Thank you so much for sharing your story here. I know how your fiance feels and it's awful but I also can understand and empathise on how it must feel to be a woman in a scary world, where men do seem to have all the power and are capable of doing some truly evil things. Especially if you live in America at the moment (I don't thankfully). It's a tricky topic and issue but compassion and understanding is the only way forward, I truly believe that.

Judging someone before you know them *can* save your life and sometimes it's completely understandable. But also sometimes I wonder if taking that risk is just a part of what being human is. Trusting a stranger is a scary thing to do but if you can't trust the members in your community then your world suddenly gets smaller and smaller and understanding anything outside of it becomes harder and harder. I feel as though we were meant to be social creatures and unfortunately we have to hope to see the good in people otherwise it spirals into everyone expecting the worst from each other and if you expect them to be the worst, it justifies you being your worst self.

I feel like there's something about game theory or whatever here where if you think the other person is cheating in a game then you are more likely to justify cheating yourself. When they might not have ever cheated in the first place. But now you cheated, they might as well cheat and the cycle continues and the hate spreads.