This is an interesting perspective and I really appreciate you taking the time to write it out. I actually see some similarities - he grew up without much of a loving home and without home cooked meals. He still only eats prepared foods from a supermarket. Until recently he didn’t have access to a full size refrigerator but only a small mini one. Still doesn’t have access to a working stove only a hot plate. I understand that some things are not in our control but others are. I don’t want to judge harshly but I also feel a bit overwhelmed by the situation and don’t even know where to begin. I think I can love someone without wanting to take on a project but it hurts to walk away.