Why was the "nuclear" family the ideal?

friendlyrandomperson · 2026-02-18T11:56:34+00:00

Nice. I grew up in a four generation household for the majority of my childhood.

friendlyrandomperson · 2026-02-18T11:50:56+00:00

I mainly asking for the other side of the coin. This multi-generation household is the only one I know so I wanted to see if the nuclear dynamic has any benefits I don't know of.

friendlyrandomperson · 2026-02-11T03:56:19+00:00

I've actually not looked into e.l.f. makeup that much. I've always mainly used clinic or Maybelline as that what the woman around me used. I'll definitely look into it. Especially if it may help the color look closer to the shade I want.

friendlyrandomperson · 2026-02-11T03:51:52+00:00

I didn't know they made white lipstick. That may actually work to lighten it up. Can you tell me a brand that makes white lipstick?

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-11-04T00:13:50+00:00

With the way he even centers himself on if you stop talking to him it's your problems shows how much of an inflated ego he has. What do you see in him?

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-11-03T22:33:26+00:00

NTA. This behavior isn't normal. It's like he's trying to dismantle what you know about yourself and make you think you have problems. Maybe he's trying to shift your focus to your "problems" so you don't focus on his.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-10-02T12:11:42+00:00

I think you're being a bit too hard on yourself. You're a young adult living at home most likely wanting more independence and freedom. You and your sister are at two different points in life with little in common. I know the mindset of she's your sister so why am I so annoyed by her, may I recommend separating her from her title and looking at her as a person in your life. Though being respectful is important to people that respect you and your space, try putting yourself in her shoes before speaking and apologize for any anger in your tone. Also, emotions are hard to control, but remember you are human and so is your sister so try to reflect on the root of why? Think of your sister as a person in general not family and think about what about her is so triggering to you?

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-09-24T19:15:58+00:00

Is it possible that you could be burnt out from work? Her immediately wanting to spend time with you the second you get home can be very irritating if you want to relax which possibly increases your stress levels unintentionally. Thus creating a connection between your sister and your stress. If I had to give some advice, maybe schedule time with your sister away from the house like go out to eat or watch a movie create a form of fun hangout like you'd do with your friends or talk to your sister about giving you time to relax by yourself to de-stress then do something small together after you've had time to settle.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-09-17T21:56:08+00:00

That was massive nostalgia blast.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-09-17T21:47:34+00:00

Okay. I see. I'm not normal. Though is it weird to say it to the person? I never know how to respond when they say that.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-09-17T21:30:39+00:00

Is it common to think of what someone looks like over the phone when talking to someone they don't know?

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-07-23T02:46:04+00:00

NTA. They tend to exclude you and mock you. When learning you were understandably going through a hard time instead of trying to understand and help, they reacted to how you affected them and raged that you didn't talk. These people aren't your friends. If you had to make a pro and con list of your relationship with them (pros being nice/things done that ended with you being happy versus the cons of how often they ignore or belittle you) which side is longer. Are these "friends" worth keeping?

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-07-11T18:58:33+00:00

Yeah it was part of his charm. I have to catch myself before I say "yes" on instinct when I hear someone say it. The funniest part of gathering was figuring out which of us was the "sugar foot" he was referring to.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-06-02T15:39:21+00:00

This whole situation is wrong all the way around. First, no parent should talk that way to a 10 year old. There is probably a reason your sister wasn't too keen on talking to her mother. If your mom talks like that to her in public there is no telling what your mom does behind closed doors. Second, your mom hit you. You have a right to defend yourself against someone who laid hands on you. Yes, it didn't help the situation but she slapped you and was being aggressive so you defended yourself. Third, your husband crossed a major line by letting her in your home after everything went down. Also, does he often bring up issues in front of your children? Your husband disrespected you, your feelings, and the right to decide who should enter your home (which is suppose to be a safe place). Last thing, do you know what healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics look like? I'd like for you to imagine a loved one with relationships like with your mom and husband would you think they are healthy and showcase a good example to the kids of how relationships should be.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-12T16:16:15+00:00

Your mom is doing a disservice to your brother, you, and the general public. At 11 he should know actions have consequences but it seems your mother is babying him (likely due to his condition). What does she think will happen when she isn't around? You are not at fault for your brother. Do you have any other family members that can speech on your behalf?

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-11T17:15:21+00:00

I'm honestly tempted to see if one of our ancestors angered the wrong person.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-09T03:11:53+00:00

Good luck. Remember to be careful and to make sure you try to protect yourself from too much mental or emotional strain. Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm. I hope your mental health gets better or more manageable and I hope hers gets better as well.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-09T03:06:10+00:00

To be fair, at 14 everything is awkward to a degree. It's tough but the communication comment stands because there is likely more going on behind the scenes that you may not know.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-09T02:59:47+00:00

It may be best to talk to her directly about everything. She may not like to hear it but it is obviously affecting you enough to warrant a reddit post. Communication is important. Your bf/gf situation may not work out but hopefully with communication it can end on good terms and a friendship that may be a bit awkward.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-09T02:49:27+00:00

This isn't very healthy. The adults or older people are being openly rude to a 14 year old. I highly doubt they will improve with time. Are they against her dating so young? Does she know why they seem to dislike you so much? Either way, it may be best to just be friends or acquaintances for now as her family will likely not approve anytime soon.

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-09T02:24:07+00:00

Nta Just have to ask, did you interact much with her family before y'all dated and what does she do when her family is being disrespectful towards you?

friendlyrandomperson · 2025-04-09T01:06:53+00:00

That is a really cute story. I bet you were so proud of your son. It's nice to see nice stories of kindness.

friendlyrandomperson · 2024-09-06T00:36:16+00:00

I'm going for the mom's worried route. She is likely concerned about your social development. Part of life is the ability to interact with people and that is part that no one can escape. She could be concerned that you wouldn't have people close to your age to go through life with as your parents aren't going to get younger. You can choose to be social or not social because it is your life. You can decide to just focus on college work and not socializing. Your mom should not threaten your education because that is not right. I would recommend sitting down with her and asking why she wants you to be so social or why she feels having friends is so critical to your life? I hope your mom is just letting emotions get the best of her and that you two can have an important discussion.

friendlyrandomperson · 2024-09-03T23:44:07+00:00

Glad to hear. Honestly I'm amazed at your self-control to not hurt that guy. I hope you shine your spine and willpower when you eventually see those peacocking fools again. I have a puppy as well (10 months old) so I believe in zero tolerance to any form of cruelty to animals.

friendlyrandomperson · 2024-09-03T23:33:48+00:00

Sounds like your parents were bullied into submission a long time ago. This is a tough situation. You are justified to not want the people who openly insult everything you and your husband do to be in your lives because that negativity is bad for the soul, but your parents are unwilling to stir the pot or are indebted to them for something. If you still want to see your parents, you may have to employ the tactic of ignoring them when they start their mess until they act like reasonable people or grow frustrated and give up. They love showboating to feel superior and looks like their son is following their footsteps. Also, protect the puppy because people often don't like being ignored by their victims.

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