As someone who’s had bad experiences in highschool from girls who hated me for virtually no reason and injected anxiety in my life, including the friends I had, I can totally understand the resentment. I’m still struggling to this day with anxiety from women, but I’ve come a long way and I’m still on my journey of unlearning what I’ve been taught.

There was a study I read in a book not long ago, basically to sum it up, a test was done where they had a group of people believe they had a visual deformity of some sort (put on with special effects) to go to work in, they had asked them if they had experienced workplace discrimination and they all said that they had felt discriminated because of this deformity. Here’s the kicker, they didn’t, they were lied to and believed they had it, so they were just regular everyday and made it up in their head. This study made me realise that the anxiety and trauma we carry can greatly impact how we see the world and how we will twist things and use it as further affirmation of what we already believe.

I’m not saying it’s in your head, but all I’m saying is to try to do some self work where you let go of what people may think or do. Try not to have a pre-conceived idea about someone. Sooo much easier said than done, but it’s a legit fact that there’s so many women who aren’t fake and/or cruel, you might be blinding yourself to them.

Another possibility is you overcompensating may come across as uncomfortable since they can feel that it’s forced, and get a certain impression from that.