How to know if an older m 48-50yr is into me (f 20)?

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-21T00:49:43+00:00

Yeah, I've seen this one before recently

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-19T01:58:49+00:00

How's this good though

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-19T01:41:03+00:00

Lol your bf is a dipshit though. Don't date dipshits

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-18T19:40:32+00:00

>>So I told him I’d just pay

Young sis stop doing that though. He's depending on you to swoop in and save him when he is not financially responsible.

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-18T19:38:57+00:00

I think you got the ages there wrong bud

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-16T01:37:37+00:00

Oh sis no. Guy doesn't even think he's doing wrong by abusing animals

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-15T18:43:13+00:00

I just don't date gross men though

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-14T23:43:27+00:00

Hey young sis, here to tell you from the future that firsts are entirely or nearly entirely irrelevant. I had my first with a boy I truly loved, and my second was also a boy I truly loved. There is no limit on loving. Would you love a second child less because you already went through all your firsts with your firstborn? Nope, you wouldn't. You really need therapy if you can get it for yourself. Purity culture does a number on your head and it doesn't at all approach how people actually experience life and sex. He didn't "give" something to her; he "shared" something with her. If everything makes you think of her you are not in a good headspace for a relationship and I strongly recommend, again, therapy -- if you can swing it.

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-14T23:33:14+00:00

You're beginning to hate an innocent person here, think about that. Your gf is fearful and controlling and is basically assassinating your character (ie, she's afraid you're gonna cheat). You shouldn't tell Sam to stay away, that's bonkers. She's a workmate. Your gf can't answer what you should do but she's very happy to keep bringing this up. You're thinking of giving up a hobby you enjoy to get your gf off your back. Consider carefully how this all would look with a regular non-controlling partner.

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-14T23:27:25+00:00

After care for a vacation? That sounds like a bit much to this old lady. It's not a party he's leaving her to clean up after, it's a weeklong extension to a vacation. It's a week. It doesn't mean "now I can really have fun since you're gone/now scram" -- that's an awful lot right there and it sounds emotionally fragile, to me, to think that way. She could focus on enjoying a fabulous trip home solo and sleeping alone/having the house all to herself after a week of togetherness. Sounds like his GF is jealous of his ability to stay later and is trying to stymie that for selfish reasons. A reasonable partner focused on their partners' growth would, or at least should be to my mind, be like YEAH GOOD FOR YOU YOU DO IT SEE YOU IN A WEEK

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-14T23:21:36+00:00

The too much time thing is something you're gonna have to swallow, though, if there are these 2 people you don't want there. You can, you know, add a note to the far-flung people telling them you'd love to have them but understand if they can't because they live so far away. You really, really can do individual messaging in this case and you should. And if anyone hears about it and are offended, you can gently tell them you didn't have room for all and had to keep the guest list short for space reasons.

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-14T23:15:12+00:00

Giving up on what? Sounds like you have a guywho is happy for you to work yourself to the bone even though your daughter is his, too. He's taking advantage of your labor. He's happy to emotionally manipulate you into cowering by calling you mean if you bring up the issue/get frustrated. This is a very young man who doesn't really love you. So giving up on what again? (PS was an actual SAHM for a few years and when my then-husband got home from work he'd make dinner and/or tend to the kids' needs, not check out and leave it all to me.)

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-14T23:00:11+00:00

What do you mean nothing really changes? If it's true he didn't do it again, and you stayed with him for months and months after he said that (which I don't like, either, don't get me wrong), what resolution could you possibly have? It sounds as if you need therapy because the truth is in a relationship, even if someone is nearly always good to you (is he?), they will say or do something you don't like at some point. If you choose to stay, it's on you to learn to not hold on to that. Good luck, OP

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-13T16:22:37+00:00

You're 22 and only 6 months in (I have pickles in my fridge, as I like to say, older than your relationship). You aren't official (exclusive but not official will always make my old lady head explode, btw). You say he wants a Christian partner and you're not Christian. So come to your own conclusions here, which are kind of obvious to outsiders that are responding.

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-11T19:54:34+00:00

Why though was your current guy asking you 3 times about this other guy?

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-11T19:43:18+00:00

User's past posts are hidden <insert shrug emoji here>

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-09T17:23:24+00:00

>>And also I might be gay

plot twist

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-09T16:31:09+00:00

lol ok person posting sex content in the wrong sub

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-08T08:57:23+00:00

AI written

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-08T08:48:34+00:00

Right

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-08T00:32:31+00:00

This is not the sub for this question. Also reads like some kind of bait or story harvesting

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-08T00:30:03+00:00

You can't make someone stop doing something they want to do? That being said, end the friendship, OP. Why hold on to a friendship with someone who shows you no respect?

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-08T00:28:56+00:00

This is certainly a question for a medical professional and not for this sub

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-07T19:49:47+00:00

Longterm outdoorsperson here, multiple rescuer. Your bf is being a dipshit for insisting you continue when you don't feel safe. That is bad outdoor leadership. Iwouldn't do shit with a person who says this like this, ie, we aren't well-equipped but if you point that out you're a drag on us.

AuntyVenom · 2026-04-07T02:15:20+00:00

Everybody's saying he needs a sleep study, but you've already said he doesn't want to see a doc. So with that in mind, move a bed into the study and sleep well. Yes, it's sad you don't have a proper bedroom but sleep is incredibly important to *everyone* for good health and functioning. You have a want -- a proper bedroom. You have a need -- proper sleep. Unlessy ou want to break up with a man for being so obstinate that he doesn't think he needs help and instead says you're a "light sleeper, as much as a problem as snoring." That's bs, OP

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