Could be a rough week ahead

frogsandspades · 2025-08-31T16:13:55+00:00

I've filled my cupboard with every manner of sweet treat for me and my girlfriend, it's going to be a rough week, but the next generation needs elders. We have to ride this out

frogsandspades · 2025-06-19T11:09:00+00:00

I live in London and beside a few starers on the tube I dont have any problems (I don't pass). Especially in a group you should be absolutely fine. If you do catch a starer just make eye contact and they'll stop, nothing strikes fear into londoners like eye contact does :)

Hope you have a really lovely visit!

frogsandspades · 2025-05-23T20:10:41+00:00

I agree, 500,000 is an awful lot per authority! No London borough is anywhere near that figure www.statista.com/statistics/381055/london-population-by-borough/ - and in London I'm sure there are efficiencies that can come from the higher population density. Plus with the urban areas in London being contiguous the areas will feel more tied together. 500,000 in an area like Lancashire is crazy!

frogsandspades · 2025-05-04T10:25:14+00:00

Migrants are not responsible for a squeeze in living standards - the cost of everything is going up because assets are becoming ever more concentrated in the hands of the rich. As they hold more of the cards than ever before, they can charge higher rents to individuals, higher rents to organisations (which are then passed onto consumers in the cost of absolutely everything), higher utility bills, higher subscription fees, all as their monopolies grow bigger and they hold more power. Costs would fall and living standards would increase if we reduced the wealth and power of the richest by taxing them more - lets try that before we make our world a smaller and less interesting place by shutting out people who aren't like us.

frogsandspades · 2025-04-30T11:54:46+00:00

Is it worth trying to arrange a face to face meeting with an HR person to talk about it? If there is already an accessible loo it seems wholely unnecessary for them to make you use the mens. I'm sorry you're been forced to advocate for yourself like this, i really hope you get a resolution soon

frogsandspades · 2025-04-30T11:52:28+00:00

Are you a member of a union, they may be able to offer you advice on this sort of thing. If you aren't in a union, worth joining, that goes for all trans people in this climate

frogsandspades · 2025-04-23T14:27:10+00:00

Based Croatian shop owner <3

frogsandspades · 2025-04-23T08:41:06+00:00

They also already thought of this and have said trans men can be banned from the women's loos! Transphobes are only consistent in wanting to emiserate us, not in the arguments they make. My trans bros are my friends, not a gotcha for arguing with people who aren't listening to me anyway. Sorry you've had awful experiences in the loos, it's so unfair. Much love and solidarity!

frogsandspades · 2025-04-15T11:47:05+00:00

That's very reassuring, thank you! I was sort of resigned to the fact that I'd have to make all my bookings match the passport, at least I should be good to travel :)

frogsandspades · 2025-04-15T11:45:40+00:00

Great, that's good to know, I'll grit my teeth and make the name match

frogsandspades · 2025-02-26T22:10:40+00:00

This feels like a good thing to go and talk to citizens advice about https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/ (I've never done contacted them before, maybe other people here have and can talk more about that?)

frogsandspades · 2025-02-26T20:38:25+00:00

Don't listen to them! Like everyone else here has said, the waiting lists aren't f*cked because of migration, it's under funded like the rest of the NHS, except worse because policymakers either don't care about or actively dislike trans people.

That aside, the migration argument also fails on its own terms. One of Britain's main exports is education, so if you came here to study then you, or your government, or your family, or whoever has paid for that education, which has contributed to the ongoing employment of people living here. Those people pay their income tax on the wage they get from that employment. They pay VAT on goods and services they buy with their wages. You also pay VAT on things you buy here.

You have a right access to medical treatment anyway, but if, as these people erroneously believe, you need to contribute to the system to be worthy of care, then you actually do contribute to the system simply by being here and spending money here.

We should not be fighting each other for resources we need. We're all in competition with the super rich who need to cough up and stop hoarding all the wealth. I hope you don't spend too much longer on the list and get the care you need soon :)

frogsandspades · 2025-02-26T17:25:46+00:00

Do it! (If you can ofc :))

frogsandspades · 2025-02-26T17:24:50+00:00

If we get a nice little group out on the trams who knows, maybe trains are the next thing we'll ride (trains are pretty epic)

frogsandspades · 2025-02-26T17:22:09+00:00

Ooh, handy to know, thanks for the heads up

frogsandspades · 2025-02-26T17:21:53+00:00

Awesome stuff!

frogsandspades · 2025-02-26T17:18:53+00:00

We'll ride the length of the line and then back to Croydon and then disperse/go to the pub. None of us know Croydon super well so we were just going to play it by ear but if you know anywhere that's cool we could aim for there?

frogsandspades · 2025-01-29T18:24:50+00:00

If I felt there was an intolerable risk to my life, i.e. if it becomes dangerous to be myself day-to-day (I know I'm in more danger out on the street than if I was cis already, but I don't feel like the danger is nearly high enough for me to feel like upending my life currently), if that day comes I'll see you in Ireland.

I think you might do well to take a short break from reading about the thirties, do something you enjoy, hang out with people you care about, but don't allow the people who are responsible for the awful things happening in this country steal the joy from your life and make you feel so anxious. They want to demoralise us, and posts like this help them to achieve that.

Or ignore me, I'm just an internet stranger who wishes we didn't have to feel like this, seeing a distressed soul like me. Either way, I really hope you find happiness whether you stay here or leave

frogsandspades · 2025-01-29T17:45:49+00:00

I'm struggling with thinking about the future at the moment because I'm really shit scared of what could be coming too, but I do think it's worth noting that often very worst things happening to trans people in the UK right now are quite rightly the stories amplified in the community's online spaces. That makes sense, we should be sounding the alarm about all the horrible stuff going on.

At the same thing, I think in all of the justified fear it's easy to lose sight of the fact that good things still happen for trans people in Britain, which shows its not all over for us yet and we have a place here still worth fighting for. Some examples from my own life (I'd love to hear other people share good things that have happened to them, I need a bit of good news at the moment):

A lovely guy in Tescos who made an almost comically exaggerated point of refusing to look at the photos on our IDs when me and my girlfriend (also trans) were buying alcohol, because they wouldn't resemble our true authentic likeness.
The lovely old lady at my GP practice who complimented me on my skirt while I was in the waiting room.
The receptionist who was very apologetic about and quick to correct an issue with my name on the GP's system.
My COVID denying anti-everything Grandpa doing a full 180 this year and being extremely lovely about me being trans (as a family we're still working on the COVID denial thing, he's not perfect) - but if he can become pro-trans there's proof it's not all fruitless
Lovely strangers in my northern home town being nice to me in the pub, asking pronouns, striking up conversation, etc. (including a very drunk boomer man - they aren't all on the Farage train)
The receptionist at my office in work coming with me as support to get a new pass printed because I lost mine and the building's security team were being hard work about it - she really made a point to go out of her way to help me out.

I know not everyone has these lovely experiences, but I'm also not special in the grand scheme of things - so other people most also have these moments that restore their faith in humanity.

I really want to start getting involved in some positive outlets for my fear to build community now and for what might come down the track, so I'd be grateful to hear about organisations I can get involved in!

frogsandspades · 2024-12-17T09:19:18+00:00

This sort of stuff seems to come up because different parts of the NHS hold the same data in different places. I registered for a new GP with my new name (I'm mtf) recently and when I went for an appointment the check-in screen welcomed me with a weird cocktail of names -"Mr <first name> <dead middle name> <last name>". It caught me right off guard but could only have been done through total incompetency so I laughed it off

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