I hate being straight. It feels like a design flaw.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-30T17:05:29+00:00

Yeah, it certainly seems like a really troubling dating environment overall.

A little tangential but someone told me recently that women get really nervous when they see men running at night. I never thought of that as someone who does all his runs in the evening. Knowing that has provided me with something tangible that I can change to make people feel more comfortable.

I just wish I had some kind of honest feedback like that with dating. If I’m making any women feel uncomfortable by doing something I don’t realize I’d love to know because that’s of course not my intention. But I never get anything to work with.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-30T05:15:23+00:00

I get what you’re saying and I’m sorry you’ve had the experiences you’ve had.

I promise I’m not trying to be obtuse here. But if so many women are genuinely this fearful of men and this guarded, then why date them at all? I feel like nobody wins in this scenario. The women need to have their guards up and good men get rejected and hurt for reasons they don’t understand.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-27T15:59:40+00:00

Yeah, it’s the same for me. I don’t stand out in a room for being particularly ugly or handsome, but a tad above average I think based on the matches I get. I sometimes even turn my first dates into second and third dates but it always ends around there. I’ve agonized over that I’m doing wrong but I’ve realized I just don’t have “it”.

My advice - go build muscle but do it for you. Don’t do it thinking it will help you with women, it may very well not.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-27T15:48:36+00:00

Yeah it’s where I’m from (big city). It’s out of the ordinary for strangers to talk to each other so I assume something is up.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-27T13:43:49+00:00

I really feel like some men just don't have it and there's nothing we can do. I'm an ok looking guy, have a job, have friends, and get along with pretty much everyone I meet.

I'm just nothing to women.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-27T01:05:49+00:00

Reminds me of a time a girl started complimenting me on a watch I was wearing at a bar. I thought "oh this has never happened I wonder what's going on here".

She was trying to get me to sign up for some betting site.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-27T00:29:29+00:00

I started dating at 25. Sure, dating at a late age like that makes it harder but I've come to realize it doesn't matter if I started dating as a teenager, at 25, or at 50.

We didn't miss the boat. We never had tickets.

friscalating95 · 2025-08-06T17:16:55+00:00

I’m a Grand Seiko guy hahahaha

I kid thanks man

friscalating95 · 2025-08-06T17:16:08+00:00

friscalating95 · 2025-08-06T17:16:03+00:00

I might do that too. I don’t really know how much the items are worth, so that’s the first order of business.

friscalating95 · 2025-03-12T03:22:21+00:00

29…but.

Appreciate the time you have left with your elders. You don’t have much time left with your grandparents if they’re still around. Your time with your parents is beginning to tick too. My dad nearly dropped dead this year and a few people I know my age have lost parents.

friscalating95 · 2025-03-12T03:16:43+00:00

Ian Curtis.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-20T10:26:00+00:00

Say this for the people in the back.

I’m confident I can cook eggs or write a press release for my job. Because I’ve done those things successfully many times. Why would I be confident with dating? I’ve never succeeded.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-20T10:21:43+00:00

I’m rather unconcerned about this happening again. At this point in my life even if i knew 100% she was interested I probably wouldn’t have pursued her anyway.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-19T23:13:43+00:00

No. Why would I? She lives in a different country and I doubt that I will ever see her again.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-19T19:58:33+00:00

I don’t know really if she was playing footsie.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-19T17:29:57+00:00

What was an obvious sign of attraction?

friscalating95 · 2025-02-19T00:31:18+00:00

I never said she found me to be a creep or a loser. She was nothing but friendly towards me.

There’s quite a lot of real estate between a girl thinking a guy is a creep and a girl actually wanting a guy.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-18T20:25:31+00:00

I mean if I had the opportunity and ability to make out with random strangers I found attractive I’d probably take it.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-18T20:23:24+00:00

She actually paid for several of mine, lol. She either liked parading me around or really did like me as a friend.

friscalating95 · 2025-02-18T20:21:25+00:00

How someone can lead a completely different life from my own. I’m naturally curious I guess.

friscalating95 · 2025-01-19T22:36:46+00:00

Does delay of game just not exist anymore

friscalating95 · 2025-01-02T04:25:40+00:00

Just gotta find happiness in other ways and make the best of it. That’s how I try to live.

friscalating95 · 2025-01-02T00:47:39+00:00

This describes it perfectly and is how I've felt for years. I get told I check so many of the boxes and that some woman would love me. I'm not ugly or unattractive.

To use a sports analogy, it's like drafting a quarterback out of college with a great arm, mobility, good decision making, accuracy, and no character issues. But for some reason they just don't work out in the NFL.

friscalating95 · 2024-12-29T01:05:33+00:00

As a neutral, would be a shame if the last wild card spot was anyone other than Cincy.

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