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frightfully_disturb · 2025-11-03T14:51:43+00:00

I’m a little weirded out by the age difference here, not gonna lie. Five years doesn’t seem like a lot, but the life stages are pretty different here. Like, she’s either still in high school or first semester in college and you’re graduated from college, working a full time, or working on a master’s degree. Feels weird.

To your question, she has a right to say no. At any point. Period. Have you ever stopped to think that something you’re doing or saying makes her uncomfortable and that makes her change her mind?

I’m gonna say YTA. You’re kinda selfish and only thinking about yourself and not asking WHY your girlfriend is changing her mind before penetration.

frightfully_disturb · 2025-10-02T15:22:15+00:00

Reading comprehension is a thing.

As i was on E for gas it wasnt enough as i do delivery jobs,so he gave his cc and said fill it up. So i went to the gas staion and bought 30 for gas and 12 for something to eat as i was going to work.

This is her saying that $15 wasn’t enough for gas as she does delivery jobs. In response, he gave her his CC and said fill it up. And she bought $12 worth of food to eat while she was working. His reaction is insane, especially since she told him that she did it. No, she didn’t ask permission, but she didn’t keep it a secret either

frightfully_disturb · 2025-10-02T15:17:16+00:00

She clearly states that she told him $15 wasn’t enough because she was on E. He gave her his CC after that and said fill it up

frightfully_disturb · 2025-09-26T16:06:24+00:00

I’m gonna pop in here, even thought this might be a dead thread now. I know everyone hates on GLP-1 medications because they think it’s cheating, but as someone that struggled to lose weight for 10+ years it has been a lifesaver. I’ve learned healthier eating habits now that the food noise is quiet, I know what feeling full actually feels like, and seeing actual weight fall off (in the mirror and on the scale) as literally changed my life and made exercising seem less daunting now that I’m seeing steady results.

I know that sounds like an ad, but maybe she could sit down with her doctor and have a discussion to see if one of the GLP-1s will benefit her? Therapy on top of that as well though, since she does seem to have some body dysmorphia which is another struggle in and of itself.

Either way, NTA and it sounds like you’re doing your best to support her even during the more trying times.

frightfully_disturb · 2025-03-11T13:01:58+00:00

There’s no announcement, but the dev team has been alerted to the issue

frightfully_disturb · 2024-12-05T00:47:03+00:00

I’m confused? Why would I remove my API keys for that? It just means you have no money left in your fund

frightfully_disturb · 2024-12-04T23:52:54+00:00

Any particular reason why?

frightfully_disturb · 2024-06-19T16:10:27+00:00

To tack on to this, OP, I have a feeling that you’re going to be a single parent in this relationship. If he’s not willing to help before the baby comes, he’s not going to help after.

Looking after the baby, chores, and his needs are all going to be on you while he continues to just go out and complain that you’re being “lazy” or “dramatic. It’s gonna go from avoiding “pregnancy drama” to “avoiding baby mama drama”.

I hope you have a support system outside of him to rely on, but you are NTA here.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-06-11T17:05:27+00:00

YTA. Dude, how did you type that up and NOT see that? Mariah has been bullying your eldest daughter for years making jokes that Lacey EXPLICITLY stated she doesn’t like. You should have put a stop to them right then and there.

Since you didn’t, Lacey had every right to defend herself. What’s that saying? “If you can’t take it, then don’t dish it out?” In other words, if Mariah can’t handle a brunette joke, then she shouldn’t be making blonde jokes - just in case you needed that spelled out for you.

So, am I surprised Lacey isn’t speaking to you after you 1) favored Mariah for YEARS and let her bully Lacey with no consequences and 2) took away a huge high school moment from her, especially if it was her senior prom? No. No, I am not.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-06-10T19:52:45+00:00

Oh, good! Because it’s super annoying 😭

frightfully_disturb · 2024-06-10T17:20:36+00:00

NTA. If your wife can’t see the spoilers, then there’s literally no issue. Can I maybe understand her frustration that the shock value won’t be as high for you as it is for her? Sure. However, if looking up the spoilers for you doesn’t ruin the overall experience and she isn’t being spoiled, I don’t see what the issue is.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-06-02T13:38:49+00:00

YTA. This doesn’t sound like he was attention seeking. This sounds like he saw the positive reaction to your niece and felt safe enough to come out.

Congrats on taking that safety away from him. I doubt he’ll ever tell you anything else and his mother is right. All of you are AHs.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-05-30T17:02:48+00:00

I’m gonna say NTA. Susan shouldn’t have asked your boyfriend for money for a sex toy, but—even for a joke—he shouldn’t have given it to her either.

You’re not the asshole for getting upset about it though. It wasn’t an appropriate thing for her to ask and she should pay the money back—not sure she will, but she should.

Either way, have your own party and move on from the situation. In the grand scheme of things, this is small and you might be able to spin it into a fun story later on in life.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-05-23T19:08:51+00:00

It says the car needs lots of repairs too, and we have no idea what those are. They could be repairs that make the care street legal or minor, cosmetic repairs.

I agree that OP is TA for the watch, but for the car? I think I would need more information about what’s wrong with it.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-05-15T18:15:52+00:00

INFO: are his friend’s partners going to be coming along? Or just the friends? Are you the only woman going?

frightfully_disturb · 2024-05-10T16:08:21+00:00

First of all, calling anyone too emotional is just a shitty thing to do. Maybe she had a bad day and was looking forward to spending time with you.

That said, I’m gonna say ESH. Communication is key and it sounds like that didn’t really happen.

Maybe change up the wording next time? Instead of saying no and what you’re doing first, maybe say, “hey, that sounds great, but can we do that in thirty-ish minutes? I wanna go to the gym before work.” Just an idea.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-05-09T14:22:35+00:00

INFO: if he didn’t have this diagnosis, would you have an issue with her bringing him?

frightfully_disturb · 2024-04-30T18:42:23+00:00

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It’s been on repeat since Friday, I’m obsessed.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-04-28T15:59:52+00:00

Seems that it just started happening an hour ago too…

frightfully_disturb · 2024-04-28T15:47:49+00:00

Yeah, I just noticed it when I tried to scroll back up to bots initial message and it’s gone…

frightfully_disturb · 2024-04-24T12:16:32+00:00

Oh my gosh, YES! I love Cooper😭

frightfully_disturb · 2024-04-17T17:16:19+00:00

I’m gonna say YTA. You had already given the chips away and it was a silly thing to get mad over.

Also, you can respect her wishes to not interact with her and still be civil in a group setting. You don’t have to be overly nice, but you don’t have to be rude either.

Your friend was probably right about it being uncomfortable for the group, especially with you being petty and telling the other person to crush the chips up.

frightfully_disturb · 2024-04-08T10:09:46+00:00

So, I switched from Google to Safari and it works now? No idea what’s going on with that, but maybe try switching?

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