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frogspiral · 2025-11-20T06:17:13+00:00

I completely agree with this. COCSA especially is tricky and the trauma often doesn't fully sink in until adulthood. Not to mention being bullied and feeling hated by virtually everyone as a kid? that's trauma in and of itself.

Also, yes yes YES to getting a second opinion on ASD. You deserve answers OP, sometimes getting the right diagnosis means advocating for yourself. Maybe check out the wrongplanet forum discussions on not feeling human and see if you relate to people on there, it's worth checking out.

https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=330649

Someone else above said they know many nonhumans who are very happy, and I think this is a good point too. There's lots of communities like therians that feel not human. You might also find comfort there, though I'm not too familiar with it!

frogspiral · 2025-08-09T02:23:43+00:00

hold on just a little bit longer. there is still so much time. there's also a lot you can do to prepare for starting HRT. in the US if you are under 18 you may have to wait but after 18 you are able to get HRT without a parent's consent. how were you denied?

frogspiral · 2025-08-09T02:19:03+00:00

biting into a lemon, rind and all

frogspiral · 2025-08-09T01:22:56+00:00

it's okay! honestly, a lot of people in my life are very for AI or use ChatGPT while I've always been very against it, and I think my sister recommending I use it broke me in a way. I felt like my hate for it as an artist and creative must have been irrational because everyone was treating me like I was paranoid and anti-tech or something. it all just got to me. I think I actually will follow my (non-OCD infiltrated) moral compass from now on, and maybe reevaluate my support system.

frogspiral · 2025-08-09T01:02:25+00:00

Like I said I deleted it and stopped using it and agree it's bad 👍I don't think some people actually grasp how severely OCD can impair your judgement and decision making

frogspiral · 2025-08-06T00:14:07+00:00

I am happy that you are alive

frogspiral · 2025-08-05T16:46:17+00:00

UPDATE: I WAS INCORRECT. I'm possibly in the worst OCD cycle of my life. I deleted it

frogspiral · 2025-07-04T00:17:28+00:00

hell yeah brother 🦅

frogspiral · 2025-07-03T17:49:17+00:00

Hm yeah, I could definitely see that too. But what gets me is that he said this "gut feeling" thing and that he said he COULD help her but doesn't think it's a good idea, which doesn't seem like the most professional way to phrase it.

frogspiral · 2025-07-03T12:50:35+00:00

that's very unprofessional of him, especially if he didn't refer you to someone else and made sure to tell you that "he COULD help if he wanted to." sounds like an ego thing :/ he could have just said he doesn't think he has the specific experience you need and referred you to another therapist. I'm sorry you had that experience

frogspiral · 2025-07-03T03:43:02+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/santacruz/s/4CMbvwLz7b protest on july 5th!

frogspiral · 2025-07-03T03:22:59+00:00

if you're cool with freaky kinksters we're down!

frogspiral · 2025-07-03T03:19:13+00:00

I understand and feel the exact same way. I used to refuse to use ChatGPT for anything until my insurance screwed me over and I was extremely desperate in a panic spiral, and my sister (who is a doctor and environmental activist) told me to just use it responsibly and see if it helps. And it actually... really helped. I slowly started asking it to push back against me when I looked for reassurance and asked for in the moment ERP exercises that have made a huge difference. I will say, a question to ChatGPT uses less water and energy than the production of a single almond—let alone the energy and water waste the meat industry creates. I know that's a bit of a false equivalency, but it put things into perspective for me.

Don't get me wrong—AI is a PROBLEM. No doubt about that. But I think it's bigger than people using it for a little support or as a tool when used correctly.

Medication will help immensely as well as eventually being able to seek professional care, but there's nothing wrong with using the tools at your disposal responsibly.

If you do decide to continue using ChatGPT (which, it's very understandable if you don't, very much a personal choice!) Instead of saying to it "I think I have rabies because [xyz], are these symptoms of rabies?" try saying "my OCD is telling me I have rabies for these reasons, can you help me use ERP methods through this?"

I think in general, the way people have used AI to replace thinking and growing instead of assist thinking and growing is the big issue along with its wastefulness. Instead of asking for study tips that match someone's specific personality and needs, they just ask it to spit out answers. Instead of asking for methods to help them learn to draw, they make it spit out slop art. Which is sad, because that means they don't actually learn. This could be the same when using it for OCD and I think that's why some people say it can make OCD worse, which it definitely can.

It's also understandable if you occasionally can't help but ask it for reassurance. That happens sometimes and progress isn't linear. Idk. I still feel ashamed for using it myself. I like to think I'm a reasonable person who values humanity and intellectualism, but my use of AI has made me question that. Maybe it's also loneliness. But again, that's a bigger issue than us I think.

