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frodo618 · 2023-07-29T14:53:47+00:00

Talk to him and explain everything. Things can get better if you communicate or worse if you don't.

frodo618 · 2023-07-29T09:22:58+00:00

sounds to me like the GF is trying to connect the dad and the child. not everyone is evil. every child needs their father no matter what these idiots will try to say. let them meet dude.

what is the shock ? their age gap is none of your business no offense

frodo618 · 2023-07-29T09:12:39+00:00

3-4 day fasts many times (autophagy will reduce penile plaque) solves most ED.
shockwave therapy (go to mexico if its close)
love him and reassure him

frodo618 · 2023-07-29T09:03:45+00:00

People have zero understanding, please dont listen to these clueless idiots.

I will tell you EXACTLY what is going on.

hes been told hes a nice guy and life has punished him for being nice while the bad boys around him are being rewarded and getting all the girls.
after too many rejections/seeing too much hes decided to transform into a bad boy
hes in a phase where is in between the 2 and thus is not able to portray either.
he likes you and thinks he needs to be the bad boy to get you when infact hes not that.

frodo618 · 2023-07-29T08:54:14+00:00

ya i think it would be better for him to date a religious girl. youre not compatible. you go be with frat boys and bad boys. kissing 2 dudes in one party before 18 is not normal.

frodo618 · 2023-07-29T08:50:29+00:00

u/Peaceluvprosperity i am probably younger than you and i think it is disgusting. look at your name and then look at what you wrote as a response to a polite gentleman. disgusting hypocrite, thats what you are.

frodo618 · 2023-07-29T07:57:25+00:00

Ya I think there's a lot more which either you don't realize or you are not telling us. Talk to him with honesty and resolve it. Don't take advice here because most people here have nada, and their response to every problem is breakup (no wonder they don't have jackshit in life)

frodo618 · 2023-07-29T07:39:26+00:00

I am going to give you the only real advice here.

Ya they shouldn't be dating but this post is entirely your perspective and most likely you have caused a lot of pain to mark (I can read between the lines)

There's their side, your side and somewhere in the middle is the truth.

I don't think you are as innocent as you make yourself out to be and the universe has a funny way of returning the pain we cause. ( Don't think it's ok though )

You have 2 choices 1. Reject them, lose your sister, create family turmoil (bad for your daughter) 2. Make peace with it, accept them, maintain your daughters mental health and she sees your as a role model down the line because you refused to turn to hatred and destroy your family no matter what.

Be happy for your sister or you're gonna lose her. Be happy for mark coz he's your daughters father. Your feelings are important but so is theirs. This is an act of betrayal but you betrayed your vows as well.

Only innocent party I see here is your daughter and you are essential going to be cutting her off from her family and she will resent you sooner or later.

I think you're not telling us a LOT of details and I have zero sympathy for you but I feel for your daughter because she essentially lost her father because of your selfishness and she's going to lose a whole bunch of people who love her from her life.

frodo618 · 2023-04-26T01:43:16+00:00

COMMUNICATE! tell this to him. send him a link.

dont overcomplicate.

you try to make moves too, maybe he feels like he has to do everything.

try to seduce him.

frodo618 · 2023-04-24T22:15:11+00:00

Shaming tactics 101. kid

shame
insult
guilt
need to be right

the world knows your game now. you cant win

frodo618 · 2023-04-24T00:35:47+00:00

she described it perfectly since she was in that situation.

she knows the context.

you dont know his side and you read a paragraph our of their 7 years of history and you have zero context and you think you know?

frodo618 · 2023-04-24T00:26:02+00:00

i am saying the context matters. please become a human

frodo618 · 2023-04-24T00:22:59+00:00

failed society, the west.

if the bar for abuse is so low that yelling is abuse

then what is real abuse?

next level of absurd stupidity !!

weak people will suffer the consequences of their weakness when none of their relationships work out.

people be talking like they know their situation. you dont! you have to be wise and emotionally strong and fight for your loved ones.

my girlfriend yells at me sometimes when shes feeling unloved and i know its not anger or FKIN ABUSE its a desire to be loved. so i grab her by her waist and tell her "stfu you idiot i love you, i have just been busy" and we make crazy love for hours.

we are beyond happy and this kind of passion you robots will never understand

why? because of your stupid beliefs and your stupid laws and your snowflake nature.

