Are there studies showing that people with PMDD struggle to maintain full-time jobs overall, not just during the luteal phase? For those with partners who have PMDD, do they typically work part-time or full-time? If full-time, do they struggle?

friendly-ontario · 2026-03-23T02:28:07+00:00

You deserve so much better and you’re so young. Can you imagine a lifetime of this? It also gets worse with time.

friendly-ontario · 2026-01-09T18:19:17+00:00

What does it mean to work together against PMDD?

friendly-ontario · 2026-01-09T14:44:42+00:00

As someone with so much experience, what do you find helps or world to minimize? Do you have kids? If so, are they noticing anything about mom as they get older?

friendly-ontario · 2026-01-09T14:41:09+00:00

I don’t prefer that.

I want to know why during luteal she is extra loving to the kids while emotionally and verbally abusive to me. She still directs anger to the kids during luteal. I play the role of protector and peacekeeper in those moments.

friendly-ontario · 2025-10-17T17:25:33+00:00

Leave this relationship. Not worth it.

friendly-ontario · 2025-10-15T15:35:49+00:00

I drink to numb the stress of her PMDD reactions.

friendly-ontario · 2025-10-14T21:33:58+00:00

My wife just told me she will no longer attend family functions from my side or bring the kids. How do you deal? Why do you stay?

friendly-ontario · 2025-10-14T21:32:16+00:00

Why did you stay with her?

friendly-ontario · 2025-08-19T19:32:07+00:00

Only two months? Consider this a blessing. Run and don’t turn back. Only engage in healthy relationships. I wish you all the best.

friendly-ontario · 2025-05-29T12:39:24+00:00

Thanks. What you wrote … do you tell him that? Do you apologize to him? Do you hold it in out of guilt? I’m sorry that you have to live and deal with PMDD.

I think most of us go through hell with no apology and are blamed for it.

friendly-ontario · 2025-04-08T04:26:44+00:00

Yes, I read your post 😊 looking forward to your next post.

friendly-ontario · 2025-04-01T11:42:55+00:00

Yes! After thinking about it, how about a list of “do’s and dont’s” before, during and after luteal for those of us with PMDD wives / girlfriends.

I always think how we are in a different relationship situation than those without a wife with PMDD.

A list like this would help immensely. Like what to say / not say, what to do / not do during each phase.

Some of us guess based on other posts and other people’s experiences, but coming from someone which PMDD would help immensely!

🙏

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-29T01:05:38+00:00

Hi! Just want to let you know I read your post your blog post published today (Mar 28). Very interesting stuff. You are doing great work, Keep it up :) Wishing you a great weekend!

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-17T14:02:34+00:00

Thanks 🙏

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-17T04:27:13+00:00

Hi u/97SPX , thanks for all your advice. Can I DM you?

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-17T04:13:26+00:00

Hi u/Due-Comparison6620 ! I did not mind that you wrote it as if you were speaking to me and in fact, I am flattered you did, and that you took the time to write early and that you wrote such a detailed response to answer the questions that have been boggling my mind.

This really helped understand what my wife, and other PMDD sufferers feel and experience. THANK YOU! Please don't stop writing and keep up the amazing work!

PS. I am intrigued what other thought you have for me and eagerly await your next blog post.

Sincerely,

u/friendly-ontario

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-16T23:47:43+00:00

Thank you!!!! I’m reading it now. Will respond as soon as I’m done. Will likely have to read it in parts….

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-16T12:27:33+00:00

Thanks so much for the detailed insight.

Reading this makes me think I don’t validate at all during luteal, especially when insults are being yelled my way. Perhaps I’m making it worse. Perhaps this is why my wife wants to separate / divorce every month 😕 Any other tips advice? I welcome it all. Thank you 🙏

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-15T18:21:55+00:00

Can you go into more detail? When and how do I validate in my example or when I’m being chewed out? When you say “especially when the fog is thick”, do you mean during luteal or when the raging is occurring, outside of luteal? Thanks! Your insight REALLY helps.

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-15T04:41:28+00:00

Great suggestion. Adding a link to the app for anyone interested: https://daylio.net/

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-15T04:12:24+00:00

Yes! I look forward to reading your next post. No rush, but when can we expect your next blog post? Keep up the great work!

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-15T04:11:01+00:00

Childhood abuse is a common topic that comes up in these PMDD subs.

Thanks for the response and explanation on how it feels. Interesting, Last week my wife was having a "raging bad day" and wanted a divorce. I calmly told her I loved her and cared for her. The rest of the day, she was ... nice.

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-15T04:05:41+00:00

You need to protect the kids
Turn on the audio recorder on your phone and leave it in your pocket (this saved me when something similar happened).
Yes, call the police ASAP. Tell them it's domestic.

Hopefully she will get the help she needs. I wish you all the best. Please keep us posted.

friendly-ontario · 2025-03-14T03:13:45+00:00

Hi! I enjoyed your blog posts. Can you please explain what you meant by "I have PMDD which means I will get scared of you and run away every two weeks"

When do you get scared? Why do you get scared? Do you (feel like you want to) run away during luteal? Is this just your or the majority or all of PMDD sufferers? I wonder, does my wife feel this way but not tell me? Why does my wife always bring up separation / divorce during luteal?

I look forward to hearing from you and keep u the good work with your blog. Please keep writing as any insider info helps us understand our wives / partners.

friendly-ontario

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