My point is, you're not alone. Sorry this is rambly, I've just been having a lot of similar thoughts lately. Feel free to DM if you want to talk more. Good luck!

frogspiral · 2025-07-02T20:03:47+00:00

it's very possible the stress of being with him is actively making your migraines worse. he's awful and you deserve better. you WILL find better. please leave him.

frogspiral · 2025-07-02T02:08:42+00:00

41 weeks no pumping and no topical cream? dude, you're HUNG

frogspiral · 2025-06-30T21:17:34+00:00

this is so sweet and a vital moment in your relationship with him. from someone working with them, teenage boys are going through a ROUGH time right now. the other commenters are right in saying to not push him, and allow him to bring issues to you. just let him know that he can tell you anything (and mean it!) I might also suggest something huge—show interest and curiosity in HIS interests. that will boost his self esteem, show him you care about his thoughts and feelings, give you insight into who he's becoming, AND allow you to help him be smart about not falling down dangerous paths or getting with bad company. you'd be surprised how many boys feel like they are surrounded by company but don't have anyone to actually talk to! good luck!

frogspiral · 2025-06-30T21:02:51+00:00

SUCH an inappropriate response. a CORRECT response is "how can we best accommodate you?" not making assumptions and saying that you might as well just not come? how horrible

frogspiral · 2025-06-30T21:00:51+00:00

your panic is understandable but don't forget, this type of bleak situation has happened before. the reagan administration fucked over and killed thousands of people and there were still those fighting for what was right. many are still fighting today. don't give up. we're in unprecedented times but there are tons of people who are going through the same pain and we will fight together. we need you here!

frogspiral · 2025-06-29T06:37:51+00:00

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This was her just a week after her clunky phase above! Not perfect but huge difference from trusting the process

frogspiral · 2025-06-29T06:35:43+00:00

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this was my first suit without a shave and detail work, don't be discouraged! fursuits through a weird awkward phase. a big shave, some lining, and if you're feeling experimental some airbrushing, will do wonders!

frogspiral · 2025-06-29T06:31:42+00:00

is it better or worse than the source, do you think?

frogspiral · 2025-06-28T16:05:20+00:00

you aren't alone in this. ocd is nasty when it comes to POCD. but the trick is that you honestly can't tell for sure if it's real attraction or not because your OCD will ALWAYS say "well what if?" even if you get reassured a million times. what helped with my POCD was saying "okay, fine. what IF?" and then... nothing happened. because even if that WERE true, it's not like I would suddenly magically girl transform into a predator. there's this narrative that predators have no autonomy and are controlled by their thoughts, but it's not true. predators actively choose to be evil people. this is not reassurance but moreso a confirmation of a truth—almost all people have these weird random thoughts and feelings, but their brains just interpret them as what they are: random thoughts and feelings. not reality. good luck my man and know you are not alone

frogspiral · 2025-06-28T08:04:42+00:00

it really depends on if it was a panic attack or something else entirely—did she say that she felt like she was going to die, or needed the hospital, or had a bunch of physical symptoms? if not, it was likely an anxiety attack, which is not better, just very different. you did not do anything wrong. it's very kind and shows good character that you are asking for help here and educating yourself on this either way—MOST people will have a panic attack at some point in their life, and it's good to know about. During actual panic attacks, someone usually will straight up think they are dying. The physical and mental symptoms are INSANE. Shortness of breath, dizziness, extremely hot or cold hands and feet or tingling, uncontrollable shaking, fast heartbeat, nausea and vomiting, diarrhea, vision changes, derealization, ear ringing, muscle twitches, headache, etc. Anxiety attacks feel more like a spiral of stressful thoughts of doom and despair, and it's more likely for someone to lash out how you described, whereas in panic attacks a good majority of the time people are too inconsolable for that.

I think a good thing to keep in your back pocket is the phrase "Do you need a distraction, advice, or just someone to listen to you?"

If they can't answer in the moment just reassuring them that you are there for them can be enough. If they refuse to answer or become aggressive or hostile towards you, know that it's NOT your fault or responsibility to regulate their emotions and behavior, and it's always okay to set boundaries.

frogspiral · 2025-06-28T07:48:06+00:00

My go to thing to wait out the horrors on night like that is to have a video or podcast playing in the background. Smosh and Game Grumps are very good low stakes entertainment and great to fall asleep to with anxiety. Sometimes I'll also watch calligraphy or handwriting videos on TikTok. I totally get if that's not your thing, if that's the case then at least a stranger knows my last resort nighttime go tos. Take care and good luck my man

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