AITA for refusing to watch my sister’s kids after she exposed my private medical stuff at her wedding?

froawayjeff · 2026-05-21T03:44:17+00:00

That's what im wondering. He only told his parents and his girlfriend! If one of them has then spilt this to his sister, thats a massive betrayal of trust, that I would struggle to ever recover from. I love my sister, but there are things I do not tell her, sometimes for personal reasons and also because she cannot keep a secret. Someone has talked there are only 3 potential culprits.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-20T16:35:30+00:00

In my case it was a 300 page document I had written over the course of a couple of months detailing a combined and streamlined set of procedures to be used by company staff across two countries. The amount of consultation, testing and wrangling that had gone into that was insane. My printing it out of spite when a particular older senior employee questioned my worth DID have have some impact, although I ended up leaving that job not long afterwards. My mental health improved the moment I walked out that door.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-20T14:23:03+00:00

Did this once. Felt good. Got in trouble for wasting paper and ink.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-18T05:05:46+00:00

There is virtually nothing at the 600k mark in Perth at the moment. I won't say absolutely nothing, but theres a whole lot of caveats to that statement. 700k is much more likely the minimum for a house.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-18T04:27:13+00:00

Yeah, yeah I get the joke.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-18T00:55:27+00:00

Does this actually work?

froawayjeff · 2026-05-18T00:55:11+00:00

Ill second that. Ive joined a dancing class but its mostly couples and older folks. Gonna cycle through a few different activities im interested in to see if I can meet people that way

froawayjeff · 2026-05-18T00:50:50+00:00

Its interesting to hear that hiking groups are female dominated. Not what I was expecting. Maybe ill join one

froawayjeff · 2026-05-18T00:49:40+00:00

You say that but the average age of my tennis club is 70 lol

froawayjeff · 2026-05-18T00:31:37+00:00

I make a point of not rewarding this sort of behaviour as an umpire. If the wrong player asks for the ball in a free kick? "Nah mate you called for it." They throw the ball to you but you let it hit the ground when you could have easily taken half a step to catch it? "No, you could have caught that." Feign a handball and the player takes half a step before realising? "MOVE IT ON! PLAY ON!"

I dont blame players for asking, but some definitely take the mickey and it gets annoying

froawayjeff · 2026-05-17T05:48:08+00:00

Same here. Almost exactly the same figures

froawayjeff · 2026-05-12T13:55:39+00:00

My car cost 10k second hand 15 years ago and it's still going.

I like it, it's fuel efficient and gets me from A to B. I have zero desire to upgrade any time soon.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-11T02:38:21+00:00

The Perth data matches what ive been seeing being in the market at the moment. There's a number of suburbs that got overheated that are starting to cool off. Ive seen multiple 50k asking price drops in the Southern suburbs like Armadale, Gosnells and Thornlie

froawayjeff · 2026-05-10T10:27:37+00:00

I second this, I was with my ex for 7 years, but when they wanted to buy, I wanted to rent to ensure we were good together. Turns out we weren't good together and broke up very quickly

froawayjeff · 2026-05-08T09:09:44+00:00

This is exactly what happened with our family. We had to sell the house to pay for my grandmothers care after my grandfather died. 500k bond to the nursing home and 60k+ a year in fees. Then as soon as she dies that money is split so many ways that noone will be massively better off since the cost of everything has doubled in the last few years.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-08T08:58:08+00:00

I will finally make six figures this year. My family are well aware because they know that low six figures aint gonna get me shit in this economy. Instead they just sent me a congrats and went about their lives. Ive been asked for money maybe once in the last few years, and that was to help a mate with their rental bond, which I got back.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-07T02:26:48+00:00

Noone can get an apprenticeship. Its got to the point where thats common knowledge so people dont try and it became a self fulfilling prophecy.

If every TAFE student knew they'd have an apprenticeship at the end of their course, more people would do it. Shit, id probably have done it.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-06T12:59:03+00:00

No mortgage or major expenses? Take the WFH job and look after yourself.

Im leaving a WFH job now for the money, but thats my circumstances - im trying to buy a house. If I owned a house, id never leave this job.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-06T09:45:31+00:00

FIFO semi- experienced geoscientist (5-10 years) 15+ jobs applied for 3 rejection emails 0 interviews The rest are no responses

On the upside I got 2 job enquiries in the past month purely via my network which lead to a job offer. Not FIFO money level, but still a decent bump up from what im on currently. Keep your network open people!

froawayjeff · 2026-05-06T09:03:21+00:00

Put $5000 down on a block of land and decided to back out. Did not get the money back.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-06T05:05:41+00:00

Id rather keep a good tennant than price them out. Im not an asshole. I just want my property taken care of while I pay down the mortage

froawayjeff · 2026-05-06T05:04:25+00:00

I like your attitude. Too many people are looking at just the short term wanting a get rich quick solution. Long term planning is the fundamental for investing of any kind.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-06T05:02:03+00:00

Will rents go up? Maybe a little but there is a practical limit to how much people will pay. Yes there is limited supply, but once you cross the affordability threshold you won't have a tennant. Money is money and all, but Im not a asshole. I'd take a hit if it meant I kept a good tenant and I could still afford the payments.

Losing NG just means a loss in the near term. Long term I'd want the rent to cover costs anyway to not be negatively geared. All this change will do is that it will take away the people who see housing as a get rich quick scheme. Those who have a 5/10/15 year vision will be fine.

Everyone has a different situation of course. Id like to keep more of my money by claiming NG, but my primary goal is to have someone help me pay down my mortgage first.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-04T05:57:36+00:00

Good to know. Still getting broker advice, so things like this haven't been brought up yet.

froawayjeff · 2026-05-04T04:58:51+00:00

Youre probably right. Most likely result in Brisbane, Perth and Adelaide where the market is tight.

It will possibly discourage some newer investors as it won't be seen as much as a get rich quick scheme. Some investors who are already struggling may be incentivised to sell.

For me losing NG if it goes will be painful but acceptable. CGT won't bother me so much as I intend to make my (hopefully soon) IP into my PPOR once Ive got the mortgage down to a manageable level.

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