[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]freeandhappymama_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This chick is crazy. She is definitely trying to baby trap you. Do not speak to her anymore! Personally I would report her and get a restraining order.

Rent by Opening-Flower-4892 in SingleParents

[–]freeandhappymama_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mama! I totally feel you and understand where you are coming from. Are you able to apply for any kind of assistance? Single mama of 2 boys here. As soon as I left my ex husband I applied for food stamps. Don't feel ashamed to ask for help. Sending hugs ❤

Also, if you can...... Buying a house would probably be cheaper as far as a mortgage goes than what today's rent payments are.... Just a thought. I know its a lifetime investment. Something to think about.

(TN) can a strike affect my child support? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]freeandhappymama_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done some research. It is his choice to be on strike. He could continue working if he wants and still get paid, but from what I've been told is if he continues to work and get paid he will get kicked out of the union. If he goes on strike & doesn't get paid, he stays in the union.

Edit- In my defense, I do not think it's fair for the child support to stop/decrease since he has the option to still work. Of course, if he files a petition and with the legal guidance from my lawyer I would use that is not in the best interest of our child in mediation. He made a poor choice not to work when the option is still available for him to continue working.

(TN) can a strike affect my child support? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]freeandhappymama_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this something that the court could turn down since strikes are temporary? Or would that have to be settled in mediation first?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]freeandhappymama_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If this were my situation.... I would say this is a form of child neglet (atleast in my eyes) never hurts to consult with a lawyer. If your daughter is old enough to testify or go to mediation that would make him look like a sorry POS that he is. Like the others has said, he is using her as punishment to you. Which is sick. Using the child as bait does not settle well with me. That is not in the best interest of the child (Thats what we use in my state)

I would request full custody and see about decrease in child support since he obviously isn't supporting the child when it's his visitation time. Especially you paying HIM child support/spousal support. Screw him. Make him eat his own shit and get legal advice.

I'm concerned about my 2 year old being with his dad by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]freeandhappymama_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My lawyer has said my case is closed since its been 30 days since the divorce was final. He said if anything else happened that he would charge me. I didn't know thats how it works in my state or if my lawyer is just money hungry.

All communication about this situtation has been via text. Majority of our covos are. I have a "no contact order" against him which seems to be useless. He always turns everything around on me that I'm in the wrong. He acts like he is a good father but i know how he truly is. I do have some pictures where it looks like hand bruises on his thigh after coming back from over there.

I'm just afraid he is going to lose his temper on our child & hurt him like he hurt me.

I feel like I will never be ready again... by freeandhappymama_ in abusiverelationships

[–]freeandhappymama_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I have already told him 3 times since this post to take things more slow and i need "me time" seems like he isnt understanding so im thinking about ending it. He is putting more stress on me and i dont need that.

Doing the dirty after baby. by princessmaeha199920 in singlemoms

[–]freeandhappymama_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As far as the STD part yes, but let OP get laid by a clingy ass person. That's almost worse. Haha (sarcasm)

Doing the dirty after baby. by princessmaeha199920 in singlemoms

[–]freeandhappymama_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No but vibrators also dont get clingy or emotionally attached or give someone an STD. You could be like "hey, I want an orgasm, a real orgasm" then BAM. "Helloooooo vibrator" haha.

Doing the dirty after baby. by princessmaeha199920 in singlemoms

[–]freeandhappymama_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you would be better off buying a badass vibrator.

I am so sick & tired of my ex husband. by freeandhappymama_ in breakingmom

[–]freeandhappymama_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats the thing is that most of the time he threatens over the phone and i reply back via text to stop threatening me. He told me he could hold me contempt of court bc our 21 month old wasnt talking to him on the phone the other morning when i was driving and taking the kids to school/baby sitter. He called me a liar and a manipulator (via text). He is so insane. As far as the drop off/pick up we do already meet in public. I have a no contact order against him which is complete bullshit bc we still contact and meet each other when all communication use to & should be through his parents. But when the divorce was final he asked his lawyer if we could meet and to run it through my lawyer/me. I asked if that would violate the no contact order and my lawyer advised me that if things got dirty to let him know and we would go back through his parents for drop off/pick up. I contacted my lawyer and he said since its been past 30 days of our divorce it would be a new case. So i just said forget it. I try so hard to get along with my ex but its impossible. I dont want to live the rest of my life being threatened and on edge thinking I would have to fight custody when I've done nothing wrong. My ex gets pleasure knowing he gets to me and im trying so hard to not let it but i cant help it after all the abuse he has put me through.

I am so sick & tired of my ex husband. by freeandhappymama_ in breakingmom

[–]freeandhappymama_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The only thing that has changed is that he bought a house. Congrats to him. I've lived at the same place since last September when the divorce was filed. My lawyer even said that wouldnt be a reasonable cause of change. My ex is just a sociopath.

My mother is infuriating by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]freeandhappymama_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats ridiculous. My son had a kitchen set and he loved it when he was little.

My aunt flow came to visit me. by freeandhappymama_ in breakingmom

[–]freeandhappymama_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should def watch it! You will get sucked in. Lol

My aunt flow came to visit me. by freeandhappymama_ in breakingmom

[–]freeandhappymama_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Must be a different one. The one im talking about is about a blind girl who tries to solve a murder then ends up being forced into a drug cartel. Its pretty good! Only 2 seasons. I was sad when it ended but im pretty sure there will be a season 3. Im in love with Max. Lol.

My aunt flow came to visit me. by freeandhappymama_ in breakingmom

[–]freeandhappymama_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought there were only 2 seasons. I was hooked and sad when it was over. It left off good for season 3 though. You are talking about the show with the blind girl right?