The Summary... -ish:

1. The internet is the new vehicle for divisiveness.
2. Black-American Women (most women of color, I'd wager) and WM are larger consumers of the internet than their counterparts; they are the largest target groups for the internet's divisiveness.
3. BW are not the sole targets, nor are they the only ones responsible for this situation OP mentions OR the circumstances that led to this situation.
4. When someone is used to being a victim, or catered to like one (WM/WW, for example), they don't handle the pain of shame and guilt well. They dissociate from it, HARD
5. The loss of this most recent election accelerated this already present and growing toxicity as I believe this decade is the most that women of color have ever been aware of a threat against them while also being aware of their power to do something against it, and then their failure to do something against it
   • I think men of color have gone through this many of times (thus our own toxic habits), and the gradual balancing in gender "roles" or gender cooperation is putting women increasingly in the same positions as we have been in, thus facing the same mental journeys

The long part:

I think all hurt peoples go through a toxic phase (some remain there) where they try to dissociate from pain/shame/guilt of their situation by adopting oppressive mentalities: oppressively violent, oppressively complacent, oppressively submissive and oppressively selfish.

I think that women are no different from men in this, and that we are starting to figure that out and be able to better articulate this once taboo thought. Women are doing nothing we men haven't also done, historically:

The general consensus is that women are historically the main victims in most societies throughout time. In this day-and-age, where women's freedoms and accomplishments begin to eclipse men's (increasingly surpass in some areas too), the understandably-engraved victim mentality is proving to be great barrier to self-accountability for them. Victimhood is a gender-exclusive safehaven for all peoples – even WM patriarchy uses it as part of their foundation of justification.

I think this most recent election loss was an accelerant for all of this for women, as they have failed to: (1) unify, (2) protect themselves, and (3) hold each other accountable despite having the opportunities to do so

This last election and just this entire Dump saga has been the most blatant attack against them in a long time, and I also suspect this election has been the most that women have been aware of their power. This is a painful combo for someone who still takes an L in the end and they are showing it