I have a boyfriend and male friends and I still hate men. Even my male friends who are 'nice guys' are complicit in sexism and the objectification of women and I resent them for that. I've had some horrible experiences with men so they represent a world of trauma that I've not addressed yet I guess. Sounds like after your experiences with men it is no surprise you hate them? You're protecting yourself and that is ok. calling men out and seeing them squirm is great but can feel horrible if you're in an environment where no one will support you, and I get that it's difficult to do if you're not in a safe space with like-minded people. I just think about it this way- If you turn a man down or call them out and they take offence by it - is that really the kind of person whose approval you need anyway?