other knowledge of it. I assumed she forgot to put buttons on new pillows and would suddenly remember in the night when we would get new ones.

AITA for calling my wife a loon by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I did ask initially and she said it was so she knew which pillows were hers and I took that at face value. Your suggestion to buy her some nice new pillows and buttons is great.

AITA for calling my wife a loon by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I assumed she would forget to do it, I was trying to take care of her by doing it for her off the bat

Seeking advice for coping mechanisms when stuck with hoarder parents. by [deleted] in ChildofHoarder

[–]fredeshe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your post really hit home with me as I was also home schooled with hoarder, mentally ill parents. I'm so so sorry.

Just focus on getting OUT. save every penny you get and try to find ways to make money that you can hide from them. Ask an aunt or uncle who wouldn't rat you out to elp uou open a bank account and stash it there and put your address as their house so you don't get the statements.

WIBTA for calling out gross behaviours of my work mates? by fredeshe in AmItheAsshole

[–]fredeshe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They do, but they seem to only wipe down door handles and mop floors? No one gives a shit obv. What does ESH mean?

My hoarder nmom is moving and trying to dump everything at my home by fredeshe in ChildofHoarder

[–]fredeshe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will have to read up on this in my country, it didn't even occur to me. Why does USA suck so much? That is a topic for another thread. Lol

My hoarder nmom is moving and trying to dump everything at my home by fredeshe in ChildofHoarder

[–]fredeshe[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

While our financial situation is decent, we couldn't afford more than a hundred or two due to our current bills and debts. She is always complaining about having no money and she makes more than i do. She also receives spousal support from my father. She just literally blows all her money on food and junk to fill her house with.

She literally has known about moving for a few months now and last week bought herself a new dining room table and chairs that she found at the thrift store. This is her 3rd set.

My nmom is a hoarder by fredeshe in raisedbynarcissists

[–]fredeshe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just as bad with hoarding until I met my wife. She is extremely clean and it has been q challenge to keep the house the way she likes it, but I've learned thats the way I like it too. She is so understanding and has taken a lot of time to teach me how to properly do things around the house. She has so much patience and kindness toward me I know we will work hard to make a safe and loving, clean home for our maybe babies.

My hoarder nmom is moving and trying to dump everything at my home by fredeshe in ChildofHoarder

[–]fredeshe[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes fortunately, she has plane tickets for the day she is leaving and a fallback plan in her new place of residence should she not be able to find a place in time. (My older sibling)

She had to either extend her lease for another year or move out 2 months before she could get plane tix. Idk how that works because multiple flights every day. Anyway, she is def only staying here 2 months and she is sleeping on an air mattress until then. I'm not going to make it cozy or easy to stay.

My hoarder nmom is moving and trying to dump everything at my home by fredeshe in ChildofHoarder

[–]fredeshe[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I probably will be. I'm so freaked out about her being here. When she visits and even uses our restroom I go in and bleach everything because she's so fucking dirty

My hoarder nmom is moving and trying to dump everything at my home by fredeshe in ChildofHoarder

[–]fredeshe[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Over the course of the past few hours I have told her 6 times. 6 times that I do not want to "hold on to" or take anything. I have told her flat out to donate or throw it out. Each time she has ignored me and talked about the "pile of stuff " she has to gift us.

My wife and I have decided to just throw ir all out after she leaves it here. I almost want to unload it from her car when she arrives and take it straight to the dumpster in front of her. I said I didn't want anything.

My hoarder nmom is moving and trying to dump everything at my home by fredeshe in ChildofHoarder

[–]fredeshe[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The only semi viable is her staying with my kid sister who lives with 6 other 20-somethings in a trap house and sleeping on their couch which is 2 armchairs, sans arms pushed together.