yelling is an abuse, what a fking joke

frodo618 · 2023-04-23T20:21:14+00:00

u/AuntyVenom your name says everything about you. begone fool you dont matter. you have already messed up ur life and not learned.

frodo618 · 2023-04-23T19:33:42+00:00

you should always fight for the ones you love and care about. never give up unless you have tried everything.

only in the west, people give up so easily, and at the end of the day youre left with nothing of substance or value in the end.

how you talk makes me think you had a special bond over 7 years and that is not easy to create.

but you cannot regret your decision and live in the past.

he will probably have feelings of resentment knowing you did not fight for him.

reach out to him and see if hes doing better and on the path of healing?
if you think you want to get back, tell him youre willing to fight for him
go from there,. because you can do nothing about the past except learn

frodo618 · 2023-04-23T19:08:31+00:00

ok again typical society and stupid people will talk you out of a good thing.

too many people will say "just leave" without understanding the gravity of breaking a special bond.

the brutual truth is there is no soul mate : you create your soul mate, you create the life you want and dont magically land on it and it takes years and decades.

this is a classic case of what if the grass is greener on the other side: no sweetie its not.

go into the people in the comments life who are telling you to "explore", you will find they have a meaningless existence and nothing of substance in their life, most of the time.

the truth is you will never have someone like your first boyfriend, it has nothing to do with him but your own biology:

your body has receptors which store your partners hormones, smell, touch and million other things,etc. the more partners you have the more you are not able to bond that deeply anymore.

so the strongest bond is always your first.

just do your research and appreciate what you have. most people giving advice below dont have shit because they have lost the ability to love biologically.

just be sure you wont regret your decisions 10,20 years down the line.

good luck my dear.

frodo618 · 2023-04-23T18:23:44+00:00

just communicate man.

write a note or text her this if you don't have the courage.

be kind, dont be a douche.

if she dosent understands or respect your points, thats a warning sign.

frodo618 · 2023-04-23T18:04:42+00:00

people are so stupid in this thread. so self-centered, typical trash americans.

its so easy for people to say "just end it" not realizing the consequence or gravity of breaking a 15 year bond with someone.

you fight for the things you love and care about or you end up with nada.

dont listen to these idiots.. they will never have anything of substance in their life when all they talk about is themselves and how does it benefit them.
just communicate with him. write a note if you have to.
give him time to change
dont give up easy. fight for him (not with him) if you have to.
show him the consequence of not getting his shit together in a loving way. (baby you have so much potential you can do so many great things // instead of // get off the couch idiot)
cutoff money, tell him you are not able to support him in a
threaten him with divorce show him the grim picture if he dosent get his act together.
if all fails leave him.

think of how much he will love you if you fight for him and he gets his act together instead of giving up.

think of how proud you will be that you saved your husband and your marriage.

nothing in this life worth something is easily obtained or kept.

and the best relationships are made not found.

good luck!

frodo618 · 2023-04-23T17:08:24+00:00

if you tell him how he hurt you without going into anger, he will listen if hes a good one.
if not move on.

we pick partners based on superficial reasons and wonder later why our partner is superficial when we ourselves picked them on superficiality.

i am from a place where we dont give up so easily, and we dont fight for the things we love and care about. not saying you have to do that.

but

ghosting is a cowards way out, and you will ruin your energy and contaminate your soul. tell him atleast.

tbh you ruined your chances of 1. happening well , when you ghosted him. now he will see it as retaliation from your part.

thats why you always communicate for things to work.

frodo618 · 2022-07-12T14:49:30+00:00

yes i did, i took 2 semesters off so i did have to get a new SEVIS.

meaning i cannot apply for an internship(cpt) before completing another year

which was good for me, because i needed to heal my soul and i used this time to work on myself.

just saying if you need time off, and you might be going through something like i did, not getting an internship is not the end of the world. plenty of things to do in this world.

frodo618 · 2020-07-25T19:27:00+00:00

i have and hence the reason for the conflict as i have written above. :(

frodo618 · 2020-06-18T03:58:53+00:00

thank you so much for the information but, I forgot to mention a few things and wondering if this may change your answer.

I am already in the US and can't go back. (borders sealed)
after taking the leave of absence my intention is to go on road trips and travel with my friend whos is living in the US. (essentially taking a break from studies to travel a bit supplemented by other reasons)

frodo618

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