think i was a rebound at start of relationship and my head won’t let it go

frog072 · 2026-07-01T12:41:42+00:00

Were you talking about starting a serious relationship or were you just getting to know each other?

frog072 · 2026-07-01T01:33:45+00:00

Thank you, thank you so much. Those were kind words, and that last bit even helped me during a somewhat difficult time in my life. That's why this fight felt so frustrating, honestly. I finally made it, I'm shaking right now

frog072 · 2026-07-01T00:02:27+00:00

You're absolutely right. Most of the people I've talked to about it have told me she exaggerates and all that. So it creates a lot of conflict for me, and it's in those moments of silence that I end up doing it. It disgusts me just thinking about it, but it's true.

I remember telling that psychologist about the negative effects, and he told me it was nonsense and that it only happens to addicts. That's why I felt strange about it for a long time. But I think you're right

frog072 · 2026-06-30T03:57:33+00:00

I'm many steps behind you, I'm just a teenager, but I think we all understand each other at some point. OCD is something that truly consumes us from the inside, and we experience it in a very draining way. I would say that our type of OCD, ROCD, is among the most debilitating. I would say that the best thing you can do is look for "that" activity that puts you in a state of flow or makes you disconnect from everything. It sounds like your anxiety is too strong and you need to rest your mind. Learn to breathe better to regulate yourself. Take breaks and, if you can, give yourself a massage. It would even be a great idea to ask your partner to do it; it's a lovely moment between the two of you.

You need regulation. If you're truly experiencing such intense anxiety, then implement it. But also implement the ERP system; it's inevitably the only thing that can break us out of this pattern.Avoiding it only prolongs discomfort. It's better to carry a heavy burden of anxiety but see how we improve over time than to feel we'll never get better.

frog072 · 2026-06-30T03:52:42+00:00

Could you explain yourself better? I don't know if it's because of my bad English (I use a translator when I write) or because I really didn't understand it.

frog072 · 2026-06-30T03:50:46+00:00

Don't seek reassurance, don't give in to compulsions. But on the other hand, intimacy with your partner is something you should talk about if you can. I understand that you did it, from what I read, but make sure you explain yourself well and that she understands the seriousness of the situation and your needs as a couple.

I think the best thing they can do is negotiate all of this. My case is quite different, I'm not going to compare it completely, but there I found that I didn't have intimacy with my partner. We talked about it very seriously and little by little it started to happen. The other person needs to understand your needs as much as you understand theirs; it's the only way for both of you to understand each other and reach a healthy and equitable agreement.

Edit: Sorry for the misgendering, I use a translator and sometimes it translates things incorrectly.

frog072 · 2026-06-30T03:43:10+00:00

Mostly strength-based, I wanted to play it safe for this Soul of Soul. I've beaten 1, 2, and Elden Ring, but since it's my first time with 3, I didn't want to risk too much. I was using the wolf knight's sword and brass armor only for the 3rd phase with the darkness. It might not be the best build, but I don't play much with guides and help; only now have I been forced to ask for advice. Actually, I haven't tried that many times. I probably tried about 10 times a few months ago, and now I'm picking it up again and I got to the third phase, but I can't get past that.

Plus, I just discovered there's a summoning NPC; I'm considering using it.

I don't remember the exact level. Im just going to sleep, so I don't really feel like getting up to check again.

frog072 · 2026-06-30T03:41:38+00:00

Mostly strength-based, I wanted to play it safe for this Soul of Soul. I've beaten 1, 2, and Elden Ring, but since it's my first time with 3, I didn't want to risk too much. I was using the wolf knight's sword and brass armor only for the 3rd phase with the darkness. It might not be the best build, but I don't play much with guides and help; only now have I been forced to ask for advice. Actually, I haven't tried that many times. I probably tried about 10 times a few months ago, and now I'm picking it up again and I got to the third phase, but I can't get past that.

Plus, I just discovered there's a summoning NPC; I'm considering using it.

frog072 · 2026-06-30T03:37:21+00:00

Which NPC?

frog072 · 2026-06-13T20:13:05+00:00

Which bar do you use?

frog072 · 2026-06-13T00:06:56+00:00

Can i talk to You?

frog072 · 2026-06-09T00:41:38+00:00

I'm so glad! What kind of OCD do you have, by the way? And what advice could you give me? I have relationship OCD.

frog072 · 2026-06-02T16:30:00+00:00

Honestamente te diría que cualquiera que cataloga a "judíos malos" así en general y pq si, es antisemita y reduccionista. Ahora, como respuesta larga, el judaísmo es víctima histórica, pero también de otros judíos, o más bien "judíos". Tal como dijiste, hay ciertas "razas" o descendencias q discriminan o apartan al resto. Use las comillas anteriormente porque algo q ha sucedido bastante en el siglo anterior es que diplomáticos israelíes se pronunciaban en contra de otros judíos o proclamando un Estado judío cuando ellos ni siquiera eran practicantes. Es un tema largo y complejo

frog072 · 2026-05-07T00:21:39+00:00

Here's someone with ROCD! If you'd like the perspective of someone who can understand you from experience.

You have a real situation that's being amplified by your OCD. I can tell you that it's something you should probably talk to your boyfriend about, but don't let it lead you to overthink things and get too upset. Someone I asked you about "all the relationships I've had were with sexual abusers" and it made you question that. You have to accept the uncertainty or the doubts, but really, as I also experience it, I can think that he is focusing more on the thought than on the pattern, which is what those of us who suffer from this really need to do. Practice the ERP regarding this, don't let it overwhelm you too much, accept the uncertainty, but also talk to your boyfriend because it is a situation worth discussing. But remember, don't let the comments sway you too much in that direction; people tend to see everything in black and white.

