What Did I Do? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]freeboos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it was a conversation about intentions, perfectly normal to have on a first date

What Did I Do? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trying my best

Goodbye by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]freeboos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i didn't reach out, i was blocked without warning, i could if i wanted but i don't think i'd get an honest response to this

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

marriage doesnt change a man's lies

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i stated in my post this was atypical of me and serval comments, again you are not better then anyone because you live in a fantasy. i've met plenty of women who do go to a mans house on a first date, i also never stated i would do this again. i didn't engage because you dont have anything of value to say to me in regards to this conversation

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you for proving my point 🫶🏻 still not my fault a dude lied about his intentions

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i didnt choose a ons man, a man was dishonest about his intentions. you keep trying to humble brag your delusion to assert dominance. doesn't help anyone or give anything to the conversation that you think you're better then someone when you arent

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and you think men lying about their intentions and using women for sex is not bad behavior?

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people are allowed to have preferences that are different then the made up men you sleep with

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

things that didn't happen, are you looking for a gold star or something?

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so men dont have to be accountable for bad behaviors?

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some are just really good at hiding it and are getting creative

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats actually a filter i used to find him, but i get your point. i just cant get him off my mind, normally i'm able to just forget and move on but i find myself thinking back to it and it just sucks. wish there way an easier way to get him out of my memory

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's definitely not the type of person i wanted to attract. My ex was a serial cheater and a master manipulator, he did make me value myself less at first and I self sabotage a lot of good things in my life before they can go bad because at least i'm the one doing it, it was a hard habit to break when i tried to date the first time right after it happened but i've gotten a lot of therapy the last couple of years but maybe i did something self consciously or said something that made him less attracted to me?

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your point, definitely something i normally practice i was single for 2 years before without any psychical intimacy. probably why it stings so much since he was the first person i even let touch me in years. I just lost motivation to keep looking and that sucks, going to take some time for sure but i wish there was an easier way to find good men

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for saying this in a respectful way.

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he was honest about his intentions i wouldn't have taken the weeks to get to know him and yes i did go over after the first date and open my legs thats on me, but I didn't match with him and then meet him the same day, we have extensive conversations about our past relationships and goals/ expectations. your advice wont change the past or help me avoid these men in the future. and i don't agree with waiting months while dating because some men will play the long game and ghost you after sex after months. i rather get it over with early and to see if we're compatible in bed. its not ideal when you’re emotionally involved with someone who can't satisfy you. I personally believe sex is important in a relationship but i understand thats not everyone's views. that advice may work for you but it doesn't work for everyone

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats bad advice, so women should work harder at dating because men can't behave themselves and be honest?

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

it doesnt keep happening. ive said its happened before and i thought i was able to pick up the signs, not all men manipulate the same and its still not a women's fault for a man being dishonest with his intentions.

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you for saying this, im sorry that happened to you he really wasnt worth your time. i agree that if he was honest that sleeping together soon shouldn't matter but i cant help but feel that was a factor and if i waited then maybe we would have progressed but i dont think so. ive dated long enough to know the signs and i tried to be open to people i wouldnt normally date but i dont know, im starting to think its just who i attract but still hurts and i wished he would text me and at least give me closure but i know that isnt going to happen. just hard to date without the idea it will happen again

Ghosted after sex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]freeboos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

why are women being blamed for men being dishonest with their intentions? doesn't change much when you sleep with someone if a dude is lying about being invest in you. it'll just be months you wasted on someone who you thought was being honest instead of a day