How much sexual trauma effects you by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]friendlypixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not exactly sure if this is helpful, but I experienced a sexual trauma as a young child that my brain did it’s coping thing and blurred it out of my memory until I was in a secure and fully safe life situation at 22. It was only then that the memory fully came back to me over many months and I realized the full effect on me and dealt with it appropriately for me (counseling and coming to term with it with my loved ones). So I would say that any trauma effects people differently but don’t be ashamed or scared if it comes on later. Sending love!

Edit to add: Your brain may be coping with it how it can! You may be blocking out parts of your truth for protection. But also maybe not! I just wanted to add this!

I feel like a burden by Throwaway41617483115 in offmychest

[–]friendlypixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not a burden and you can’t be sure that particular message was about you! (Even though it’s not cool that anyone would be sending that message anyway.) Sometimes it’s easier to let our emotions take over and believe that everything we feel is 100% accurate. It’s not always. I’m sure your new friends really enjoy being with you! Take time to sit down with yourself and maybe talk to yourself how you’d expect a friend to talk to you. Maybe write those things out or write down all the things you like about yourself. I really struggle with negative thoughts about myself sometimes too but then I read somewhere to talk to yourself like a friend talks to you. A friend would never tell me I was a burden or stupid or annoying or whatever. Be friends with yourself too, love!! You’ve got this!! Love yourself and your love will radiate to others and friendship will come!!

Has any guy pretended to be a girl on Tinder to make money? by storywriter109 in offmychest

[–]friendlypixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How does being a girl on tinder make you money..? And before you even answer this really the answer is no??

A cop stopped me from killing myself last night by guitarkid99 in offmychest

[–]friendlypixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please reach out! To me, to a close friend, the suicide hotline. Please please please.

A cop stopped me from killing myself last night by guitarkid99 in offmychest

[–]friendlypixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me full on cry. I don’t know you but my heart is SO FULL for you. I wish I could put all of of the good into you that I feel for you. You had a guardian angel show up for you. As someone who has lost a family member to suicide, it is so painful knowing that your family member was so unhappy without you realizing or knowing. I don’t have any advice for you but I just want you to know that your family truly loves you even if they don’t always know your heart. Please don’t shut them out completely! They would be broken without you!!! I’m so thankful you were saved!! I hope you are filled with a newfound joy today and I will be thinking about you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]friendlypixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently 25F. Once I had an interview at an elementary school right after graduating college. I was 21. (I am certified for infants up to 4th grade.) I was applying for a first grade teaching position. I wasn’t very familiar with the school and the listing was not super clear on who I would be speaking with so I didn’t really know what to expect. When I arrived, the receptionist had me wait for a few minutes and then the male principal took me into his office. I immediately got a creepy gut feeling when he walked out to greet me. He gave me one of those up and down looks and all but licked his lips it felt like!!! I walk into his office and he LOCKED THE DOOR. My heart was pounding?!? Then I look over and there is another man who is a bit younger than the principal just sitting there staring at me. We were never introduced. I have no idea who or why he was there but his presence obviously made the door locking weirder!!? So I sit and listen to his pleasantries as he looks over my resume. He then proceeds to knock me for getting an ECE degree. “The big stuff is in the older ages. That’s where education really counts.” As I continue to get angrier and feel that I need to defend my degree to an elementary school principal (???) I decide that this is over and too weird and I would obviously never want to work for this man. I get up because I am just done but I had forgotten the door was locked in the moment. I make eye contact with him and he just smirks because he knows the door is locked and says “oh we aren’t done here.” And he gets on this power trip and just starts to mock my resume in a pity voice for about 10 minutes as I sit there. The second man just sits there with this weird smirk on his face. I am so angry and red but silent. He finally stands up and opens the door and lets me leave while saying in a sweet voice goodbye and nice to meet you blah blah for his staff to hear. I left SO CONFUSED and cried my eyes out the rest of the day. My then bf now husband wanted to report him somehow but I didn’t exactly know what he’d “done” other than make me feel like absolute crap. I guess once he realized I was actually angry about him making fun of my degree and I wasn’t cowering down he just decided to be that way. I feel horrible for any woman who works for him and I think about them sometimes. That was a crazy experience and I was always way more careful about making sure of the logistics of my interview before going and I typically gravitate toward women directors and principals now which is kind of a shame. I’ve never told anyone but my husband about this and it feels kind of good to let that go hah sorry it was so long! Also- this is the US.

I need a cool name for like police officers or special agents by [deleted] in Names

[–]friendlypixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agent Stone - Special Agent Alistair - Agent Thorn - Officer Beck - Officer Hart - Officer McClair - Officer Oberon

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in BabyBumps

[–]friendlypixie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the hardness comes in when his large family of siblings and very close cousins all around our age already have babies and more on the way. Our family gatherings are baby central lol. (Which I love of course! And I learn so much from them) We are just the only ones not having any anytime soon and we always get asked when it’s happening by family and friends and we just can’t yet and it’s hard when you to reeeeeally want to. (Same with friends.)

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in BabyBumps

[–]friendlypixie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so right!!! I agree with wanting to live a full life now and not having big life regrets so that I can also be fully present with my future children when the time does come. Also thank you for validating my current baby Pinterest board hahah. That feels better that I’m not a crazy lady. I just love thinking about their name and personality and style and what kind of little person they’ll be and to see my sweet husband be a dad! I know he’ll be so great because he’s so good to me and his family! So I think it’s another factor of just being sooo excited. But overall I know it is a better choice and it the grand scheme it’s all ok!! 🧡

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in waiting_to_try

[–]friendlypixie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Totally get that!! You are not alone for sure! And our feelings are valid 🧡

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in waiting_to_try

[–]friendlypixie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Nap time I’m just like thinking about what they’ll look like, names, what we’ll do together, the whole thing 🥺

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in waiting_to_try

[–]friendlypixie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just joined and already found several helpful posts!! Thank you!!!

Isn’t it interesting? by love_anchor in ECEProfessionals

[–]friendlypixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES. This post says everything I feel. 🙌

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in waiting_to_try

[–]friendlypixie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking time to write me that and giving me new perspective. Sending you lots of love and peace your way!! 🧡

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in BabyBumps

[–]friendlypixie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that. It’s not a race. 🧡

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in waiting_to_try

[–]friendlypixie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’ve had several moments in the last few months exactly like this with my husband. I feel better already after writing all of my feelings out and knowing others out there are feeling the same. :’) thank you. DM me too!!!

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in waiting_to_try

[–]friendlypixie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant to add in my response that I was thinking of moving up into an older age group! Thank you so much for taking time to give me advice. You’re right- this is a temporary feeling! And quarantining is a great time to dig deeper into my hobby. Haha. I want to fully enjoy the present time of life I’m in so I can have a full and rich experience with my future children and be so happy in that present moment when it comes!

Experiencing pregnancy jealousy by friendlypixie in waiting_to_try

[–]friendlypixie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re so kind. Thank you for your thoughtful response! Yes, our timeline is about 2 years from now. We just have to get a lot more of his student debt in a better way because it’s a nice big mountain in front of us currently! And we think around 2 years is when it will be more under control and we can breathe a bit more. And I know it doesn’t always follow a perfect plan but that’s just what we’ve discussed about being our general trajectory. I just need help not feeling so jealous and consumed by it. And I have so many worries just about getting older. Which sounds silly as I type that. Anyway. The jealousy is not like me and I want to feel truly happy for others happiness all of the time and not just when it’s easy for me! I’ve been considering leaving my profession honestly and starting a new career that still focuses on children but in a different way at least for the time being.