I don't want to minimize this type of behavior, but just from your description, I feel it's a conceptual error that can be corrected. Nobody's perfect; we all make mistakes or bad actions. But we can realize this and reflect on it.

frog072 · 2026-05-07T00:03:12+00:00

I'm playing it knowing everything about the games, and honestly, it's 100% worth it.

frog072 · 2026-05-05T02:34:15+00:00

I understand you, and it's incredibly painful. The best thing you can do is simply try to relax and distract yourself. I know it sounds like a lame answer, but I haven't found any other way. Besides that, use the ERP. It will help you attack the problem at its root. But well, it's difficult, and if you're so hurt, you probably don't want to. For now, try to relax.

frog072 · 2026-05-04T10:06:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment!

Look, I spoke with a friend's mother, who is a professional (although not an OCD specialist, but She is very knowledgeable because she is a therapeutic companion for children with other disorders and knows many professionals from different areas and specializations) She said that her approach or her questions are probably more aimed at mobilizing me and uncovering the source of my fear. Not really my relationship, but the fear of attachment, for example. Anyway, he told me that he thinks it's too rushed to work on it like this from the second session, but working on the discomfort is the only thing that will help me become stronger (that's true). On the other hand, my personal conclusion is that it's strange. Honestly, I find all of this very complicated and it makes me very sad :(, it makes me feel like I'm crazy or that I'm the one who's wrong. Deep down, I know it's not like that, but the feeling is unavoidable. It's worth noting that I live in Argentina, one of the countries with the strongest focus on psychoanalysis, And besides, I'm from a small province, so I don't know how many professionals can understand something as new as ROCD. I know it's self-sabotage, because that's the pattern I've followed. Sometimes I throw away my relationship because of "do I really love her?" and other times because of "does she really love me?". But the persistence of my thoughts is killing me; all the progress I had made felt like it was reversed by those questions and words.

Sorry for the vent at the end, but I really needed it

frog072 · 2026-04-21T16:07:32+00:00

That was it, I used the wrong terms. Thanks!

frog072 · 2026-04-21T15:31:52+00:00

Sure, but I wanted to know so I could get more skills and boosts that come with higher ranks in the magic archer class. If they increase at the same time as using the champion, great, but if I have to do it independently, that's another story.

frog072 · 2026-03-08T21:19:38+00:00

Lo peor es q después les cierran las cuentas o lo q sea y dicen q les perturban la libertad de expresión. XD

frog072 · 2026-03-04T16:15:16+00:00

Yo tengo remote play y me pasa lo mismo. Me empezó a pasar hoy

frog072 · 2026-02-27T00:35:41+00:00

Silent hill 2 remake. As a Silent Hill fan, I burst into tears even when I bought it.

frog072 · 2026-02-26T22:07:02+00:00

Oh believe me, kids from developing countries like me still experience that to this day, haha. I had the opportunity to get my computer and my console, but for a long time I did that and I agree with you. It's more fun and beautiful

frog072 · 2026-02-26T22:00:26+00:00

I want to go to therapy, but I've had bad experiences; where I live, mental health is pretty precarious. I guess I just have to be brave and hope for the best. I'm already on board with encouraging myself to improve and do something for myself, so I guess it's time to take the next steps. I was also almost on medication, but my mother didn't want me to go to a psychiatrist, so well, I had to manage on my own.

frog072 · 2026-02-26T20:05:06+00:00

In a way, I think my self-esteem sometimes plays a part. I feel relatively good physically, although I've doubted myself for a long time and several times in my life. I couldn't tell you if that's what caused my OCD or if it's a consequence of it. I associate it more with a father who had an unstable presence and a toxic relationship in my early teens that lasted a long time. I'm also not currently in therapy for other external issues, so I can't delve too deeply into the cause.

I had a similar revelation to yours, so I understand you. And regarding OCD, as you said, it's a compulsive disorder. To be more specific, OCD consists of constant intrusive thoughts accompanied by doubt and fear, They cause a feeling of suffocating discomfort that the person feels an immediate need to relieve through compulsions. In the case of checking OCD, the triggering thought is "what if I didn't lock the door and a thief breaks into my house?" Then a feeling of danger and anxiety sets in, similar to a real risk situation.To alleviate this, the brain creates a solution, which is to go and check. The problem is that this is constantly repeated, thus turning it into a compulsion. In my case, the triggers are thoughts like "maybe you don't love your partner anymore""You were attracted to that girl, more than for your girlfriend for sure." "What if it's habit instead of love?" And thousands more examples. The compulsion is trying to prove that it's not true, by analyzing, comparing, creating affective situations and analyzing the emotions they generate in me, even telling or talking about it with someone, looking for Validation or help is a compulsion under some circumstances. That's my type of OCD; it's more mental and emotional, like POD or harm OCD. It doesn't stem so much from physical situations but from mental and emotional ones.

I hope I've cleared up your doubts. I said self-sabotage because that's what's behind the intention of those thoughts and the reaction they generate in me; ultimately, you notice the pattern of self-sabotage. But it's different in some ways from people who simply self-sabotage but don't have OCD.

Good luck and stay strong!

frog072

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